I’m A Good Person Why Do Bad Things Happen To Me?

I’m sure you’ve wondered why bad and destructive things keep happening to you. Why, no matter how hard you try to be a good person, it just doesn’t stop.

It took me having a severe narcissistic relationship breakdown to realize that this story was not just about me, “being such a good person and people do horrible, terrible things to me” … but that there was way more to it than that.

I realized I was really stuck in the traumas of – if I speak up and I lay boundaries, I'm going to be criticized, I'm going to be rejected, I'm going to be abandoned and I'm going to be punished.

And then I discovered a very big Quantum Truth, which is – whatever you allow, you will get.

In today’s Thriver TV episode I will explain to you why, even though you have high integrity, treat people with compassion and always make sure you do the right thing, you are opening the door to being mistreated by others. Just like I was.

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[Dragonfly]

It seems that toxic people are drawn to me. I’m constantly letting them go and pushing them out! I don’t remember meeting so many toxic people as a child! Why are they so deceptive and why do they think they can do it to me!
It takes one narcissistic relationship to set boundaries!!!

[paulzedxninja]

Telling narcs the golden rule causes a narc injury. They don't grasp the concept it's alien to them. 👽

[jwhalen]

Thank you! I just went no contact about 3 weeks ago, and was kind of feeling bad but it made me realize once again, I made the right decision

[willowway]

"Whatever you allow, you will get."
Goodness ♡

[lydias.coaching]

We teach others how to treat us by how we allow them to treat us.

[godzillamanstreb]

do I 💗 thee? Let me count the needed this today so badly as I was literally thinking this over the past few like beating a dead horse over & tried to care for TOXIC PEOPLE 😫😫😫 thinking the relationships would taken me 5 yrs now to create firm boundaries & there are only 2 familial narcs left in my life which I’m very very low contact — several of my former female friends are narcissists! Who knew?!? didn’t heed the red flags 🚩🚩🚩never ever again

[odwzqvk]

So perfectly said....
Love God, love self, demons disappear. Kick anyone to the curb who relentlessly dismisses feelings. NPDs are the closest to evil one will ever experience. Thank you Mel 🙏✝️❤️

[lostintheseventies]

I FOUND THAT, TO BE SO TRUE.BUT I HAVE WORK TO DO..TO LOVE MYSELF ...FIRST

[garycordle]

Be good to yourself and walk away from these toxic people, because at the end of the day your the one that makes yourself happy 👍 up.

[Nancy-ywrr]

My stbx narc spouse repeatedly claimed that I treated HIM badly. He was financially, emotionally, verbally, and physically abusive, but he claims that I took advantage of him. He is incapable of honesty regarding his own behavior and lies about mine whenever it suits his purpose. They are absolutely impossible people.

[abdulc]

This is a game changer, no one has provided an explanation about that feeling of being cursed n where that thought comes from

[aharry]

Thank you, Melanie for discussing this. It is amazing that you decided to discuss this topic. I started to wonder if I am cursed because I have had so many challenges with my health and with people one after another even after being divorced from a narcissist. Thank you for this explanation. I have to know and feel that I am worthy.

[ladyofthewoods]

Thank you 💕. I know this yet I need reminded it’s not a habit yet

[eagleeye]

This is a good one. I'm the scapegoat at the condo association I live in because I put my foot down against having to smell crack or heroin or whatever the h the people next door to me are smoking. And because I fought the neighbor on my other side when she announced she was "approved" to build a deck between our 2 condos...including right up and underneath my WINDOW. And because I said NO about my (allegedly) druggie neighbors son parking his works beater van or beater truck here on weekends when he's on call. Nope. This is private property. We're each allowed 2 vehicles. That would be their #3. Tough sh*t. If I don't hold space for myself here...no one will. I don't care if they like me or not...because I am learning to like and love my Self more. At age 63 after a LIFETIME of narcissists beginning with both parents...and every man that I have ever loved, or tried to love.

[peterknyk]

OMG! I don't know why this keeps happening, Melanie! I sent a comment and it vanished, once again, into thin air! All I was trying to tell you is that in the old days lots of bad things used to happen to me but since I've been working with NARP that is changing/shifting! I've been able to illuminate certain toxic people from my life. it has not been easy because I was so codependent! Finding my inner being and developing a relationship with this little person has been such a huge help! I simply attribute all of these shifts and changes to my work with NARP. The moderators and your lectureshave been powerful influences! Honestly, so many bad things have happened, I don't think there's any more room in me to think about that because I firmly believe and deeply believe that good things are heading my way! There is great emotional relief when I think that way because I feel it so deep within! Thanks so much Melanie! This was a really great and helpful video! ❤️🦋❤️

[mariesprowl]

💜💜💜 Exactly the message I needed to hear today.

[Ripcurler]

I have agoraphobia I can’t leave my room

[qtusa]

Well, I stay calm and consistent but then they ban together because they are too weak to topple me alone. I just ignore it, but they are threatened. I am good to myself, I take care of me.

[nancyadams]

Yes Yes I Am realizing more and more how special I Am, Thank You for reminding me once more. It is the food of my Heart❤️🐩

[Ripcurler]

I can’t stop thinking
About the event that happened to me