EVERYTHING I wish I knew before having a baby. (what no one tells you)

#motherhood #newmom

I didn’t anticipate it being this difficult yet this wonderful…

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Chapters:
Intro -
The adjustment -
Postpartum psychosis, rage, anxiety & sleep deprivation -
Breastfeeding or formula -
Postpartum body image
Postpartum libido -
Outro -

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There Will Be Rain - Million Eyes
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Haze - Million Eyes
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Hello everyone, welcome to my channel! I'm Jasmyne Theodora, I'm an Orthodox Christian and I make content about the art of femininity (from a virtuous, Godly perspective), lost female education, and traditionalism. Please do subscribe if you enjoy my content and thank you so much for watching.

FAQ:
Height - 5'9"
Race - Biracial (black & white)
Religion - Orthodox Christian
Background - Bachelor's degree in psychology
Relationship status - Married
Location - Pacific Northwest
Favorite book about femininity - "Eve in Exile"
Some favorite Bible verses - Proverbs 31, 1 Peter 3:3-4, 1 Timothy 3:11

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(if you see this, comment an unpopular opinion of yours!)

[P.Whitestrake]

As a son, this makes me appreciate my mum even more.

[steelresilience]

As a future husband and Dad, this is a gem of information.

[mizzhelloo]

So glad you spoke on the psychosis...

A friend of mine began to hear voices and experienced moments of random rage due to her sleep deprivation and its very sad to witness.
I didn’t realize how common postpartum psychosis was.

Moms need help!

[ogechukwundukwu]

Well done dear. It truly is not easy. In Nigeria (south eastern), the mom of the new mother and mother-in-law take turns to cater to the new mother at least for the first 6 months. At times you get other relatives rally round to help with cooking, cleaning and other chores. So the new mom just eats, sleeps and feeds her baby. Even baby care (bathing) is also done by the mom. They also guide you on latching and other things. For you to do all that alone, it can take a toll on you. I am glad you are better now.🌺🌸🌺🌸

[ThisMamasHouse]

I have 6 children and can attest to how hard it is but how it’s totally worth it. And the more babies you have the more your love multiples. It’s amazing!❤

[ashleyjones]

Me: 🤔✍🏾✍🏾✍🏾
Also me: Caught between wanting marriage and babies, yet also appreciating the liberty that I have a a single!

[kelsi]

I’m 38 1/2 weeks pregnant and this was SO hard to hear… I wanted to click out because some of it is terrifying. However, I’d rather be more aware of these things so I can self monitor and ask for more help before things get too overwhelming. Thank you for discussing these topics ❤

[ofentsentshabele]

This was me. She's 11 months old now but I wish pple talked more about what it's really like. It's eye opening, shows u unhealed areas of ur childhood etc. But it also shows you how strong you really are

[celestialmorpho]

I am incredibly grateful for this video, although I am not a mother yet. Thank you so much for being so transparent and sharing the unadulterated, truth of motherhood and your experience. The psychosis part is some thing that I empathize with, as I helped foster a newborn baby for a year, and it was such an experience. Motherhood really is 24/7.

[carolinegregus]

One of the best things I did after birth of my children was having a post-partum dula (my mom) to run the night shift for the first two weeks. My mom stayed up and held my babies while I slept. Then she would bring them to me every two hours to nurse. This allowed me to actually *sleep* at night so I had energy to care for my baby during the day. And also meal-trains 😅

[TakaraoftheElves]

My husband and I are planning to try for a baby this year. I am 1000% sending him this video, because you did an amazing job explaining everything that I simultaneously didn't know about and need him to understand.
Congratulations Jasmyne, you're doing fantastic!

[Oceanagal]

Postpartum is brutal. I’m a pretty healthy woman but nothing could’ve prepared me for how much it would f*ck me up

[samarabharath]

Even as a woman who’s not yet a mother, I really appreciated your candor and transparency in this video. I do think about being a mother one day, but you definitely brought to my attention some of the realities to expect, at least within the first six months of giving birth. I think a lot of women, and possibly men, idealize and fantasize about becoming parents and forget that there is a season of being in the trenches with your newborn until you find your rhythm and they eventually grow into a routine that matches yours as an adult. Anyway thank you again this was so enlightening and illuminating ❤

[thatjoyfulmama]

Thank you for sharing this video and being so raw and honest about your postpartum experience. I felt so much of what you were feeling but during my pregnancy. It was a terrible time between the changes in my body, the lack of support and emotional abuse from my sons father, and being far from my family. It was hell. I struggled so bad with depression and had those same thoughts of harming myself to stop the emotional pain. Thank God for bringing me through that. I think after all I went through it was by Gods grace alone that He allowed me to have a smooth transition into motherhood once my son was born. This video really helped me understand what most mothers go through and how hard the adjustment period and breastfeeding can be.

[marianatho]

You described everything I have been feeling... Thank you, I now don't feel so alone.

[b-yl]

I needed to hear this. I’m so excited for motherhood but I’m naturally very naive to the experience. Definitely mentally preparing myself. But I know it’s gonna be worth it.

[wolf-cjeb]

*In India*

when a lady is pragnent before one month to baby comes
one person from the girl side of the family or maybe from the boy side of the family comes leaving all work just to help the women who is pregnant and usually the person is who has an experience with babies before .

All the care of bady is done by the lady, just the brest feeding is mom's job's
And in that ....
She is told various remedies if there is any problem she is having is brest feeding.
Later she is explained how to give a baby bath properly etc *like full baby course is given to the newly mother*


And all this is must to be done
Or is a tradition to help the mom

[kayzzzjayyy]

I've literally just overcome every element that you described my baby just started sleeping through the night at 12 months and just like that my hair is back, skin is back, libido is back, sense of humour, no more aches and pains. 😢😢😢 I'm not an emotional person but I literally burst in to tears watching this 😂😂😂

[nataliecolombo]

‘Love lived here’. I’m sat listening to you whilst holding my 7 week old baby and this phrase brought tears to my eyes! What a beautiful phrase, I’ll be reminding myself of this.

[savannahscott]

This was so comforting to hear, reminders are so important sometimes 😅
I just had my first baby five weeks ago, and the sleep deprivation was real. The sleep-deprivation-induced tear-filled breakdowns were real too 😅😂
One of the most helpful things for me as far as getting adequate sleep has been is taking turns with my husband. No, we don’t really get to go to bed together, but getting a guaranteed 5+ hours of sleep a night while in survival mode is totally worth it.
And even at the 5 week mark, I can confirm, it gets WAY easier. There’s hope, mamas! ❤️