The FATAL Mistake You’re Making That Keeps You Unhappy In Life (And How To Fix It) | Mel Robbins

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When you see people having things you want and doing things you want to do….

Do you tell yourself, “That will never be in the cards for you.”?

🛑 STOP DOUBTING YOURSELF 🛑

The second you tell yourself, “Why bother trying, that will never happen for me,” your inspiration evaporates. You kill your dream. You invalidate yourself.

The only reason it’s not happening is because you keep telling yourself it won’t.

When you give up on yourself, you give up ALL the things that are actually meant for you in this life.

TRY THIS:
➡️ Allow that feeling of envy or jealousy to propel you forward to take action.

➡️ Understand that you GET to want those things and you CAN have them but it’s going to require ACTION.

➡️ Next time you see someone with something you want or doing something you want to do, tell yourself, “I CAN get it - I just have to be willing to put in the work.”

You are 1000% capable of doing the things you dream about, having the things you desire and putting in the work to make them a reality 🚀

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[reflectionOfLyf]

Jobless after graduating from University. Girlfriend dumped me. Staying alone in different country. Full of Debt.. Nothing was working. Lost hope. All of these happened during covid. Wanted to hurt myself. But then did 5.4.3.2.1 for few days.

Started changing my life in bits and pieces. Now Working for worlds top Tech company in the world in Cupertino, CA. Cleared all my debt. After struggling for 15 years, I am not obese anymore. Lost 50+ pounds.

Point to be noted. We need to believe what we want to do. And keep working. Never quit.

[ClairePenettiere]

Sometimes it does not matter how much effort you put in your goals, if you live in a poor, corrupted country then your opportunities will be extremely limited. But not to complain, I still haven't given up. Thank you for all your support. Very much needed and appreciated ❤️

[andreasrydell]

Also remember that you can't always be happy, soemtimes you will be sad, feeling low in energy and that's okay! And thinking that it is wrong to be there and that we should always be happy, can be the source of the pain we go through to begin with. Cause feeling a little bit down is part of life, and makes the good times that more profound in the end cause we went though something. This is not an excuse to not get things done, but to feel a sense of peace no matter what you're going through right now. Keep going for it!

[chrishdez]

There’s a balance between denial of instant gratification (and many people ruin their lives for short term gratification) and feeling deserving of something you’ve earned

[belindahuber]

If only it were that easy. Outside factors, not under our control, often derail our work. 😞

[calvin]

I am taking care of my elderly parents, who have no money to live in a care home, I can't get out of that, somethings you CAN'T change, it's that simple, there is no one else.I had to quit my job to care of them I am working hard to find happiness inside my reality but I can't change my reality, no matter what.

[ruchika.]

*Whether you believe you can or can't, you're right.* We often forget that the reason someone else has what we wish to have is because _it all starts with a dream_ They had this dream and they took small actions everyday which compounds to big results overtime. So instead of being overwhelmed, we just need to BELIEVE that we can do it and then actually go out there and do it.
I loved this video Mel. You're incredible! ♥

[sakshipriya]

Hey Mel, I was just debating whether or not I am worthy of getting into my dream college.
Well, you cleared it for me.I AM!

I will write back a few months later to tell you how well my hard work paid off.

Stay safe and thank you for changing lives.🌼

[staballoy]

Mom always said, “can’t never could.”

[aaronwatson]

Mel Robbins, this is not complaining....just stating real facts, . As interesting as your advice is, taking action when your plate is quite full can be quite costly. In 2017, I nearly lost my life from trying to balance new job training that was very extensive, spending time with my kids, songwriting (kept me smiling), and working to keep my car on the road (I needed the car to get to my place that was out in the country which was cheaper than living in the city and better for my sanity). At that time, my heath was good, yet I strangely had two strokes, and lost 25 lbs which took a long time to regain My two health specialists both pointed out that a little of everything, which was a lot, most likely caused my strokes, even with my positive outlook. I was a crushed man. It was tough, and getting my mobility back was very difficult. I still have some physical issues now and then. Taking action for what you want, like good job security, and everything else on top of it can cost you your health. So, when I was more or less capable to return to a semi-normal life, I backed off of the job training (unfortunately), lost my car because I could no longer afford it, and had to move somewhere that's not ideal. This is not to provoke a pity party. I still have dreams, but if it takes more work than my already 10 hour schedule per day at work, I'll just have to tuck my dreams in my pocket until God offers me a break. I took action on changes to better myself three times in 10 years. I was a positive minded, hopeful and determined guy all three times. The last one cost me nearly everything I had. Even with your best thoughts, best efforts, and best education, dreams are not guaranteed. Maybe one day, a dream will materialize. Maybe. I am very positive and yet i need to be a realist....at least that keeps me sane. Constant optimism nearly killed me. Literally.

[gra]

The things I used to want I don't want anymore and even though I can have them doesn't mean I should want them A fulfilling relationship with God is what I want and need and that's the foundation of more peace and a rich and rewarding life and even with this you gotta out the time in to develop this Mel is Great !!!😃🙏😘❤️

[grasshopper]

Thank you, Mel! I woke up stressed and needed something to calm me down. I was reminding myself of my recent success but wasn’t feeling my own power. I really needed this. I hope you’re having a wonderful day! 😀

[WhatsThePoint]

I think we all tell ourselves “it won’t happen for me” is this. Many of us who were once extremely motivated and fired up got shown by life that too does end. Everything else is just one letdown experience after another. It’s tough once you’re in the hole looking up at the light.

[Bluesnakes]

Love this message. I applied this to my romantic life… I kept telling myself it won’t happen for me, & denying what was already in front of me! I just needed to allow myself to have it and put in the work for my marriage. I love Mel ❤️❤️❤️

[Candeekissez]

Hi Mel, love your blouse. You look so pretty. Luckily, after 68 years of life, I've realized I can have what I want. As long as work for it. It won't be handed to me on a silver platter or show up at my door. It's all about me. TY

[andrewraynlowry]

Needed this reminder!! I put this video on a loop and will continue listening to it until it sinks in!!

[nicolemichelleofficial]

Love this, Mel! ❤️ I took action last year and started coaching people leaving or who have left narcissists in their lives. It was the best change I made and I get to have what I want-work from home while helping others and creating programs and digital products that serve others! Mindset is everything. 💪

[pinkmoon]

Shes such a gem to be putting this out in the universe. May her days be full.

[mygirlfriendcosmic]

How does someone in less than 3 minutes give such good advice. Much respect.

[naturalLC]

the people complaining in the comments, have you watched the video? She doesn't say you're unhappy because it's your fault, she's saying most of the times it's the lack of self-esteem we have and the fear of failure or takingthe plange, it's the mean voice in our head that says "it'll never happen for me" etc... she's not saying you're unhappy 'cause you want to.

also love and family life are another thing. You can't control the family you're born into, trust me I know. You can, however, choose how to react to the situation you're in.