HIDDEN Autistic Rules (that your ASD spouse will never mention)!

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[markhutten]

Downloadable programs:

Coaching services for autistic male partners:

Coaching services for neurotypical female partners:

Coaching services for the ASD + NT couple:

Individual coaching services:

Access to “Members-Only” videos:

Parenting resources:

[michelestanton]

So where is the “relationship”. Nowhere. That’s where.

[cdoh]

It's a very one sided relationship. I listen intentively to my fiancé about his special interests and his rants. I even try to involve myself in his special interests. But I can't do the same? ... it's very, very, lonely.

[shareenbornemann]

Mark, from one 67 year old to another; not only do you bring clarity to the world of autism, I just can't help chuckling at some of your shorts! Thank you for making me smile today! God bless!

[psiloki]

Glad me an autistic married a autistic man. All our opinions are the same, we have our own interest and it stays that way. He appreciates what I do because it makes our house unique. We both interrupt each other but we don't care and so much that would upset others doesn't bother us. It's equal.

[itsallgravy]

Maybe just be friends and not spouses 😮

[gothicprincess]

I'm an autistic woman and my husband is a neurotypical. Honestly my husband does all these things. No man wants to talk with you about the conversations you had with your girlfriends at lunch. And most men don't want to talk about your feelings. I can assure you that my neurotypical husband has absolutely no interest in me if I interrupt him while he's watching sports on television.

[rsh]

Is it hidden?

I'm not convinced - it's pretty blatant and out there and clear from the first few days of dating someone.

If you can't put up with it, then better you leave and find someone else - because it's either not going to work or it's going to be a lot of work - and if you're not committed, then there's plenty of other folks in the world.

I don't like to be harsh, but all I see on these sorts of videos are people moaning about their spouse and what's wrong with them - they signed up for it and expected it to change - and it's not exactly an unknown thing that people with ASD have their special interest. Sure they can learn to listen - but when you've got a spouse who doesn't do anything but moan about how awful you are - why bother?!

It works when both sides want it to work - so if you want it to work - then take the hard work and don't blame your partner!

[suetegland]

1) He was raIsed to be nice. So i get 'glad you enjoyed your lunch out", or "glad you're enjoying your hobby'. Condescending, but not too off-putting... 2)Opinions/motives: he either listens and gets on the defense, or adopts what I say verbatim because he doesn't think that much. 3)Doing his stuff: he shushes me quite rudely. He worked at home, so I learned early on to not interrupt anyway. 4)Feelings stressing him out: He wants to defend whatever i'm upset about so I take to my journal quite often. Other ways to get along with a NT! married 55 years and separated 3 times.

[PraveenSr]

I have a limited range of interests also

[passinthru]

It’s pretty much a one sided arrangement, folks. I don’t want to call the union a relationship, because in a relationship, both individuals relate, but with these beings it’s all about and for them. It’s definitely on the narcissism spectrum, regardless of the presentation of the ASD. The fact that ASD is towards others what is withheld from NT is revealing. I still believe there is a spiritual deficit at play. I encourage everyone affected by this behavior to research codependency, childhood traumas, borderline disorder, because there’s a reason we hooked up with dysfunctional arrangements. It’s not healthy. It’s unevenly yoked.

[Veilfire]

And then they are shocked if the wife has had enough and divorces them 😂

[dawnkelly]

I recently moved away from my ND -I could not reconcile the fact that his special interest was lust- pornography & masturbation…… as a blooming & committed follower of Christ- i could no longer yoke with this man after 6 years-at first i second guessed my decision & attempted to save our relationship but now I thank him for refusing to marry me