How Emotionally Healthy Are You?

Emotional health is defined by four markers: our degree of self-love, of openness, of communication and of trust. Watch our film to interrogate your level of emotional health.

FURTHER READING

“One way to start assessing how badly we have been knocked by our early years – and where we might therefore need to direct most of our repair work and attention – is to identify a range of markers of emotional health and imagine how we fare in relation to them. At least four central ones suggest themselves…”

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[puapiipatuwai]

A wise man once told me back in nz he said if you have a problem sing, because you'll realise your singing is a bigger problem

[channelforpositivitylunder]

The *sad reality* is...
Most of our societies don't understand the importance of emotional/mental health..
Just physical health..
:'/

[arisbariffi]

That guy in red brought me to tears! I can feel so much empathy when I look at him. We are all that guy and we should love each other more.

[rind]

I am proud of myself for growing from the broken person I was for so long and still am in many ways, but the change is there. All love.

[danielalien]

I feel so bad for the little red stripey guy… he looks like he’s having a tough time

[BabyBugBug]

This got me to fully realize how emotionally immature I am. Thank you.

[michaelcox]

The middle finger definitely made me laugh 😂😂😂😂

[marsmemory]

so, what you're saying is that my emotional health is equivalent to lung cancer

[sonal]

this made me have an existential crisis

[idklolnow]

In response to the comments that imply attention seeking is a bad thing: I honestly think seeking attention isn't bad at all, it probably means that we're seeking help. And seeking help is the first step to getting better i think, we just need to find the right place to get it (and I know how hard it is to find what works). So please don't feel bad for seeking attention, it's much better than being completely reclusive. I wish everybody good luck.

[kannan]

Emotional health
1. self love
-know my self worth..-if I think it's a okay then fine
-leave an abusive relationship
-dare to admit fault
2. degree of openness
-be open to believes and stick on values

3. communication
-talk well, assertive communication
-misunderstanding

4. Trust
-close to catastrophe
-how tightly we need to cling..
-how save the world is..
-or settle for inathenuicty

[marimon]

I am a highly sensitive and emotional personand it makes my life messy. I hate that.
*Does anybody else feel like crying for no apparent reason?*

[m_winewood]

About 2 years ago i went through this major existential crisis where i became almost entirely disillusioned with myself and completely stopped lying to myself about who i was, where i wanted to be, and the gap between those two things that was caused by my own flaws. Realizing how hard it is to admit youre wrong EVERY time youre wrong, realizing when youre fuckin up or when youre just wilin and need to calm down in the heat of the moment. Its insane how difficult taking responsibility is. World shattering. At first i wanted to die. However i got through the initial shock and now i can feel myself getting stronger. Ive never been this strong. And ill be stronger tomorrow. I dont care whats happening to you. Do not give up. I wanted to and i didnt.

[xxphoenixx]

I obviously do have some emotional problems and I really wish I could seek help, but my parents and almost nobody knows I am actually depressed.I try my best to present myself as a funny, energized and decent person, but inside I just feel worthless.

[xeraza]

The comment section is in a sorry state.

[spiritedrenee]

My mind is broken and I don't how to fix myself. I feel like I'm the one who needs fixing. I'll never be accepted here but I can't leave. Personally I've always had a positive out look on life, but myself on the inside I'm depressed.

[togp]

*sees video in recommended*
"I'm sure this'll be good"
*sees first step(self love)*
"Lmao no"

[JessMaccain]

Love this video and a word of kind advice to others - Accepting your own emotion and "perceived faults" is really really important for your own benefit, even though in reality it is not socially acceptable on many occassions. I have in the past been called "too straightforward, have no filters, aggressive" at workplaces and personal life. However, that's actually unfortunately a combination of "me wanting to be authentic" plus "however, I did suffer low self-esteem and had childhood trauma issues". So in real life, I admit that self-healing and "wanting to change" is rather difficult, because there are many obstacles and hurt along the way, as you seek to change. It's not like the world is going to immediately smile and hug us, when we decide to "come out". I remember the only reason I kept going was my belief that authenticity is good, and that I'm going to do it at all cost. I accept that I may look like a bad person in other people's eyes, but if I AM genuinely a bad person and my authenticity attracts attention and criticisms, then at least I'm on the road towards healing, because other people will help me if I make myself visible. So after all these years of making myself visible regardless of public image, I couldn't be any happier now because help keeps coming my way (even though in very harsh forms sometimes) and I become more mature and content. Most importantly, it is the feeling of "me coming to the world with the authentic me and getting some feedback in return" that's so damn good -- real engagement, raw exposure, at all costs....Even though I shed tons of tears in the process - they are authentic tears and I feel very connected to myself, even though I'm looking like a looser from appearance. But that is what I call REAL happiness.

[abhishah]

Looking at the state of the comment section, PSA:
The video is not asking whether you are Emotionally Healthy as a yes/no question. This rhetoric wants to incite a self debate on four important qualities, various angles to them and how we fare in relation to them. The first part of solving the problem, is to understand the problem like your friend. Everyone is fucked up but not similarly. While you may have social anxiety but you also don't have criticism issue (and so many more). In a way, Alan wants you to do a self check up - mental one, just like doctors do with checking your pulse and response. So don't just watch the video - sit back, close your eyes and understand it. That's important. Chio :3

[laylammorais]

Reading the title as “how emotionally HURT are you?” already says a lot...