3 reasons you aren’t doing what you say you will do | Amanda Crowell | TEDxHarrisburg

[lonilocoesque]

1. Afraid of failure
2. You limit yourself with "identity"
3. Secretly you don't want do it, you think you should do it

[virgilwardmedia]

Instant gratification also plays a part here, too. When the end result seems too far away, people convince themselves they aren't meant for it so they look for a quick fix and then soon feel lost all over again. Speaking from experience here.

[annakolenkova]

No joke, this might be the most important TED-talk of my life
I recently realised that the reason I can't achieve my dreams for years, postponing even simple steps every single day because deep inside I'm so afraid of failure. And it is just an enormous relief to know it's not just my imagination or another excuse, but there actually people like me and I honestly feel like crying as I'm typing this. Thank you so much 😭

[Sunshine-ykeg]

(For future reference)
The 3 cognitive distortions :
1) 2:57 "I just can't do it! I don't have what it takes"
2) 5:50 "this is just not who I am"
3) 10:22 "I should do this, I need to do this, *but eh I don't really want to do it though* I should do it"

Solutions:
1) remind yourself that it is okay to fail. Learn from the failures and just keep swimming. Effort >>

2) find people who have the same values as you, and who found a way to make things work in a way that doesn't clash with those values. Find a way to do the things you wanna do in a way that aligns with and not clashes with your identity.

3) find your "why", the real reason why you wanna do something. It should be an intrinsic motivation and not a just superficial and external one. Remind yourself of your why to stay motivated

[ja]

These are the kind of talks I wished we had in high school

[Coach_MarcyBob]

This is me. For the last 14 years I’ve done NOTHING concerning my dreams. I have wasted my life feeling sorry for myself and living for other people. I am so tired of it I am at the point of taking all the risks to get where I want to be.

[jameshutchins]

Excellent talk. Reason crowd seemed so quiet is bc most ppl don't like hearing the truth and she hit everything right on the head.

[uwuovo]

Fail is just an acronym
F - irst
A - ttempt
I - n
L - earning

[guilhermecostacoimbra]

3 reasons you arent doing what u say you will do... Wow i really need this *save to watch latter*

[jordynbabywoods]

I love her humor and her energy. Definitely needed to hear this.

[finiteinfinite]

Three main reason
1.deep in our mind we think we can't do it. 2. People like us dont do this because we are highly identified with a false self identity. 3.secretly we don't want it.

[marycarylyaun]

"At the heart of success is not talent. It's effort." 5:06

[bethanysheppard]

Wow wow tough crowd - this woman is funny af and no ones bitting

[bongpal]

Why we don’t do what we say we’ll do:
1. We get lost, distracted, or addicted to what’s more “pleasurable” or “comfortable” than what is important
2. We see “pain” in exerting the effort or we lack the energy required to do the important thing.
3. We don’t care because its not killing us anyway...not yet.

[IndoonaOceans]

So the audience aren't good because: 1) Secretly they don't believe they can be a good audience 2) They don't think they are like people that can be a good audience 3)Being a good audience doesn't interest them enough, if they're honest

[anastasinscreed]

Is audience alive? `~`
The speaker is so funny and smart. Great talk!

[felixsupreme]

This crowd. Were they summoned here for jury duty?

[faceitimright]

The most empowering ted talk clear and well structured

[MG-gufu]

This is spot-on.. I didn't even know I was doing this! My dream is to become a musical theatre actress and although I am taking singing lessons, I always stop myself and think that I don't have what is required and that I have too little experience. Maybe I should, instead of procrastinating and whining, go out and GET experience, despite my brain telling me to stay home

[pamponpan]

Aren't those​ people​ kinda mean​ for​ not​ laughing? She's quite funny.