5 Ways to Choose the Right Partner for You

Do you wonder how to choose the right person wisely? Dating and relationships can lead to happiness! 5 Tips to choose the right partner include not letting fear guide our choices, and not mistaking emotional abuse for passion. We advise you to throw away your checklist, and give people a chance to show who they really are. Don't forget to be honest with yourself and your values; don't wait around for someone who won't change.

Derhally, L. (2015, June 30). 10 Tips for Choosing the Right Partner. HuffPost. Retrieved July 5, 2018.

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[Psychgo]

Psych2Goers and #notificationsquad! What kind of videos would you like to see from us next? :)

[Depto_estudios_inscrim]

I think people are too focused in finding the perfect partner, they forget to be one... Maybe nobody have all the things on your checklist. But you should try to be the ideal for that someone you don't know yet. Be comfortable with your own skin and character, and do what you always wanted to... Then look for someone else... I think a very hard restriction to love someone it's not loving you first.

[leila_de_hautjardin]

Best advice I received : don't date if you're desperate to be in relationship.
You will lower your standards and end up disapointed at some point.

[bornvolcano]

I genuinely don’t care what they look like, so long as they are trustworthy and caring, and I can feel safe around them

[judithtania]

1. Dont let fear guide your choices
2. Dont mistake emotional abuse for passion
3. Throw away your checklist, perfection does not exist
4. Give people a chance to show you who they are
5. Dont keep waiting for something that wont change.

[Jay-ecpo]

To choose the right partner you must first know what you're looking for in a relationship, and don't expect your partner to bring something into the relationship which you aren't ready or willing to bring in yourself.. such as loyalty for example. Like attracts like

[zooer]

I have a very short checklist:
-Breathing
-Human
-Loves Food like me
-Loves to joke around
-Watches PsychoToGo too

[The-EDM-Route]

Too many people in relationships and marriages have settled for someone they know they don't belong with

[FrogPrincessMagicMack]

Other thing: Make sure they don’t bully your friends(And other people) but act like a nice person around you

[Bubby]

I edited this comment so the replies don't make sense

[nataliaellen]

My key points changed a lot after a toxic and abusive relationship. But before dating anyone:
1. You have to solve your emotions. You need to know who you want to be and how you want to live.
2. You cannot date unless you believe that you can live by yourself because you will end up making your life dependent on the other person will.
3. You need to remember that no matter what will happen you are strong enough to overcome this with time ❤️

So after that done my key points are:
I need to feel safe with him.
He needs to be kind to ppl and likes animals. I believe that there is something wrong with ppl who hate dogs or cats without a reasonable reason and I should stay away from them.
I need to know how he acts in few situations:
- when we are alone
- when we are with his friends, his family, my friends, my family, because in the future it may me be ours friends and family.
- sober and drunk
- happy and sad

I’m not searching for someone amazing. I’m searching for someone who’s stable, calm and will have some plan for himself.
I want to know him before I’ll engage all my feelings because the person who hurt me the most was the person who was the closest.

And the truth is that the most of the scars on your heart are made not by strangers but by the ppl who were or are the closest to you.
That is why I want to know him before I will fully love again.

[danielc]

I believe that finding the "right one" has to be done naturally in person, and not by swiping left or right on a online app.

[shadowstalker]

See the funny thing is. I want a companion, a loyal companion, not a temporary date partner. Its so hard to find though

[grimmysacha]

As they say love is a choice not a feeling, choose the right person that will give you feelings, you heart should be in your mind, that means you are capable of understand your feelings and other one's feelings as well, so your choice should be made for a person that allows you to be yourself freely and genuinely, so find someone easy for you to be yourself with and that shares a lot in common with you, so being best friends before dating is a key to find real love i believe. If you don't know what you want and who you are, jumping in relationships and partners will only make you even way more lost and confused and hurt with maybe a bunch of emotional luggages to deal with it, the real deal is to stay alone and single not active and taking the time to get to know yourself and build yourself, globally self developping yourself, then because of you faced lonliness on your own, and you are capable of being happy alone, you ll be capable of knowing what kind of partner you really want and need. Because after all you have to be happy on your own first, expecting someone to make you happy is an illusion... your partner will only make you more happy! That is the real truth i believe ! Take care!
Much love

[winterssunshine]

"You notice the right person when you´re ready." Yeah, that sounds nice, but I highly doubt it. I used to think like that, but after many years I came to the realisation, that some people probably just aren´t meant to have relationships.

[tessakutesa]

I threw away my 'partner checklist' long ago. There are core values I have like loyalty and communication but I'm pretty open. The only other thing I want is someone who can deal with my switches, I guess? My friends say sometimes I seem like I don't want to talk and other times I want to hug the world...
If you can deal with that, cuddle well and stay loyal, you don't have to be anything special. 😋

[finalthief]

I went through a recent break up and i was emotionally abused, i didn't break up with her cause i though i wasn't gonna find someone like her again and well..ever since we broke up..i feel happiness! im starting to love myself and im working on becoming a better version of myself so i can be at my best when someone else comes to my life! im gonna take this time alone to think about everything and I'll wait for the person to show up! This channel has helped me alot!

THANK YOU!!! ❤️

[ZaxorVonSkyler]

I wish people didn't have to feel pressured to be in a relationship. i'm a Single adult and don't want to be in a relationship until i'm financially stable and can take care of myself. I just want to focus on me right now! :)

[sophiapeake]

100% GET TO KNOW THEM BEFORE DATING!! Made that mistake once and almost costed me my life. Literally.

[anastasiagiannopoulou]

I got out of a really bad relationship last year and in order not to get hurt again i made a list about all the qualities i want in a potential partner so i dont fall under the same trap again.... a year later i met someone who made me the happiest person alive and he didnt have all the qualities i had jotted down on that paper. That doesnt mean i settled, i just realized he may not have been what i wanted but he was exactly what i needed and had no idea.