What Types of Therapy Are There and Which Should I Choose #AskATherapist

What Types of Therapy Are There and Which Should I Choose #AskATherapist //

Are you looking for therapy and wondering what types of therapy there are and which therapy to choose? Watch this video as we look at different types of therapy sop you can choose the therapy that's right for you.

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[aurora]

I tried an online chat therapy thing and hated the person I talked to. It was all "That must have been so hard for you <3" no matter what I said. The more hearts that person typed, the more livid I felt, and I ended up calling a helpline instead. That guy was very good at his job, and I was both talked out of the initial panic, the rage at not being taken seriously, and I've got an appointment with an irl therapist connected through my uni. I've always felt I couldn't really call a helpline cuz my problems are not that important cuz it's me that's having them, and I am the least important person in the world (according to my intrusive thoughts), but now I'm saying f that noise and call cuz it helped me SO MUCH and the person wasn't mad at me for wasting their time or holding up a line from someone more deserving or anything!

[kerigirl]

If only therapy was equally accessible to everyone and didn’t cost a fortune ☹️

[jencat]

Hi Jonathon, I was wondering if you could do a video on how to re-enter therapy after having bad experiences with therapists/therapy. Basically overcoming a well-earned fear of mental health professionals

[crissyannab]

Next up, different modalities and what they may be good for. My first foray into counseling was 17 years ago after our first late term miscarriage where the abuse of my childhood really came to light. The counselor we found only used CBT. After a year with him (didn't realize I could switch and we were young and broke and on scholarship there) he declared me basically fixed and released me from care. After various life happenings over the last 17 years between a severe cPTSD flare that nearly got me on the psych ward, an unfortunate situation involving an in-law's room mate who threatened me with a weapon and now being widowed, I'm on my 4th round with a 4th counselor. I'm starting EMDR now (for the childhood stuff), have been looking into cranial sacral therapy and realized how much more effective a good trauma informed counselor is than someone who thinks it can all be fixed with CBT. I understand CBT does work for many things (and has in regards to my weightloss journey), but, in my case it was more like a bandaid and didn't fix what was causing the thoughts and what were actually trauma responses.

Going through all the different modalities that are out there for counseling, what each can help with and that it's ok to try different things would save others from having to search for something, anything to help and being left wondering if maybe since that method didn't fix me, that maybe I was permanently broken and unfixable. (Which, I am fixable and we're finally on the right path, I think, with an amazing counselor who not only specialized in trauma, lived it herself and understands my thoughts on treating this naturally, supplement use and diet and exercise to help instead of just relying on pharmaceuticals to fix everything).

[YueAki]

Being the channel that made me seek therapy, I love to see those videos about how to go about therapy, you guys help soo many ppl

[butternutsquash]

Thanks so much for this. Years ago, I didn't go to school for my PsyD because the economics of where I would have to look for work in my area of interest made no sense. (500k cost for a 32k job) Listening to your thoughts has helped me think through how I might want to go back to becoming a therapist for a different population that doesn't get much help. You always inspire me to be a better person with your videos. Hope to one day write you a thank you letter saying exactly how you changed my trajectory!

[canadianwhiskysmith]

It's funny how the Universe works. Last month, someone at work ask:

"If a professional like a Clinical Counselor gave a 15-20 minute presentation, What are some of the things you would like to hear about?"

I suggested:
- How do you find a therapist that suits your needs?
- What to expect from a therapy session?
- Do I need a Counselor, Therapist, Psychologist, Psychiatrist? What's the difference?

While I was very fortunate and matched up through the luck of the draw via my company EAP, that doesn't always happen.

This video covers off most of those questions, and in only 12 minutes! Can't wait to share 😊

[alexandraflint]

Thank you! I’ve been thinking about starting therapy but wasn’t sure where to begin. This was a big help!

[coastaf]

It would be incredible if you could discuss having a partner who is the child of a parent who hoards. How to address the very real differences in functional standards of health, hygiene, mobility, scarcity, avoidance and prioritizing care and use on a practical timeline. Its a sensitive topic to bring up, and I love my partner and his parents and feel grateful to know such smart, warm, generous people. They live hundreds of miles away but we see them relatively often. I have stopped myself from cleaning while we’re down there since his father says it embarrasses her but it’s getting worse (dog feces, garbage piling up at doorways) but it’s still hard for my partner to discuss it with me openly. It’s like this bizarre shared blind spot for these otherwise lovely, high functioning, working people. Looking for a way to make him feel safe with feeling vulnerable to share all the feelings wrapped up in that, as well as build trust with him so I can (jointly if possible) coordinate cleaning and management of our own home in a way that doesn’t reproduce the same habits (I’ve been swimming upstream in hidden alcoves of Stuff/stuff to repair / magazines the past 5 years since I moved into his loft.)

[dianaheilman]

This is very useful. I wish there was a one-page sheet that broke down what the different types of therapists are. Something like:
Psychiatrist: can prescribe meds
Psychologist: deals with personalities/cognition etc.
Counselor: what does this mean
Therapist: what does this mean and how many different therapists are there?
Social Worker: a traffic cop that tells you where to go and where to get the resources you need etc.
And which one you'd need to find for what problem you have. So like if you have a marital problem....you need to find a couples counselor or marriage and family therapist. Because I don't know what to look for for what problems i have. Do you guys have a one page outlining this? Or perhaps something on your website for this?

