The curse of being the 'average looking female'

Spoiler alert- you’ve been exploited with a false sense of average. Here are 5 reasons why you should forget about “average pretty”

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0:00 Intro
2:28 Definition of average
4:11 Why you should forget about “average pretty”
4:14 1. Artificial natural beauty
5:57 2. Why put yourself at a disadvantage?
8:19 3. homogeneity of beauty sells
10:38 4. feauturism
12:24 5. No one is the average

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[zoeunlimited]

Do you believe in the "average"?

[rara]

Reality check: "average looking" is a slur on the internet but in real life there is nothing you can't do. Men who call women "mid" on the internet can't get a girlfriend in real life.

[smartypantspod]

Several years ago, in my own head, I redefined beauty to be synonymous with “unique.” That has led me to value my traits and features are different from the “normal” and I seek to enhance the parts of me that are different and stand out anyways. It’s really helped me not spiral in the wake of this homogenized beauty that Zoe talks about.

[krushkannon]

my two rules that i follow when i start to feel overwhelmed and insecure: i go outside to a grocery store or somewhere with people and look at them (in passing, not in a creepy way) and stop engaging with content about beauty. genuinely getting off social media and reading a book or just turning off your phone has genuinely boosted me on some not-so great self-esteem days

[whocares]

The surgery everyone is getting is actually making them look worse and a lot less unique. I actually am so used to looking at that typical Instagram face that it isn’t even that special anymore. To me, someone really sticks out when they embrace the beautiful features they already have. Especially the nose jobs…so toxic and totally riddled in Eurocentric beauty standards

[helle_larsen]

I believe that the older you get, the more you start to accept yourself for who you are. I was really insecure at 13, but now at 25 I love myself and my looks. I have lived with this body and face for 25 years, and I would never want to wake up looking different. I am happy I am me because there is only one me, and I wouldn't want to change that

[roohellenthal]

Just recently I started living by “No one’s ever lived with my EXACT face “ I’m my own “average” and that’s ok, now I enhance and embrace the bold features I have and I’m ok with that

[FegyTheFandomLord]

I remember thinking about beauty a few years ago, and how everyone looked better than me. I went outside - beautiful people, I got on the internet - beautiful people. The realization hit me: if I find strangers beautiful, don't they find me beautiful as well? It's not like I'm anyone special from their perspective.
I am TELLING you, this thought changed my life. I'll be looking at someone on the subway and go "damn, they are pretty, I wish I was as well" but then lo and behold "I am pretty as well! I'm also a stranger from their perspective, and strangers are beautiful! So I am beautiful as well!" Really helped me accept myself at the time

[ballistachicken]

I'll be honest: it feels like a legitimate accomplishment when I have a day that I don't hate my own face, or when I think I'm pretty enough or thin enough or look good enough. It feels like a constant uphill battle to even ignore all of the crap on social media and in mainstream media, let alone find someway to counter it in my head. If I have a day that I think I look good, I'm f'n proud of myself at this point lol I feel like most of us don't want to achieve perfection, anyway. We just want to not hate ourselves and stop having literally random people feel comfortable telling you what they think is wrong with you.

[rebeccagibson]

When discouraged: REDIRECT your thoughts to the needs of others
and practice that curve on social media posts

[emmeline]

I was having a good day, until I was walking alone and I was holding a water bottle called a Stanley cup, and these two boys were walking past me and one looked at me and whispered to his friend, “I thought only pretty girls are supposed to have those cups” 😭 it ruined my self esteem so bad, like I always feel unattractive and it just made it worse. I don’t know how other people perceive me but I hate it because no one ever compliments me, people are always mean to me (especially girls and I am one) and staring at me and I hate it because it’s hard to see other people being gorgeous and I’m not

[abrielle]

I've always considered myself "average" but never thought of that as an insult.

[moldy_fettuccine]

I actually really miss the “realness” part about early social media and internet in general. Early instagram was peak social media imo if you cut the celebrity and later rising influencer part out. But thinking back about how every “casual” used it, it was a fun way to share where you are, what you’re up to and just sharing pictures for people who were interested but it sadly spiraled down into having the most interesting, beautiful, above average and unique feed ever.

I miss sharing stuff without it having to seem “perfect” and “flawless”, without fearing to fail my own style

[SSM]

I struggle with this a lot since moving to LA. The idea that I just am average. Not beautiful. Thank you for your video it was enlightening.

[sillysami]

I've been off of social media for quite a while (since april i think?) and honestly when I saw all the girls in your video I kinda started to get insecure again. The feelings of not looking like the "pretty girls" on ig and tiktok made me feel so little. But your commentary had really held me through it. I've always felt the need as well to be the best at everything because of my parents expectations, but it used to feel like I could never achieve beauty, and insecurity used to be a really big part of me growing up.

Today I know that I am worth more than what societal pressure wants me to think. I'm blessed and happy with what God and my parents gave me and I wouldn't want take that away by meaningless procedures that fade out due to oncoming trends. Thank you soooo much for making this video. It made me tear up and means a lot to me <3

[elisapenn]

as someone who used to be obsessed with this whole average thing (not just talking about looks) and who used to hate herself for being average in everthing but eventually came to accept and love herself... well, this video was really refreshing and something i needed to hear, even tho i feel way more confident about myself than i used to. sometimes it's just good to be reminded of this :)

[anbv]

This video made me feel heard and loved. So far, I’ve never heard this matter of « average » mentality talked about and my thoughts articulated so clearly. To each doubts I had, you kindly debunked the silliness of those thoughts with kindness, sources and logic. Thank you so much Zoé, I will now live a bit more freely knowing that average is nothing more than a number and us, far from just that. ❤

[the.guitart.one]

My mindset since I was a kid has always been that there's no pretty and no ugly, because it's so subjective that it's not real. It's honestly helped my perception of people and my confidence so much, because then I don't look at people and notice their so called prettiness or ugliness, I just notice them and their unique features. And in that way, no one is pretty and no one is ugly and no one is average, everyone is just uniquely themselves. And I think that difference is what actually makes humans beautiful.

[ReReChan]

The internet can give out the feeling that I’m living in a small village for some reason

[kairinaminemix]

I think once everyone accepts they’re most likely going to be 4-6/10 and make peace with that, being average is not such a bad thing. I don’t depend on being pretty nor make money doing it. Majority of people don’t. So, don’t stress over being average, rather try to be your healthiest self mentally and physically. The only thing within our control