24 Green Flags In Yourself (Signs You're Doing Better Than You Think) - Inner Work Library [118/500]

Stop and celebrate yourself with these 24 green flags to be proud of as you reflect on your growth this year. This special video features a short-form list of green flags in psychology and green flags in self development which we often miss on our journey of personal growth and self healing. It's time to pause and reflect on your own growth. You're doing better than you think.

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00:00 1. You Don't Apologise
00:50 2. You're Not Defensive
01:20 3. You Know The Difference
02:26 4. You've Stopped Lying
03:56 5. You're Not A Talking Head
05:12 6. You're Sober
05:34 7. You Hate Junk Food
06:40 8. You Love Your Money
07:20 9. You're Not Perfectionistic
07:47 10. You Keep Your Clothes On
09:15 11. You Don't Fantasise
10:57 12. Your Work Makes Sense
12:20 13. You Love Naptime
14:03 14. You've Built Boundaries
15:18 15. You've Stopped Oversharing
16:38 16. You Know Somebody Like This
17:34 17. You Spend Time With God
19:21 18. Your Shadow Is Your Friend
20:05 19. You've Destroyed Your Phone
21:08 20. You Hang Out With Little Birds
22:04 21. You've Fixed Your Mood Swings
23:20 22. You Accept Your Past
24:12 23. Your Future Looks Bright
25:09 24. You Keep Your Word

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[jordanthornton]

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[Cloudsandcrystalz]

for me a green flag is definitely the ability to be alone without being lonely and to balance my quiet time with beautiful relationships with friends, family, colleagues etc and to be able to let go of the identification with thoughts as they arise. Seeing my thoughts as 'clouds' passing through, and my true Self as the vast sky which holds space for these thoughts to visit, to come and go, has been a wonderful practice. Often asking myself as thoughts arise "who does this belong to?" and "what age am I [with this thought]?" has also been great. For example, if a heavy thought arises and I question it "what age am I?" I often get a specific age (like 7 for example) and I realise it's not the 'current me' thinking this thought, but rather a hurt or sad or lost 7 year old within me that's thinking it - it helps to give me leads on the inner work I need to focus on too. Letting go as a practice {see work like Dr David R. Hawkins} in general has also been and continues to be helpful and transformative for me too.

[cringesht]

My first time saying no was to my neighbor. Was back to back asked for a favor despite being sick. I said no and the first thing done was a guilt trip. Then no more contact, no more hi’s or anything. Some people actually treat a no as the end of the world. Once you stop giving them the comfort that you’ll always bend at their will they’ll LITERALLY stop bothering you forever. Now I actually feel pretty at peace about it, I was sick and I said no that’s all there is to it. It shouldn’t have to turn into a guilt trip. Now I just feel bad for anyone around him with people pleasing tendencies.

[JtothePrez]

"Stop thinking and you eliminate your problems." - Lao Tzu

[camm]

One trick that I came up with for outward boundaries that may sound silly but actually worked for me:

I wrote NDAs for myself. Like genuinely wrote up an NDA about something I needed to keep to myself, printed it out, and signed it. I remind myself that I need to honor that whenever I go to speak about it. The only exception that I allow myself is my closest friend, my therapist, and my psychiatrist.

[danielreed]

Man !! you have just totally validated my progress, I never actually realised how far I have come thank you.

[dammydepolonia]

Your voice is so soothing. An immense sense of peace and confidence at the same time emerges from it. I don't come across such a voice very often on the YT videos, so it's a very positive surprise.

[abrahamtouma]

I watch a lot of self actualization content, I do a lot of shadow work, It is refreshing to see a video about green flags. it is always about red flags unhealed trauma, no one takes time to review the progress. I appreciate that you made this video.

[ianvaldes]

Green flag 25 the video starts immediately without a fluff intro that we all were gonna skip anyway

[Eagleangel]

Sobriety and more intense physical activity are the challenges at hand right now!!! Thanks for the support and encouragement jordan!

[sottilezza]

I woke up anxious and in self-doubt, did my yoga routine which calmed me down and came upon this video. So uplifting and inspiring, reminded me that it is okay to work on myself in a slow and gentle way. Thank you! ❤

[ask.seek.find.]

1. Props to the little corn Lego man. [*Seriously* wondering if any other little treasures are hanging out back there.]
2. The way you articulate is a gift, and I am SO grateful that these videos are here, that they are multiplying, and that they are FREE ❤ [THANK YOU!!]
3. Please continue pressing in about sobriety and caring for our physical bodies. Your whole-person approach is easy to grasp and apply; and my life is becoming quickly enriched because of the many ways you plant those seeds.
4. Can you recommend a good video about oversharing? Or maybe becoming more adept at under-sharing? I STRUGGLE with relationships, because engaging in small talk is foreign to me. People seem to love my ability to listen and ask probing questions, but seem uninterested in my natural conversation.
5. So glad you mentioned reading for self-improvement; I was going to suggest a green flag #25.
6.. Great list; love the raw videos. Thank you for continuing in your purposeful service. We all benefit immeasurably ^-^

[beckymagnolia]

Oh Jordan! I'm listening to this list with a huge smile on my face. This video makes me happy!
I put myself under a microscope so often, challenging myself to improve that I forget to do inventory of how amazing I am doing. Yes, there's still plenty of room for improvement, but the fact that I am now nodding at these green flags is a huge reminder of how far I've come in these past few years. I AM (We are!) doing the work and it shows. This is a wonderful reminder at the end of the year. Thank you, my friend. Your voice is a safe companion on this intense, sometimes lonely journey we're on. 💕🙏💕

[anipapikyan]

It’s so interesting that this video came out just after I wrote down the things I’ve been thankful for in 2023 and the last phrase I wrote down was being grateful for keeping the promises I made to myself and that included all the other 23 things you mentioned. And though I can still reduce my online time (it can never be too little I think), looking back and seeing that all of the above is a present reality in my life for a few years now is really uplifting and even more inspiring.
Thanks for being in time with this video as well as for discovering your channel last year. It was truly one of the achievements of 2023 for me. Wish you a very happy and successful 2024 ✨

[barefootexpedition]

I’m loving how many green flags I’m embracing naturally now 🥳😇
I always knew healthy behaviors yet struggled so long to exhibit them. After many years of going within I’ve found so much freedom and sounds like green flags too 😎

[clintharper]

What a pleasure it is to come across a wonderful human being who reminds & inspires people to become who they truly are, thank you for pushing back against the constant bs being rammed down our throats, who are hell bent on trying to make me something i am not. Thank you Jordan for spreading the love light the world so desperately needs right now 🙏🏽

[miniharez]

Sobriety for 4 years now has sprouted many green flags for me!

[snoopy]

I love the raw videos because it feels like I’m having a genuine conversation

[lollylula]

I appreciate this video, it's helped me to see I am indeed doing better than I realised, and areas I could do with some more work on. I appreciate you talking about the difference between the 'comfort zone' and being comfortable. For many years, decades maybe, I didn't realise that I didn't feel safe when I relaxed and so ended up very burnt out with various health conditions. It's ongoing work to recognise and honour my body's/minds cues for rest.

[梨-il]

Ive been having insomnia and chest pains a lot recently and I've had to hand in my notice. I'm lucky I have a couple of months savings which I'm praying will carry me through. Unfortunately so many of us don't have a support network or savings to fall back on and we get stuck in this cycle of having to work to survive but work is slowly killing us.