To Narcissists, Lying Is A Necessity

Narcissists will try to pass themselves off as the ideal to be envied. Yet, as you spend time with them, their problems with honesty become apparent. Dr. Les Carter describes how their carefully crafted image would fall apart without their ongoing lies and deceptions. It is a pitiable strategy for finding acceptance and influence.

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Dr. Les Carter is a best selling author and therapist who has semi-retired to Waco, TX. For 40+ years he maintained a counseling practice in Dallas, conducting more than 65,000 therapy sessions and many workshops and seminars. He specializes in anger management and narcissistic personality disorder.

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[JR-ejup]

Oh Yes. They Lie and then Lie that they're lying.

[sifusubtitles]

They live a lie and rage if you don’t play along. Pitiful creatures.

[tbunnyshy]

Lying gets them what they desperately need (admiration, feeling of superiority, material things, “gotcha” moments, etc.). They keep their various lying masks on real tight. It manipulates situations so we love, pity, surrender to, react in any way, etc. When we stop “believing the lie” they destabilize or try to “lie better”.

[sandrathomas]

They lie even when the truth would better serve them 🤔

[ryanunderwood]

Lying is a necessity because their whole life is a LIE!!

[shannontennyson]

..they lie, and they claim to be the most genuine and loyal person on earth

[victorkroud]

I asked my ex narc, “Why did you lie?” I received this answer, “Because I didn’t want you to be upset.” I was lied to for my own comfort and protection? Obviously they cannot hear themselves when they talk.

[WisconsinWanderer]

I never knew the exact extent of her lying until I finally left my narcissist. I was stunned! But she always preached honesty in our marriage what a crock. So glad I’m outta that madness! Old Gus there was wondering “who’s he talking to” thanks Dr.C😊

[judyosowa]

Thank you for free therapy l been destitute during divorce this has been life saving listening to you helping the helpless

[patriciafry]

Sometimes their lies are manipulative-to get what they want, or are part of future-faking.

[Annenigmatic]

After I moved out, my covert mom was in need of more supply & started going to Al-anon meetings & prayer groups to "get support for her drunken husband, " my dad, who did not drink. It disgusted me, and proved there are no bounds to the lying & lengths that a narcissist will go for supply.

[eagleeye]

Narcissism should be classified as a form of insanity. No person with any degree of psychological balance could a) convince themselves it's okay to delight in using, harming and ultimately moving to destroy people. And b) be taken by demons because their behavior is so amoral they've thrown out the welcome mat to negative entities that can use them-- like someone who gets in and drives a car.

[lynnfincham]

They lie when they don’t have to lie 🧐

[teresadvorak]

They lie to people about you when you go no contact, then they pretend they are the victim. Trying at all angles to destroy you & make you look horrible to others😮😢😮

[lalaniARTblue]

"You didn't tell me that That's exactly what they do when giving you their fabricated version of their ex. They create a version that makes them appear to be the victim. They will change this version from time to time just to keep you feeling confused and insecure. And understand clearly that the version they create about 'you' for other's to hear...as well as your own children to hear...is no different. They want to keep everyone in a FOG of uncertainty. They are devious and have no loyalty to anyone.

[mehitabel]

My mother, who was a textbook narcissist, lied constantly. Yet oh the joy and gloating if she ever caught anyone ELSE in a lie!

[mommaboombam]

Lying has no room in my life. When you learn the techniques that are used to manipulate you, you get better at spotting lies from others. Stay strong everyone. Close that chapter and move on in life without them bc you deserve better. Amen 🙏

[secondhorizon]

When they're not lying ~ they're not trying.

[newsflash]

knowledge is power and the narc understands that... lying is also about staying in control.

[deborahrichardson]

They tell a story/ lie then get mad and frustrated you ask something about said story later. ( Because they can't remember what lie they told to be able to repeat it back the same)