Why Do Bad Things Keep Happening to Me?

Much is constantly happening that annoys us. But the question is how much does it all, beneath the surface, have to feel intentional as well?

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"Much is constantly happening that annoys us. Trains pull out of platforms as we approach them; taps snap off their moorings; shopping bags leak; suppliers go bankrupt; colleagues resign; cars break down. It is all — undoubtedly — maddening. But the question is how much does it all, beneath the surface, have to feel intentional as well?"

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[MiTSuKiNeKoCHaN]

Im always scared to brag, or express happiness bc i feel like something bad will happen

[QuestionEverythingButWHY]

“When we are no longer able to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves.”
― Viktor E. Frankl, Man's Search for Meaning

[fancypants]

Victim mentality alongside self-hatred is one of the worst possible things that somebody struggling with mental health could go through. Stay happy y'all, you are always loved.

[bunnyfrosting]

Honestly I’ve accepted that life is just bad, it will likely not get better. I was born disabled and became chronically ill at age 11, my entire life adults have said “aw don’t be sad, things will improve!”, this just gave me empty hope. My symptoms get worse with age & that is hard to accept. But I am much happier since trying to understand that not everyone is given a great lot in life & that’s it, It’s not worth screaming at the sky “why?” about the dozens of big & scary things I can’t change. Poverty is rarely escapable so I’m just gonna try to chill until I die

[bunsenn]

I never ask why bad things do happen to me, but rather why good things don’t happen to me. Everyone’s life will have bad moments, but what about when life doesn’t have any good ones?

[ShortHax]

“Bad things keep happening to me, it's high flipping time I start happening to them”

[stefanomagaddino]

I've had a lifetime of being disrespected and being ignored. I cannot seem to break the cycle. It continues to this day. So now I'm resigned to accept it.

[nyaaaa]

I’ve literally got to the point that everytime I show a bit of happiness now that things go wrong just hours later. I was so happy for my first concert but it got taken away from me.

I’m always the positive friend, always helping others! I don’t even hate myself but things will just go wrong for me!! This self hatred don’t even sound right (coming from a psych student). I love myself & doing a lot of great things but nothing stays right for me! I just want a good day or week without it being snatched. Nothing to do with how I feel about myself.

[QuestionEverythingButWHY]

“We suffer more often in imagination than in reality”
― Seneca

[anwayaa]

It's honestly terrifying how you post the exact videos about what I'm going through

[itsyaboiiiag]

It’s absolutely so hard to believe that it’s just a coincidence. Too many bad things happened in such little time last year and of all people it always happens to me, the person with the worst luck, worst timing, worst anything for as long as I can remember. There had to have been a curse placed on me… there’s just no way.

[yourcalmplace]

- I just want to let anyone who’s reading this, and going through a tough time know that it’s going to be okay. You’ll get through it! ✨

[escapistreader]

Self-hatred is when we internalize the hatred people who didn't love us had towards us. It becomes so difficult to love yourself after you've reached that point. Suicidal thoughts come in package with the thoughts of self-hatred.

[niaselah]

Sadly sometimes you are in hostile environments and what you think is actually happening. Real bad things happen as a result of prolonged exposure to mistreatment

[amelieflorelle]

Sending luck and love to everyone for 2022. May it bring positive changes on micro and macro levels ✨💗

[memofromessex]

My life used to be shit, I was unemployed, felt like my life was going nowhere and recently divorced and suffered from a great deal of trauma from childhood but somehow I have steered my life around and apart from the occasional stress about COVID the past two years has been great for me.

[AndrewLewisHowe]

Keep in mind the human brain is designed to find negatives and remember them well, much better than positives. We tend to remember and dwell on the bad things much more than good things that happen to us. This "feature" worked well to protect us from rival tribes or wild animals, but it's pretty problematic in today's modern world.

Bad things happen as often as good things, but we seem to ignore the good. Practicing mindfulness helps you notice the positives. When a friend asks how you are, it feels better to be able to say "OK. The holiday last week was great, but my cat died on Sunday" rather than just "Crappy. My cat died on Sunday."

[womenwhodate]

“Sometimes bad things have to happen before good things can.”
― Becca Fitzpatrick

[jprhtsm]

“things are always gonna get worse before they get better.”

- alfred pennyworth

[thechancellor-]

To the *worthwhile person* seeing this, your dream is not dead. Don’t allow the past and current pains and hurts stop and define you. You’re more than a conqueror. Rise up and put yourself together. Keep pushing your future depends on it. I wish you all the best in life ❤️. Let’s make 2022 the best year ever.