r/Amithedevil I Dumped My GF While Her Dad was Dying

0:00 Intro
0:12 Attraction
4:54 Friend over wife
7:58 Comment
9:02 Weird
11:43 Coerced
14:50 All time POS
17:48 Best comment

[ismae-rienne]

If one person wants children, and the other doesn't...DON'T GET MARRIED! That is issue number one

[Mario-SunshineGalaxy]

OP is so concerned about being a “real man” but fails to grasp that leaving your wife because your ego got bruised and thinking about cheating has got to be some of the most unmanly things in the world. I hope the wife does come across his post somehow and leaves him, she’s too good for him.

[Queenxily]

This is a PSA to never try and convince someone to “compromise” on something as big as kids. She wanted her tubes REMOVED. He got the kid he wanted, and she’s a shell of a person. I feel so badly for her

[FrogAtPond]

Weird, my autism has never made me steal money from people... not even "accidentally" 🤔

[juanhaines]

What a pos. She literally saved him and this is how he delays her.

[TomDarkwulf]

The OP with the crying sister is absolutely OBLIVIOUS. Her husband is stealing from and harassing the sister and OP is completely blind to it.

[LavenderRare]

I once got a concussion from a soccer ball when I was 15 to the back of the head. I can guarantee that the wife mightve saved that man's life, and that man does not deserve her.

[Just_a_commenter]

I had to immediately pause at 12:46 OP pressured his wife, a woman he only knew for a year before marrying them, into having a child... And *_they struggle to afford formula?_* Was his mindset to just get a child as soon as possible and tackle the financial burden when it happened? No planning ahead, no building up a nest egg to act as a financial buffer, and just bulldozing through her desire to be child free?

Yeah, OP's awful for that alone. The sexism compunds things and cements him being a terrible individual. Way to go, genius OP, you pressured a woman you supposedly love into birthing a child she was obviously not prepared for, and now you're surprised she's having trouble.

[d.phantomfan]

Story 1: it’s worse than that R/, he was already losing love for her when she got pregnant with the kids he wanted and she didn’t. He also somehow found the way to be mad at her because he supposed to save the woman not the other way around, and somehow things she insulted his masculinity.

You are the man every woman is warned about, the kind of guy that shows no appreciation when someone goes above and beyond for them, wants his wife to do things that he ultimately regrets when it too late, actually try to make it seem like his cheating is to her benefit, or save the marriage. And the cherry on top, run away whenever they’re called out on their BS.

But you know what maybe he should cheat, so when the divorce starts and child support needs to be discussed, it gives her more ammo to take as much as she came from your sorry ass.

[silverflight]

Story 5: So the GF was suffering grief from the dad's brain tumor, and I guess OP didn't like that he wasn't getting any s3x as a result, so he cheated.

So instead of supporting her through this massive dark time, OP just decided to satisfy his own hunger for s3x, then broke up with her and filed a restraining order, leaving the ex to spiral and…yeah…

Read that note everyday, OP. Maybe it'll teach you to not abandon people during their dark times

[dracko]

Story 1: You know OP is screwed up that even the therapist says he is awful. The fact that OP said "he haven't gone back since" means he refused to accept what the therapist said. She literally save him, and this is how he thanks her? Devilish indeed.

[mrswhiteranger]

I have to say, as a mental health nurse, first story sounds like a HUGE trauma response. I think he may subconsciously be be relating his wife to the attack more than he thinks and it's causing him these thoughts. Homie needs to get over the bad feeling of therapy and get to it ASAP before he ruins his life.

[maygoodcometous]

Hang on, your baby is "on formula you can barely afford" but you force your wife into having a child SHE DIDN'T WANT? I am simply repeating the story because I can't believe the AUDACITY of the husband, and am speechless at his galling lack of self awareness: bad enough he basically forced his wife to have a baby that she made very clear she didn't want but, as Dabney pointed out, they seem to not be in a financially stable enough place to have ANY child, wanted or not!

[WishGender]

Last story: it's never your fault if someone chooses to commit suicide. HOWEVER! Abandoning someone at their lowest point and cheating on them can definitely contribute to an unstable mental state.

[tmansmith]

I love how in the 5th story that poor girl obviously has postpartum depression and is in an awful place mentally and his first thought isn't getting a therapist or trying to actually help her but instead call the authorities to "explain things to her" and put her in a hospital, OP doesn't have traditional gender roles he's stuck in an 1800s mentality where women get "fixed" by being thrown into an assylm.

[TomDarkwulf]

Can't believe first OP actually thought his therapist would agree with him 🤣

[kaykay]

Story 1: So op’s wife saved his life, and was severely injured, but op has been basically isolating her from his family because she has a few scars?

Coerced: So op is shocked that his childfree wife didn’t want his child. Why didn’t he break up and find someone who wanted his baby?

[kindracorbridge]

As someone who has scars and is proud of them, the fact that OP wants his wife to have scar removal surgery or whatever is completely nuts! This quote sums up my thoughts: “Scars mean you went through something tough in the past, survived it, and came back stronger.”

[Aymarichan]

Dude in the first story. wtf? Seeing that reminder of how much she loved me every day would make me love her more. Like, you really did that for me? You really took a rock to the face? For me??? Let me spoil you my queen. Dude has problems. On top of her carrying his child that he wanted so bad.

[suzannepottsshorts]

Fourth story- the wife needs an evaluation for postpartum depression, lots of therapy, and a good divorce lawyer