only you can fix yourself, no one else can save you | journal entry ep. 6

hi there, we are finally back with another journal entry video. In this episode, I talked about how no one can save you from your problems. It would be so easy if others can fix our issues but they cannot. In this world, only you can save yourself from all the things you are scared of. Others can help, but you need to do majority of the work.

anyways I hope this video spoke to some of you guys. I love you all and I will see you guys soon! Have a lovely rest of your week babes

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“So if you need a hero
Just look in the mirror
No one's gonna save you now
So you better save yourself
And everybody's hurting
Everybody's going through it
But you just can't give up now
'Cause you gotta save yourself” - Kali Uchis

[midnightaesthetic]

When I was younger, I’d always relied on the “idea” of a boyfriend/partner/friendship to save me. And that’s what drove me all my life. Until I realised this year when Id worked towards my goals and exams this year - that I could change and live outside that box I created in my head and start living for myself since no one will catch me. And it gave me so much hope for the future from the past trauma I’d gone through with people

[legallybrunettemee]

If you ever feel lonely, just remember that there are trillions of cells inside you, that literally can't live without you

[arusu]

It’s hard to learn that you can be a good and bad person base on your choices rather than your feelings. I sometimes get stuck between the victim mentality or hating myself because I don’t as the bad guy. I’m learning that I’m not good or bad, I’m just make good or bad choices.

[gabrysiag.]

I saved myself two weeks ago.
I'm the eldest daughter from a toxic family and from a small town. Six years ago I met my two best, closest friends through the Internet and it helped me to see that there is actually a whole world outside of my hometown. I never wanted to live there, and thanks to them, I could see more of my country. Their friendship was the most valued thing I ever had. But then... two years ago, one of my friends started to drift apart from our trio. And just like that, a year after trying to fix our relationship... we stopped talking at all.
Thank God I had my other friend and after that, we just got closer and started thinking about moving out of our family houses and living together. Moving out was one of the hardest things in my life. It took me half a year and I counted every day. I did everything to get out. I cried bc of what my father told me but then I clenched my teeth and told myself "Just 151 days, just one more month, just one more week..." And now, I'm on the other side of my country, living in a small, quiet flat with my best friend (and her cat). No more home drama, no more chores that are more than I can bare, just us and this new chapter in our life.
Sure, having a best friend in those hard times in my life was so helpful bc I could always tell her everything, every time that I cried bc of my home, every time I got angry and depressed. I tend to overthink a lot so having her was like a safe space outside of my mind but still connected to it. Of course, she still doesn't know all the details, how really hard it was. But it was enough.
It's easier to live with someone you know and trust. But I did it mostly for me. I saved myself If I didn't make the decision, and really move out, I'd still be there, not living my life but serving my family and dealing with their problems. Now I can fully breathe, do what I still love to do, and think about the future less scared.
Please, save yourself if you can. Don't wait for your future lover or your best friend. They can help you from afar, but the decision has to be yours. To save you. Take care.

[ditto]

You’re like an the older sister figure we never knew we needed, thank you

[Esmesatan]

"After all, it is yourself the only one who will stay with you" When I feel lonely I always think that and try to enjoy being alone. 🌷😺

[bluehourcore]

as a wise person once said, ‘“you’re on your own, kid. you always have been “

the wise person being taylor swift but genuinely i feel like that song really encapsulates the message of this video like!! you can cry and cry but ultimately you have to take the first step.

it also reminds me of something my mom always tells me. she says, “i can help you reach a 7/10 for anything you want to do/ achieve. but i can never get you to a 10/10, no one can. only you yourself have the capability to get there. whether you get there is a choice YOU have to make.”

powerful message via!! thank u for this video <3

[saidivya]

"Just because you made a few mistakes, you're not a bad person if you're willing to change for the better."
I needed to hear that. We're often so harsh with ourselves and can be our own worst enemy. It's important to remember you got yourself for life, so might as well become best friends with yourself <3

[camille]

I have stuttered my whole life and I am so insecure about it that I actually never really lived like I wanted to. I've always hoped for a miracle or for someone to save me from my disability and this video really made me realize that I need to accept myself and start to live the life that I want because nothing will change if I don't do anything. I deserve a beautiful life and I need to create it myself ❤ thank you Via

[haleysnote]

I've been on a self-healing journey since I was 18. Currently, I am ongoing 23 and I'm at a point where I majorly regressed and now I just sit around waiting for life to happen. To be saved. The way you talking about it made me open my eyes to how I have been currently viewing my life. I rely too much on others and hope that things will just fix themselves. I don't want to have to be the one to fix my hurt.
And, I want to want to get better. Which isn't quite the same as wanting to get better. I want to want to do the things I need to get to a better place. But I just don't currently.
My victim mentality and social isolation have made me very comfortable in my misery and loneliness. I can't get hurt if I don't go out, nothing can be worse than me wasting away "helplessly" and comfortably uncomfortable. 