[anan-aremere]

Can you please talk about dealing with intrusive thoughts? I'm usually good at keeping them out, but now that I'm pregnant it's almost impossible for me to control them. I panic and get anxious about everything - if I'm really sick or if I suddenly stop being sick altogether. It's exhausting and I don't want to live like that. My hormones aren't helping either. How do I deal with this?

[mercedesamacias]

Medi-Cal (poor people's government funded insurance here in California) has done a great job of ensuring I can access weekly therapy for nearly two years now.

Thru "California Health & Wellness" (the name of my plan) I found a great fit and I haven't had to pay a dime, even when in crisis and needing a second meeting in a week.

I am in full support of Universal Healthcare in the USA if it's at least as good as the program California has.

I'm in full support of Universal Basic Needs being provided as well. (Can't get well from anything if you can't make ends meet and don't have a safe, secure place to live..)

[samuelevans]

Could/have you done a video on "the difference between liking them or they're attention". A video like this would really clear things up for me.

[AgainstWind]

Really appreciate this channel and the knowledge you share with us.

[pakamausi]

this was very informative, thank you :)

[MoltoDolceCantabile]

I've tried 15 different therapists over 17 years, and so far I haven't found a good donut. The last one gaslighted me so badly I feel too traumatised to even try anymore...

[kimbers]

My biggest draw back with switching is having to start from the beginning. So is it possible to get ur records transferred? Also is there anyway to know how long therapy should last? This round of therapy that I am in I've been going once a week for over 2 years.

[probsnooneyouknowtbh]

I don't know if this counts as "therapy" in the way that most people mean it, but as someone with a learning disability and mild ADHD, I found neurofeedback to be very helpful. I have heard that it can be used for other things as well. Is this something you recommend? I'm curious because I know there is some skepticism/some would say it needs more evidence to back it.

[AmaraJordanMusic]

My brother’s a psychologist (working with families), and has advised me to get a degree in Social Work for Undergrad, then switch to Psychology for post-grad. Because with his Psych degree, he couldn’t get ANY job until after post-grad, and now that he has his Master’s he’s BARELY started practicing. (But that’s in TN, not sure how other states are.)

I’m having to start college at 32 because of chronic illness. So… I *need* to have a job for adequate healthcare, and I don’t want to start my career at 40 (if I take no time off for having kids).

I don’t know if my heart will be in Social Work, because I know eventually I want to help people who have chronic pain and deal with the stress and trauma they’ve dealt with. But I do know that beyond that specific goal, I want to help people, and I’m not going to dive into anything that I don’t completely rock at.

Also, as someone who’s been in therapy on and off for decades (mostly the stress and trauma of chronic health problems, lol), the tip about not worrying about transferring is gold. It really is key. I found someone with all the “right” credentials, but her… manner was just off-putting, and it put me on my guard. I then found a wonderful therapist that I stayed with for years, until she retired. The next one? Was a man and he was almost… argumentative? He made me feel about two inches tall, sort of… questioning all my decisions, not in a “did you do this to self-sabotage, ” way, but more like, “you idiot, how could you think this was the best call, you ruined your life!”

If that was my first taste of therapy I’d probably have run screaming and never come back! Now I’m with a wonderful woman and the visit is a highlight of my week. I’m always more energized, often happier, and never feel like I wasted my time or my money. I asked if it was crossing a boundary to send her the wedding video of me and my husband (because without her help early on the relationship may not have made it; he wasn’t used to chronic illness and I was very frustrated by his lack of faith and trust in me, or so it seemed) and got to show her this wonderful growth in my life that she helped promote. Yeah, I did the work, but she explained the workbook in a way I may have not been able to understand and work through in time on my own.

Psychology rocks, even now I’m working with one of the granddaddies of Behavioral Psychology, Jim Lemons, and realizing how far understanding the mind AND body rather than just one or the other, when it comes to helping chronic illness and chronic pain, it’s FASCINATING. In eight weeks he gives people tools that can break *decades* of suffering from pain. Do they still have pain? Yeah, usually, but it’s reduced, in part because they learn to manage stress in a way that doesn’t reinforce the negative feedback loop they’ve been stuck in since their illness took root. Changes lives like crazy.

I’m so hoppy mindsets are changing when it comes to psychology. It’s such a wonderful world of exploration and self-exploration, with so much power and potential to change lives.

We’ve been a world on pills. If we could become a world utilizing THERAPY, what a world it would be.

[catut]

Can any one tell me why In the 15+ years and 5 different marriage counselors that I saw, only one of them ever even hinted that my now ex-husband was being abusive and that he had no intention of ever changing. One therapist kept telling me that I needed to honor my ex's spots (meaning that he was a spotted animal and I was a striped animal and we weren't going to change that about us) . I think now I was being told that my ex wasn't ever going to change without actually being told that. Why didn't any of them say that the behavior I was describing and one actually witnessed was mental and emotional abuse?