10 Life-changing Lessons - The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen Covey | Book SUmmary

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Today’s book summary and book review: The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen Covey. The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People is one of the best books in self-development. Stephen Covery’s classic book has been influenced leaders for decades. You might also consider getting the full audiobook for this - it’s killer!

BIG 10 IDEAS:

(1:20) HABIT 1: Be Proactive
Close the stimulus response gap
What do you WANT (not don’t want)
Focus goes energy flows - focus on goal not problem
EX: Housekeeping in College

(3:00) HABIT 2: Begin With The End In Mind
Funeral Test

(6:20) HABIT 3: Put First Things First
“Things that matter most must never be at the mercy of things that matter least” -Gothe
Make a “Not to do list”
M.ost I.mportant T.ask
Am I being busy or being productive?

(7:30) HABIT 4: Think Win-WIn
5 Potential outcomes: w/w w/l l/l l/w or W.
The best outcome: 6th WIN WIN OR NO DEAL
Negotiating salary? Selling car on craigslist? Compromises in Relationships?
Win / win or no deal.


#RefusingtoSettle

[calisongbird]

9:16 Habit # 5 “Seek First to Understand, Then to Be Understood”
This absolute critical thing here is not just to go through the motions of “letting someone talk” or “making them feel heard” in a superficial way. It’s to ACTUALLY, authentically listen to and digest what they’re saying. This is an important life skill to develop if it doesn’t come naturally to you.

Most people can absolutely sense when they’re being placated or manipulated because someone is using a technique from a self-help book. I know I can. People are generally not stupid, and can sniff out phoniness. That’s why salespeople and the sales profession in general get a bad rap. So much of it is just manipulating others to get a particular end result - including to pretend to listen to them; going through the motions of it while actually thinking about what you’re gonna say next.

I love Stephen Covey’s book and happen to be re-reading the updated 30th anniversary edition right now (which contains his son Sean’s insights after each Habit section). I can’t recall right now if Covey addressed this concept of authenticity vs. phoniness, but I think so.

[Linda-hqwo]

I love when you have notes.  Sometimes I write out an outline with space, but usually just the headings so I stay engaged and listen more for other points.  I read this book soon after graduating, ( I always have kept notes on self-help books), and still find myself using the 'four quadrants' to do my weekly and monthly to do lists.  Sharpening the Saw has always been important and even fun for me.  I was the nerd in grade school that did extra stuff for the fun of  it - esp. when  mom told me to show the teacher and she gave me some extra points!  Thanks for the review.

[napa]

I your book reviews. I always listen to them after I read the book, as a recap. You're my book club. Thank you for quality content every time.

[secondaccount]

Independence Self Mastery.
1 Be proactive

2 Start with end in Mind

3 Put first things first.

Interdependent social Mastery Habits. Think like a team Co-operate, Help Share. Win Win deal, there is abundance.
4 Think Win Win

5 First try to understand and then to be understood.

6 Synergy. Differences among people and opinions should be valued & used for advantages.

7 Sharpen the saw before cutting down the tree to save time. Sharpen and take care of Physical, Mental Cognitive Knowledge, Spiritual, Social Situations.

[amirh]

I am so so glad I found you!! been binge-watching all your motivational/journal/health videos for hours and omg It's so uplifting, and I love how you're serious and funny at the same time. awesome work man! keep it up!!

[mjstowe]

I read this book a while back and really enjoyed it, but probably like many, didn't incorporate as much as I should have. Well jump ahead several years and I am in a position at work that requires me to deal with many different people. From direct customers to my Department heads, managers and supervisors to the hourly employees that are so vital to our success. Watching your video just now I realize that I do incorporate more of this book than I had thought. The one Habit that really stands out to me, and I use it every day, is Idea #5 "Seek first to understand then be understood". I was one that if someone came into my office and went on a rant I would tell them to have a seat, calm down and just keep quiet. I would then lead the conversation based off of minimal knowledge of the issue at hand. Sometimes that would be OK, but most times it did nothing to correct the issue. Having watched your video I realize I have changed my way of handling these situations. When someone comes in angry and venting I tend to just keep my mouth shut and maintain eye contact while I listen to their full rant. When I know they are done I then can offer my thoughts based off of their full perspective and there is no doubt that the other person is actually listening to me. It is such a better way of handling an individuals concerns and I had changed to this method without even knowing it.
A person will certainly listen much more to what you have to offer when they know that you have really listened to them.

[carprincess]

This is great! I enjoy how you shortened the audiobook/book to 10 lessons learned. This was especially great since I JUST read the book and needed a quick overview of what I listened to for the past couple of weeks

[nawalalmashhad]

Amazing presentation! Made me understand the seven habits very well
Thank you so much. Well done

[Deleted-qd]

Hi Clark, I love your videos!! Great idea with condensing and giving us the abridged versions of all these great books!

[YuniorGamboa]

Hey, Clark thanks for the clarity. I had trouble grasping some of the points in this book and your video made them more clear to me. Thanks, and love your channel.

[paolocarlos]

Awesome work Clark.Thanks for sharing! Even if ive read some of the books its great to hear how you explain it point by point, clarifies the context better

[teacherdavid--eatplaylearn]

Thank you, Clark, for putting all the IMPORTANT notes in your description. So easy to find and follow...and even find new gems in there !😆

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[Fernando-hphp]

Thanks, your videos are helping me in my daily work activities.

[yesiownfrodo]

Nice job! I've watched this twice. It's excellent.

[GreatSkillsforKids]

Love your book reviews. Very helpful and inspiring. Thank you!

[adarshjadhav]

You explain concepts simply, but if we take a minute and think about it, it gives very deep learning and awareness of what we can improve. So please keep explaning things in such manner so we can think about it and try to be better.

[greggluchy]

great job! Really enjoyed your summary. Thanks!

[HaKuMei]

I'm a new subscriber and I am so so glad I found you!! been binge-watching all your motivational/journal/health videos for hours and omg It's so uplifting, and I love how you're serious and funny at the same time. awesome work man! keep it up!!

[AnnaKwonda]

Thank you for your videos, Clark. Simply mind- and life-changing.

[rhondamartin]

Just discovered you, Clark! Great presenation - love your presence. Will be buying your book 11 Questions. Thanks for being there as I begin another creative journey. Rhonda