I know I will never get the justice I deserve; or the apologies I seek move past from what triggered my regression. That everything I ruminate and cry over will never take me back to the time I was getting better before I crumbled. But I know I have the strength to overcome the pain just like I did at 18. I just need to start being responsible and more accountable for my actions and choices that have left me feeling stuck. And healing isn't linear....sometimes I tend to forget that.

[im_just_vidu]

It's important to understand that "You can be wrong too". Maybe you're blaming on others everytime, but sometimes you also hold responsibility on that. I strongly believe in that to a point it becomes so negative to myself. Now I'm more like "I'm the wrong one, you're right, this is my fault" type. But that's bad too. Accepting your own faults when you made them is important, but blaming yourself always even for others' mistakes won't to any good for you. I should fix myself on that.

[beautyshines]

TRUE, nobody can fix nor change the chaotic life or the shortcomings of other people. It's only themselves that can make their life better.

[sillyfluffysheep]

Im not an adult but as a teen I really needed this. I'm currently starting my journey of healing and shadow work because I also realized like... I have problems and I NEED to fix this now and learn about it so when I get older it doesn't become worse.

I started journaling and being kinder to myself and I can already see the difference. I know I am making progress of healing. However, I still have a crap ton of procrastination.. And Im very aware and its something I know I just need to discipline myself to be happier.

Its not easy, I can still act stupid or get angry at myself for immediately not veing good at something whicj is where alot of my procrastination stems from.. But I'm aware of these things now which will make it at least a bit easier to understand "Why dont I want to do this despite it being something I want to do?"

Its definitely not gonna be easier but im so excited to stary thjs journey and hopefully be able to look back one day and be proud of how far I've come <3

[m.feracosta]

This is like in Harry Potter when he thought his father was the one saving him and Sirius and not, at the end was himself with his strength.
This video is exactly what I needed you're the most relatable person out there for me. ❤

[ivyboodoo]

😓😓 when you said i didnt asked to be truamatised, i started tearing up and i started to look back at my younger self she was disrespected and abused and her emotions were invalidated , as an adult i'm trying to fix myself and heal..

thank you via this video was needed today.

[boriso]

"you need to start no matter how shitty it is"
and the following sentences made me quite emotional.

I barely comment on videos but i just wanted to share how comforting that was to me. We rarely are perfect at something in the beginning, right? Well ive just realised: that also goes for my healing journey. I know its silly, it should've been obvious but it was not! Now i feel enough courage to continue and feel less alone. One more thing is that starting (anything) was always a big struggle for me even if i had the motivation. Thanks to your vid i now feel enough to continue. Truly, thank you.

[cheyscornerr]

via, if you made a podcast on your journal entries i would listen to them for hours. they are so motivating, inspiring, and really what you need to get going through your day. they are honestly the realest things on this app

[anthonymangino]

Everything Via Li is saying I’ve been telling people this for over 25 years. You are you and if you want to be your own person & have your own feelings, your own thoughts, your own ideas well you have to start living your own life. That means you are responsible for knowing what’s right and what’s wrong in your own life. It’s ok to make mistakes, just don’t follow in the same footsteps as your parents or anyone else in your family. It’s ok to make stupid mistakes when your younger, we all have made them, especially financial mistakes. I’m 51 years old and I’m totally all alone and I love every minute of it, I have no more family or friends anymore and I love it. My family and friends had a lot of problems that they created when I was younger. I left all of them in 2001 & 2017. Your never too old to learn something new and start a new life for yourself. Don’t stop your life to help anyone that doesn’t want to help themselves. Make a list for yourself and change your mindset and your life.

[hopefarawayy]

this showed up in my feeds at just the right time. i realized i was getting too comfortable being stuck in my depressive state. for me today, it was as simple as "i don't have to be stuck in this energy" to set myself free