Relationship Focused Men Are Less Attractive - The Curse of The Nice Guy!

In all relationships, men and women have assigned gender roles. These gender roles are not assigned by society or culture, they’re assigned by nature. If a woman believes she must take the lead in the relationship, she’s being forced to act in a way that runs contrary to her nature.

The same applies to men who seek commitment and focus on the relationship—they, too, are behaving in a way that runs contrary to their nature. The relationship-focused man kills attraction because his behavior is feminine. And as research published in the Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin explains: men who are too caring and relationship focused are rated less attractive by women.

Highly responsive men believe that if they talk about their feelings, they’ll be able to form a strong connection with a woman and get her to fall in love with them. They believe that affirmations of love will make the woman feel more secure in the relationship.

In reality, anytime you’re too responsive, putting relationships at the forefront of your life, you risk killing attraction. Responsiveness, as measured by researchers, encompasses a series of traits that includes being nurturing, kind, supportive, and emotionally available. Surprisingly, and somewhat counter-intuitively, these responsive traits have been found to kill attraction and turn women off.

When a woman thinks you’re overly focused on the relationship and emotionally affected by everything she does, she’ll naturally start to question your masculinity. The woman’s natural instinct is to then pull away and study your behavior from a distance.

Take the following situations as an example: (1) A woman has sex with a man without expressing any emotion or feeling for him and the man gets upset; (2) A woman can’t see her boyfriend on Valentine’s day and the man responds by throwing a tantrum; (3) The man confuses feelings of lust for love and tells his girlfriend that he’s falling in love with her on the third date.

In all three situations, the man is overly focused on the relationship. To protect yourself from situations like this, you must take the focus off the relationship. Women are relationship focused; men are mission focused. The moment you subvert this natural dynamic is the moment you kill attraction by focusing on the woman when you should be focusing on yourself instead.

If you want to maintain attraction with a woman, right from the moment you first meet her all the way through to a long-term relationship, then I highly recommend you get a copy of my book Atomic Attraction.

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[pablocaldeira]

Man, the more I hear about women... The more I want to be alone.

[mahmudurrahman]

Its ridiculous that when women get enough attention they want to leave.

[dynasty]

Ignoring the woman you like, makes her like you more! That's when you make your real move.

[larry]

What I have learned through experience and from this video:

*Focus on yourself*

[Jefff]

I am here to plead guilty! I was in a long-distance relationship. I traveled to my girlfriend and made so many of the nice guy mistakes. I nearly lost her. The next summer, we sat down and talked after something clumsy that I did. I told her that I'm willing to walk away. We can each go our own ways. Right after, she changed her tune and everything was really good again. BTW that gf is now the wife. I have done this in my marriage too. Honey, I would like to have m balls back!

[VikrantBhagat]

this advice is absolute gold its a shame i didn't get this when i was younger so that i would avoid all the pain and heartache from dates to relationships. I have been conditioned the wrong way, will take time to recover but every bit of information you actually put on here i absorb it 100 percent. Thank you!

[laswap]

You can't have a woman you want too desperately, you always need to be prepared to walk away. There will be moments in which you walking away will actually win her over.

[alialjuhani]

If we watch these videos, we are focused men. That’s the truth.

[isaacjacob]

I used to do opposite of what you say. I'm 35+ . I have single in my whole life.
Now I following your advices. Now I'm the James bond of my life. Christopher, you are the legend. Great devices.

[raunakashgulati]

This is a powerful channel, thank you!

[ncandescence]

Then why do women cheat? Every woman says that they cheat because there was not enough communication or they were not getting enough love and attention from their partner. It's a ducking dilemma. I'm so confused.

[Kometheus]

This was one of the best videos at explaining this concept. Great work.

[walkstall]

You're one of the best on YouTube Chris. Good stuff mate

[patrickcadiente]

How I wish I had known this channel long time ago 😩 But It's never to too late to change my mindset as a man though 😊This is one of the best channels about women and dating 😍

[drexelking]

Dude you are so right. Thanks for sharing.

[HawaiianCrow]

Phenomenal content. Absolutely phenomenal true content. I always love those silent endings, makes me think of the whole video in short. Very very great and true, the funny thing is:

I’m not even overreacting, I truly truly find this powerful and a piece of art based on the editing, the ending and the value it brings.

Please post more often!

[trollforaliving]

im not exactly in need of relationship advices rn but even then these kinds of videos of yours are intriguing to watch!

[PCMAXGAMEPLAY]

This is by far the best explanation ever

[overcomeoverthinking]

Hi Chris. I actually did that. I didn't focus on the relationship. I let her do what she wants. Later did I know she's talking to another guy.

[vision]

Everything you said happened to me with a girl I liked. I was going slow and she went crazy and wanted to go out on a date. We went for a date, i kissed her and asked her to be mine... never seen again