When Nice Guys Rage

Nice guys and rage? Sure enough, these things can tend to go together.

Letting others have their way, constantly doing things for others and trying to please others all can lead to anger and resentment. In this video, Grant Stenzel takes a look at why nice guys rage, and what to do to keep this anger from building.

[Louis-ueco]

I was not even looking for a video like this, but It helped me so much to realise that i was not the only one feeling like that. Thank you.

[BasedMilitarist]

When we rage we dont hold back. Thats why nice guys rage is worse then hell.

We hold everything for ourselves. We try not to be angry.

There is a silk string that holds everything back. When that string snaps.

May god have mercy on you. Because nice guys wont.

[buba]

they rage because they get treated like crap, even though they are kind souls who want to be loved. To be respected. To be accepted. To belong.

[Luke-vfqc]

I swear from my experience. The anger of a nice person can even scare that person too. But seriously the person we snap at should pray

[dexterspeights]

People think kindness is weakness and rage is strength unleashed opon the fool that kindness is weakness!

[iguiste]

This is a great truth because I have the same issue. I am nice to everyone (sure I say no often and dont act like a personal doormat) But I always say please and thankyou, always try and be open and honest and I spent 30 years bottling it all up and now I feel it is coming out in evil, terrifying bursts of hateful rage. Then when I calm im thinking. Wait what did I just do? what have I done? I canot be this way until someone pisses me off again and snap. The part that scares me if my temper is (thankfully not violent towards others safety) but it is evil and cruel and I become so hateful I say things to people that arent even nasty theyre in a realm of I want a war I hate you (when truth is I dont want this) I have become so angry at being messed about, lied to, played about, gamed, used, ignored and so on) Yet at the same time get to know me im a massive science nerd, I love nature, I love studying and I adore making new friends and playing playstation and have the most dark but wonderful sense of humour. My issues I have bottled up my hurt and pain and guilt and grief and let it fester and now I am scared of what it is changing me into. :(

[theoutabodies]

The problem is when the nice guy, gives everybody back what the world has been given him.

[Astral_Dusk]

Fake niceness to cover anger is toxic mentally and physically and inevitably explosive.
It takes practice to assertively defend boundaries with composure and firmness.
When I started practicing more assertion, I found it hard to not be rude and use curse words and attack others with words... in time, the assertion focused on the boundary and the violation and is received much better than raging or always have a chip on he shoulder. For nice guys becoming authentic a few people will probably have to go... too used to the nice guy and refuse to see you grow. Nice guys can allow such toxic individuals into their circle so it's nothing unusual, adios.

[axellbunardy]

Now i know why i like to rage a lot even though i am a nice person atleast that is what people say about me