Why You Need Instant Gratification

In this clip from Tim's 60 Characteristics of Complex Trauma series, he highlights one of the most common traits in people with Complex Trauma: Instant Gratification. Why do we seek instant gratification? Is it greed, or survival?

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Chapters
00:00 Coming up
00:28 ALIGN With Yourself
00:58 Instant gratification is a characteristic of complex trauma
03:40 How does a child make decisions?
05:35 The limbic brain and instant gratification
06:35 Working out of your cerebral cortex
08:45 Complex trauma's effect on delayed gratification

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[scottfw]

Perhaps a bit of a tangent, perhaps not ; when people say they do not have the patience to make model trains or build model kits I say, "Oh, but it's not this big long thing, it is actually bite-sized bits of instant gratification that all add up; there, I put paint on the wheel; there, I glued that axle on; there I glued that shock absorber to the axle; there, I glued the other side shock absorber on; there, while that glue dries I put paint on the other wheel; there, while all that dries I sanded the mold seam lines off the front seats; so forth and so on. 😄

[jacksimons-oq]

Exciting video, A year ago I took the no contact route, well i wouldnt say it didnt go well, but i missed her and sometimes you have to leave your comfort zone and go for what you want, Without knowing and having a huge ego, we might actually miss out on our soul mate all in the name of not settling for less, I know who i am, and at the same time i know what i want for me, so i did all i could to get her back, and I must say, it was the best decision i have ever made, we have been together again for over 7 months, yes marriage isnt always rosy, but i am lucky to have her, just as she is to have me, we compliment each other.

[mixedlag]

So basically it's a matter of over riding. At least that's what it sounds like.
When you're in fight/flight chronically though, eventually your nervous system will shut down and keep you in a state of what looks like chronic freeze. Afraid to do ANYTHING. For fear the rug will be pulled out from under you no matter what action you take.

[davart]

It's all about recognizing the basic and natural and forgotten need to feel safe and at home under your skin. Addiction is an unconscious way of wanting to reclaim that rightful need .

[indigo_dreamz]

Woooow this!!! 💯💯 I reached a better understanding of myself because of this video

[thetinypineyfarm]

"Instant safety" meant 'cut and run' for the majority of my 55yrs...the limbic brain is almost impossible to shut down until I became aware of choosing different scenarios for long term peace... its a lifetime battle 😢

[TCBytom]

Nice lecture, but author made some mistake describing physiology. Cortisol is not released in the brain. it is hypothalamus that releases corticotropin-releasing hormone (CRH), which travels to the pituitary gland, triggering the release of adrenocorticotropic hormone (ACTH). This hormone travels to the adrenal glands, prompting them to release cortisol.

[MMJ-odsh]

This explains why I saw my byf stuck as a child at the end of our relationship. He just cut & run . & ransacked his home . Blindsided me totally out the blue to his behaviour. Even to the point he said if he wanted me back he would never try & learn to live with it . Such a super ego that has cut me to the core !

[jasxaf]

Tim's social media team catching up with the times finally 😆

[thecatlikeprincess]

This could explain why my parents don't want health insurance because they'd rather spend money on meat and alcohol and entertainment

[tiasims]

Instant gratification is normal. Who wouldn't want it?

[knutandre]

if grown ups knew not to go for instant gratification, there would be no obesity epidemic or any other selfdestructive behavore.. most never grow up !

[gulliver]

Thank you Tim. I know this sounds critical but I don't know how else to say this. I know you are standing on a stage but you come across as shouting which becomes difficult to listen to.