Want More From Someone? DON'T CHASE & Do This Instead... | Matthew Hussey

On Today's Episode:

Ladies, we are the boss at creating a story about a person before we even have the first date. This leads us to drama, disappointments and feeling totally blindsided often for situations we could’ve avoided had we done this one thing.

Matthew Hussey is masterful in how he delivered massive truth bombs about men and dating to help women better manage expectations and avoid heartbreak. His YouTube channel is clearly a fan favorite with close to 3 million subscribers and almost half a BILLION views on his content.

This bite sized nugget is packed with all the truth some of us really needed to hear today. Matthew lists the 4 Stages of Importance in starting a potential relationship, and highlights our special skill for creating stories when we’re dating and the trouble that really causes.

Let’s stop creating stories and jumping to conclusions and start doing this instead.

“If the reaction is hysterical, it’s historical” -Unknown

QUOTES:

“Instead of watching a story unfold, we’ve created the story before it’s happened .”

“Instead of going in with a curiosity, we go in with a conclusion.”

Follow Matthew Hussey:

[LisaBilyeu]

WARNING: I will never ask for your contact info in the comments section, that is someone impersonating me!

[charlieaugust]

If someone ghosts you, respect the dead and move on

[outroseok]

it's crazy how much power a man you didn't even know 3 weeks ago can have over your emotions and mental health.... I was fine before I met him, I'll be fine without him.

[gulpari]

If he wants you, he’ll make sure you know. If he’s playing around and making you feel confused, he isn’t serious with you.

[kaylaxx]

Heavens!! Ladies, all we need to remember is: if a man likes, you will know it. If he doesn't, you will be confused. It is that simple.

[kaicanyonellis]

2:30 "Instead of watching the story unfold, we've created the story before it's happened." That's fire right there.

[nikevabrown]

Men are simple. Men go after women they want with true intention. If a woman is confused about where she stands with a man that’s all she needs to know. Confusion means he’s not interested….period! Men do not need help pursing women they ACTUALLY want. Take heed!

[GodHelpMe]

Giving the same energy that you're getting
is key

and if you don't like that energy
then move on.

It can be hard
but that's when you need to choose yourself

over the damn illusion/fantasy.

A man who loves a woman will not ignore her, ever, period.

So...

If he ignores me

I will step back

and he will lose me.

Simple. Simple.
Non-dramatic
and uncomplicated.

I don’t, under any circumstance:
play these childish-abusive-controlling
mind games.

I will only be with a man who values and appreciates me,
and treats me as the Queen, I AM.

(Daughter of the Most Hight; King of kings!)

Because I am a beautiful and kind and divine
and sexy and wise and intelligent and magical woman:
who knows my worth.

Period.

[ElsonEntertainment]

And just because a man wants you does not mean that he's good for you or he wants you for the right reasons!

[missykasi]

When I met my husband I literally "interviewed" him to see if we were compatible. Values, beliefs, moral standards are what keeps you together through all of life's difficult moments.

[og]

How about instead of "reading into things" or overthinking and worrying about what the other person is thinking or doing or feeling, we just be honest with each other. Jesus christ, the games people play.

[cherylross]

If a man wants you, you'll if not you're not the one!😮😢 Don't chase people who are going away have some respect for yourself. It hurts but chasing isn't the answer

[BreNichols]

I let my ex leave and live his life and I went on to live mine. I learned to accept that I may be alone for ever and became ok with that. 2-3 yrs later, he came back and showed tremendous changes in behavior from the way he was treating me before. Turns out he went and dated someone much worse than me and realized how good he had it with me. Now he’s doing everything right.

[Joshualuv]

I find as a woman that often guys give mixed messages because they throw u enough attention to get u into bed, but then not enough for pursuing a relationship, which becomes clearer as it unfolds but gives one hope initially.

[CrystalDatingCoach]

Love is not what you say but what you do.

[Jdancejoy]

It’s more than that. Our nervous system craving safety we don’t have within ourselves.

[moka]

all my romantic relationships have been built on stories, fantasies of what I want the other person to be and not reality and its taken me 40-years to realize this. This was a great video to show me the process that relationships need to go through to become something real. Thank you!

[stinabo]

Good points and so true! Have to keep these stages in mind. 1. Admiration 2. Mutual connection/ chemistry 3. Commitment/ both saying yes 4. Compatibility ❤

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5:02 slow down the story happening inside the brain by valuing the work that has been done in real life, don't value the potential.
5:38 4 stages of importance in potential relationship.
1) Admiration- not important,
2) Mutual Connection/ Chemistry- not important,
3) Commitment, saying yes to be in a relationship- not important,
4) Compatibility- important

[kathyokelley]

Love this, "if my reaction is hysterical, then it is historical".
Stay present, let the real story unfold, without filling in the details. Simple truths can change everything!!! Love this!