10 Life-changing Lessons from THE SIX PILLARS OF SELF-ESTEEM by Nathaniel Branden | Book Summary

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Everybody wants more confidence. Wouldn’t it be nice if there were six traits that could double yours? Going over those in This weeks book review: The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem.

The 6 Pillars of Self-Esteem is a classic book by Nathaniel Branden. This book summary and book review of "The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem" will go over the BEST 10 IDEAS from Nathaniel Branden's book. You might also consider getting the full book or audiobook for this – it’s killer!

★★★ BIG 10 IDEAS ★★★

1. Arrogance vs. Self Esteem
Put your mask on first. Can’t give what don’t have. Arrogance is comparison-based (ironically a sign for rather low self-esteem)
Self-esteem is self-love based (taking joy in being who you are without the need of comparing yourself to another person)

2. Kill Your Inner Pessimist
Signs of low self esteem: A) Self fulfilling prophecies B) Self sabotage C) Nothing is enough
Confidence is not automatic state. Brain 2M years old designed to keep us alive. Looking for what’s wrong constantly. RE WIRE THIS = confidence.

3. PILLAR I: Living Consciously
TAKE AWAY: Don’t live life on autopilot. Practice awareness.
EX: 32,850 - number of days till 90. The days are LONG but the years are SHORT.

4. PILLAR II: Self-Acceptance
EX: Tighten up or Loosen up? Stop beating yourself up! Only animal punishes ourselves repeatedly for same mistake. Improve on what you CAN change - forgive what you CAN’T. Would you hang out with you? Voice in head. (kick ass if someone that negative!)

5. PILLAR III: Self-Responsibility
STUDY: Shock experiment - Learned helplessness = Dog's response. Non-victim. Control over your life. I am 100% responsible. I am 100% in control.

6. PILLAR IV: Self-Assertivness
Stand up for yourself. Believe in you.
IN BOOK: Affirmation: “My life does not belong to others and I am not here on earth to live up to someone else’s expectations.”

7. PILLAR V: Living Purposefully
Have a goal - strive twoards things in life. Grow or die.

8. PILLAR VI: Personal Integrity
STORY: Coach playing sports stuck with me: “Clark, character is what you do when no one is looking”. Voice ringing in my head - wash dish in sink or leave for roommate to find. Go extra mile at work even though won’t get credit. Put effort in at check out even though leave in 20sec.

9. Ditch The Need to Look Important
“To find it humiliating to admit an error is a certain sign of a flawed self-esteem.” ~ Nathaniel Branden

10. Top Affirmations and Mindsets
I have a right to exist.
I am of high value to myself.
I have a right to honor my needs and wants, to treat them as important.
I am not here on earth to live up to someone else’s expectations; my life belongs to me. (Also, no one is here to live up to my expectations.)
I do not regard myself as anyone else’s property and I do not regard anyone else as my property.
I am lovable.
I am admirable.
I deserve to be treated courteously and with respect by everyone.
If people treat me discourteously or disrespectfully, it is a reflection on them, not on me. It is only a reflection on me if I accept their treatment of me as right.
If someone I like does not return my feeling, it may be disappointing or even painful, but it is not a reflection of my personal worth.
No other individual or group has the power to determine how I will think and feel about myself.
I am worthy of happiness.
I am “enough”.
I am able to rise again from defeat.

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"No other individual or group has the power to determine how I will think or feel about myself." Thats powerful! Love this summary.

tornedsky
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"Mistakes are not grounds for self-damnation." great quote!

elisabethschlarb
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I have used the quote "I am loveable, I am love able" it's also really cool to look yourself in the (in the mirror) when you are telling yourself these things!

cluebug
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Number one thing is to not take life too seriously. Life is your playground don't be the kid who doesn't play, and just sits there.

mm-hqvv
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To me, the root of all and most important pillar of self esteem is self love, which he mentions as the 7th pillar . Also recommend reading “Love Yourself Like Your Life Depends On It” by Kamal Ravikant .

xcencal
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I read the book years ago and felt it was a great book, I recommend it to everyone. Nathaniel Brandon in his book said a confident person is benevolent because he or she knows who she is and has nothing to prove to others. The book was enlightening if you want to improve yourself as a human being.

annacfd
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You forgot the 7th pillar he added at the end of the book, which is the love for your own life. Great review, I really admire it!!!

sharayahya
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"My life belongs to me" wow.... love that! ❤

camelia-idelcadi
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“ Not to get woo woo” lol. Even though many hate to admit it, on some levels, the woo woo works, and you just admitted to it😊

gracegiles
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I really like that would you hang out with yourself one. That point really makes you immediately aware and is such an easy shift to make. When you say negative thingsin your head just stop saying them and say something positive.

bogusshmogus
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One of the best growth mindset videos Ive ever seen! Thank you!

kp-uplr
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Underrared author. All his books are gold.

TheCrusaderRabbits
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Love how well you break everything down. .plus you're freekin easy on the eyes

silviatunnell
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dude! your efforts are showing in everything word you speak.. keep growing my friend... nice progress and thank you...

awakeking
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"Character is what you do when none is looking...", It's powerful.
"Living Consciously"... This is one of the coolest ideas, I am practicing that idea... When I came back from my office biking, I can close my eyes for three seconds and drive blindly and realize I am on my bike and I will crash if I am not alert!, I enjoy that feeling!

jonjfm
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What a great video! Really interesting and I loved the personal examples. Finding it difficult to decide on the best point as there are so many. But the affirmation 'I am enough' really hit home. Thank you.

alisonclark
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Absolutely loved this video. Thank you so much for this valuable information Clark. Lots of love from an Australian 🇦🇺😀

mohdshahnawaz
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Clark, been following for several years now on and off. Going to start watching videos here every day. Always love the content!! You're a great dude, keep it up

smproductions
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Love love love the idea of there being two types of people in the world- those who need tightening and those who need loosening. Boy did I need loosening 10 yrs ago- yay loosening! I'm a different person🙌🏼

SusiePettit
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Thanks very much. I appreciate hearing your summary. I learn well with short audio pieces.

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