Why You Can't Feel Loved For Who You Are - Teal Swan -

In this episode, Teal Swan explains why we can’t and don’t feel loved for who we are. She explains the origin of self-hate. Most of us don’t feel like we can be loved for who we are. As a result most of us are inauthentic. Teal Swan explains that we can’t feel loved for who we are because most parents only mirror a child when they are doing something and thus only associate a child with what they DO, we only associate ourselves with what we DO. Our entire identity becomes about what we DO. That becomes our sense of who we are. As a result, it isn’t even that we believe we are what we do. It is that we don’t feel like we exist separate from what we do.

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Teal Swan is a revolutionary for personal transformation and is one of The Most Spiritually Influential Living People in the world. As a renowned author, speaker and social media star, she travels the world teaching self-development and teaching people how to transform their emotional, mental, physical and spiritual pain.

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Kuan Yin's Mantra (c) 2002 Lisa Thiel

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[MB-vqev]

"You can’t feel loved by who you are, plain and simply it’s because your entire identity, which we call the ego, is formed completely out of the things that made you exist for your parents." That was powerful. 🙏🏼

[TempleofInnocence-AlohaKeAkua]

teal, your videos are better than any university course in psychology! thank you.

[ss-yovu]

this gave me a lot of clarity... my parents and i have never been close so they labeled me as shy and quite when i really am not i feel as if i am a shell of myself and i have never been able to be myself

[masonmmjmu]

Literally in school right now for a Master's in Mental Health Counseling... after binge watching your videos for the past 24 hours, and digging through what is holding me back from some of my own self discoveries... I can say that your videos reflect the necessary steps towards self actualization 100% more effectively than any course I've had through university (IMHO)

[jackbeats]

Waiting for validation of who you truly are from a parent amounts to beating a rock with your bare fists and expecting the rock to break

[avocadonhs]

i feel intense anxiety when someone appears to love me unconditionally and for who i am. i don't know what to do about this. i feel legit fear

[PHOEBEE]

well what the hell do we do then???
this is why I choose not to be a parent. I can't handle all the emotional responsibility.

[FamilyFreedom]

Thank you for making me a better parent :)

[do]

How am I supposed to have a good week after the realization that I have no identity aside from my doing? 😂

[seignee]

I'm crying at how accurate this is

[Andrea-sdru]

Teal, I wish I could have had this knowledge when my kids were small. What you sum up in ten minutes in such a simple way corresponds to the essence of a great number of thick psychological books that we would never read through. Thank you for giving it to us .

[HanhNguyen-vjpb]

“Your entire identity, that which we call the ego, is formed completely out of the things that make you exist for your parents.”
I never understand emotional dark age until now.

[MelissaPerhaps]

Daniel Puder talks about this!!! "We're human beings, not human doings. We've forgotten that"

[DailyInspirationloa]

OMG Teal is ON POINT. She is so authentic, understanding and compassionate in her delivery

[jorgejacobo]

I've always been drawn to your videos but couldn't really relate to them until now. I guess my heart wasn't ready to hear the truth until now. Thanks for speaking your truth.

[paperwormscat]

Wow. Your explanations are really great. I grew up without any positive mirroring from my parents, and like you said I didn't know who I was. I was diagnosed with Borderline in my Teenage years because I was on a constant journey to find the real me. I took other peoples Styles and Behaviours because I thought they would be right for me, but realized every single time, that I was wrong and went on searching again. I am 31 now and still don't know who I am. Now I finally understand why I am this way.

[juniperstardust]

This is genius, i didn't understand it the first time I watched it but now it's so clear, there's no "who I am", because I haven't created it, i created the "who I am" now i was able to love "that" and others could love it too.

It's pure genius

We have to create our own identity of ourselves and by ourselves, based on the things we would like to be, instead of the things we do, we then will love ourselves because we like who we are and then when people love us they will love us for who we are, because we created that identity

Otherwise we will never feel loved for who we are, because there's no "we are", there's only "the things we do". If you create "who you are", then that will come into existence and then you and people will be able to love "it"

[torijohn]

This video is my prayer answered. I really wanted the answers as to why I don't feel loved as me other than what I do. Thanks Teal.

[DG-yjmg]

This is easily one of the Best Teachings on sense of self, identity and how to begin loving the self (it can start the healing process).

[erdmaennchen]

Somehow, when I love, I feel loved, too. When I feel love for this world, for the people, for having this human life and making this experience and just everything, I feel love stronger than anything else, compassion, gratitude. And in that moment, I feel safe, free, peaceful, complete, whole and loved. I'm curious if this feeling of being loved is just me feeling the field of my own love or if the universe or something is/are really loving me back. If there is really a difference. Sorry, I can't put it in words, especially in English words. I always wonder how Teal can verbalise things so greatly. Thank you for your amazing videos, you are helping a lot of people.