Instant Gratification - Complex Trauma Sixty Characteristics - Part 2/11

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Tim talks about how some of us fall into the trap of always seeking instant gratification.

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[formerfundienowfree]

I love this guy. He doesn't even have to refer to notes. It's in his heart because he has such a desire to help people. Thank you so much! For 35 years I've tried to figure out what's wrong with me. I sought professional help many times over the years. Nothing got to the root of it until I learned about complex ptsd less than a year ago. One (Christian) psychologist refused to discuss my childhood and even told me I didn't need to acknowledge or process my trauma. He said my problem was that I just didn't understand God's love for me. One year wasted with him. I am not a drug addict. I have had a successful professional career for 30 years., but my trauma has taken a HUGE toll on me. I am so glad this information is finally coming to light. 💙💜💙💜

[simplypositiveme]

So 1) safety above all else.
2) instant gratification 3) impulsive 4) emotional stuffing 5) don't care about anything/ numbing/ fear and anger running my life / emotions lead to dominoes falling and into relapse 6) stuff everything including positive emotions and then shut down conscious/ harding a heart. 7) distractions 8) addicted to chaos and drama...thinking healthy life is boring. 9) fantasy world

[rpmcmurphey]

I was trained from as young as I can remember, that everything was my own fault...
Un learning this hurts and angers me so deeply, but also delivers so much peace at the same time.

[petervisen]

I discovered Tim Fletcher about a month ago. It was an eye opener and explained why I have had such a miserable life. I am almost 70 now and it is too late to change anything. At least I can now happily await my soon death and be released from all the pain and humiliation with the knowledge why it was so terrible to live. I am glad I never got the chance to get any children so one will continue suffer.
Some people just take the bad lotto ticket in life and are just born complete losers from the start and never got any help in time to change it. That is life which can be very cruel. I am glad that will die soon.
But Tims work is of course very important for those that can be reached early in life...

You are such a lovely man. I think all of us want to tell you our stories so we ca reach a crossroad and start again in a different direction and do it right. I'm 84 and was recently traumatised again, financially this time. it's hard to get over feeling kicked to the kerb. and going back to five again, or 15 again or every day in between, Nice to be able to tell someone, though.Thank you.

[SarahDale]

This was the first time I've ever heard anyone say anything about leaving the body and floating up at the ceiling while the body is being abused. I had that experience. Of course I had to go back in the body, and for years I felt like I had died, but the body kept on going. It was hell.

[JCImageInc.]

Thank you so much for this. Its painful to see how I have been, but I have hope now.

[frizzyrascal]

He described me perfectly as an Emotional Stuffer. I numbed myself down for over 10+ years. It was an up and down. I smoked for years, nicotine pouches that gave me a numbing buzz and borderline alcoholic. Thank God I broke free from those, but the pain is still heavy.

[Hollysuzette]

Its so true about the cortisol and fight or flight. In 2020 a fire swept into my town with fierce winds. In our minutes we had to grab some nessesary items...our brains wouldn't really work. ..i even said, "i cant make my brain work!" Other people who fled that day said that their stupid brains wouldn't work either. All we were good for was fleeing.

[jayrideau]

🔆THANK YOU TIM 🔆

GIVING ME MY LIFE BACK

[WanitaLund]

Thank you, I'm struggling with a spending addiction, I'm constantly fighting and struggling. I'm so tired, I want to be a better person than I am. But I don't know how, but this is helping thank you again

[Granny-ow]

Christy is learning how to be healthy by the grace of God and the dude who is a gift from god Tim Fletcher

[Maruzzela-lu]

Instant gratification..i love these vids so much.when i hear a truth it hadnt dawned on me its an EXPERIENCE that realisation which changes me within.of course experiencing something is the real value versus listening to words that make sense .even so i dont have the patience to feel it and let it sink .i keep hoping i ll hear this one truth that will change everything whereas i realise now its almost like bricks our psyche our heart is a construct not a fleing idea

[tendo]

A friend who healed from pathological depression referred me to these videos. I have given several videos a listen and it is making sense. I'm also officially neurodivergent, so this is also an interesting mix. Over a decade of therapy over esteem issues and perfectionism, and a tendency to remain in my own low self esteem in other areas besides my job. The first friends in childhood were Christians who showed me true friendship despite trauma.

[haidyyousif]

Cant Thank you Enough 🙏for Knowledge you Share.

[yourenough]

Another great video. Lots of aha ( thats me kind of moments, ). I am surprised this hasnt had more views. Thank you.

[morganmayfair]

I think one way of creating drama is to carry that inner critical voice around with you all the time. Being criticized feels normal, so if no one in your life is being that way you can still flail yourself and all the chaos is inside you.

[lynettetehuia]

Thank you
Fabulous learnings
Great presentation 😊

[raticsx]

your my guy best iv listened to brilliant stuff.

[JuliaShalomJordan]

This is powerful information. Thank u so much❤