10 Life-changing Lessons from The 5 Love Languages by Gary D. Chapman | Book Summary

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What’s the one book that will have the biggest impact on your relationships? The 5 Love Languages!

Today’s book summary and book review: The 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman. This book will rock your relationships. If you read only one book that will have the biggest impact on your relationships, it’s this one! Gary Chapman’s amazing relationship book has influenced millions of couples worldwide for decades. You might also consider getting the full book for this – it’s killer!

Special note: This book is not just for intimate relationships. The book works great for every relationship you have (co-workers/family/strangers/sales / etc).

Here are the best 10 ideas from “The Five Love Languages” by Gary Chapman.

★★★ BIG 10 IDEAS ★★★

(2:15) EMOTIONAL LOVE TANK
Metaphor like our car has a gas tank, our love life has a love tank.
keep this tank full. If we neglect our love tank, we’ll start to get bigger problems.
we need love… stats show we’re not too good at it:
40% of marriages in USA divorce
60% of second
75% of third
What’s happening? Where do we go wrong?

(3:45) DON’T BE IN LOVE
Falling in love is the opposite of what we should strive for. That honeymoon style chick flick/notebook rain make out scene.

(8:00) LANGUAGES OF LOVE (LEARN THEM)
Quality Time
Words of Affirmation
Physical Touch
Gifts
Acts of Service
In order for the other person to feel loved, we must understand and speak their love language to them. Otherwise we might as well be speaking in Chinese when they understand English.

(10:00) QUALITY TIME
This language is all about giving the other person your undivided attention. Most “typical” love language.
HOW TO & TIPS:
Intentional date night - schedule it in!
Avoid routines. Relationship killer.

(12:45) WORDS OF AFFIRMATION
This love languages uses words to affirm other people. Not just words - but deeper reasons behind them. Give them the “WHY” “I love you” vs. “I love you because…..” or “Great job with that project” vs. “Great job with that project - you put a lot of time in it shows”
HOW TO & TIPS:
Focus on giving one killer compliment x a day.
Compliment in presence of peers / brag about them in front of people.
No longer “Thank you” it’s “Thank you for….”

(15:15) GIFTS
Not materialistic. Not diamonds everyday. Gifts can be cards, can be flower, can be favorite soda from Trader Joes.
HOW TO & TIPS:
Remember important dates.
Focus on thoughtful ness behind gift.
Keep log in your phone if she mentions something she likes - order it in bulk one day, disperse over time.

(18:00) ACTS OF SERVICE
For these people, actions speak louder than words. My dad: Would do my laundry and clean my room. Wash my car. This was his love language.
HOW TO & TIPS:
Don’t be lazy - pisses this person off like no other.
Cook them dinner. Do their Laundry. Make the bed. Clean their space / room / desk / etc.
Volunteer to help out more.

(19:30) PHYSICAL TOUCH
To this person, nothing speaks more deeply than appropriate touch (not bedroom only).
Hand holding / hugs / PDA / etc.

(22:00) FIND YOURS

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[tamrieanncagley]

Great summary! Thank you so much for all the work you put into these videos.

[MariahFan]

So true about the gifts. My love language is gifts and I don't need expensive things, I just prefer to receive love in a distant way like that and it shows me that you do care when you take the time and money (sometimes) to give me something that made you think of me or that you thought I would like

[mandouhMM]

Thank you very much Clark for the simple down to earth Review. Loved it.

[robertwhall]

Thank you for recording this video Clark. I've read the book, and I recognise that you've given a thoughtful and comprehensive summary with some new examples.

[ktsls]

LOVE your book reviews!! The sound was fine on my end. The length wasn't too long. Thanks!

[sf]

This is one of my favourite subjects... LOVE! ❤️
Wow Look at all your books, awesome! Looking forward to listening to the top 10 tips...thanks for the recommendation xxx

[fazewasp]

Enjoyed that !! so true, appreciate the effort you put in to making the video 👌🏼

[NateAmado]

Awesome, thank you for making this. For all of these. It's a good refresher since I've already read the book, and I can see how it would be a good primer for books I haven't read yet.

If I remember right, my top 2 love languages are words of affirmation and physical touch. I appreciate how you gave practical examples for each.

[lauraluna]

omg ..thank you for taking the time to put this together...iv been trying to finsh this book...and you did an awesome job summary the chapter's up.

[ThePfindley]

awesome video. Thanks for the profound clarity.

[dynamicdefensemartialarts]

hey Clark really appreciate all the information you have under your videos

[vickielarson-hills]

Enjoyed this overview because it gave the highlights. Will be ordering the book!

[alexanderarango]

I really enjoy the way you explain things Clark. God bless and thank you

[AY-lvwe]

Thank you very much for making a great video on this very important subject of interpersonal relationship. Well done.

[thabilenxumalo]

Wow! And I have those table topics..👏🏽 Thanks so much for the big ideas! Really great to listen to and pick pointers!

[tamarabengochea]

Great explanation, very helpful. Thank you for sharing ❤️❤️❤️

[TaniaSeabock]

OMG!!! I love your mom! She was so smart! Thanks for the video! :)

[natashabanky]

First, physical touch and second, quality time. This video is invaluable. I just rewatched it.

[oldsoul]

Love love love this book! One of the top favourite books. Great video

[fashionbliss]

I read this book a few years ago with my husband and needed a refresher, thank you!👍🏼😊