Complex PTSD: 10 Realistic Signs Of Healing

[cosmolosys]

You can also get emotional flashbacks when everything in life seems great and when everything seems better than ever before, without anything in particular that happened. I had this happen before. It's because there is finally enough space, safety and mental capacity to deal with certain emotions which we didn't have the capacity for before. I just wanted to put that out there because understanding this helps a lot if you can't find any reason for your feelings. 🖤

[aliciamg]

6:26 "a healed state does not mean your life is suddenly bursting with deep connection but it does likely mean you no longer have to reach and cling to unhealthy dynamics out of desperation" you summed it up perfectly

[Emily-tbud]

“Thank god, another broken person. Let’s go party!” sums up my early to mid 20s 😅

[juan_castellanos]

“And the biggest kind of surprise in my own healing process was recognizing that actual healing was about reclaiming the person I actually am, and no longer being ashamed to show that person to the world.”

That quote (and section of the video) hit me especially hard. Thanks for making and posting this video Heidi ❤❤❤

[Jantonov]

""Thank God. Another broken person. Let's party!" I laughed out loud to that. Boy do I relate.

[philima]

Wow, the "I only trust other people with trauma because they get me and "normal" people make me feel like a freak in comparison" is a huge problem in my life....😢 But still I'm on my healing journey. I'm hopeful it will get better.

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Summary of the video:
1. 2:30 Realize not faulted, its developmental trauma
2. 4:20 Seek authentic connection
3. 6:40 Recognize trigger and cope in a healthy way
4. 8:40 Healthy assertiveness more than flight
5. 10:10 Healthy trust of others through discernment and both self regulate
6. 12:00 Mistakes with compassion
7. 14:00 Restored faith in existence of kind, competent adults
8. 16:50 Open to vulnerability
9. 17:40 Recognize your recovery is unique
10. 19:40 Life is made of ebbs and flows

[NB-yulj]

That book changed my entire outlook…took a ton of pressure off. Made me realize I’m not crazy or just weak.

[Empoweredtarot]

It's been the longest path. I got my diagnosis in 2019. It's obvious that i had trauma, I wasn't aware of how deeply ingrained these past experiences were in my body though. Its a long path. Lots of grieving, setting standards and therefore boundaries. I'm beyond to where I'd like to be, but I'm a million miles away from where I was. I'm really thankful for your videos! They help a lot. I struggle in all relationships. Communication is getting better. Step by step I'm unwinding! Great video Heidi!!

[alisayar_]

It took me 5 months to accept that both my parents are narcissists and 9 months to accept that I have CPTSD.

I was so hard for me to admit that I was actually abused, even though I was physically abused as well.

And I think that if I hadn’t witnessed my parents abuse towards my little brother during these months, I would’ve probably just told myself that i’m exaggerating and gaslight myself.

I think that society in a whole just makes it even harder to do so. And even the criteria for diagnosis and the ACE test are pretty invalidating and can make you question yourself

[megansleeman]

I have a friend who’s currently battling with CPTSD. She has told me a lot about her story and I can’t tell you how many times I have cried for her. I am so angry at the person who abused her for a year and a half. She did not deserve any of that.

So she became a friend for a month or two and then things started moving towards more than friends. She has been vulnerable with me quite a bit and told me a lot about her. Which means a whole lot to me. She told me:

“I know you’re not my ex.”

“You are a good person, and you won’t use all this as a weapon against me”

I told her that I would never do that. At first, I didn’t fully understand how horrible this illness is on someone. She’s told me about how her brain works and how much damage her ex has caused to her body and mind. It’s so sad and I’m so angry. She has pulled away from me which now i understand why. Because I have been doing my own research on this and everything makes sense. I have realized it’s not me. She’s just not healed enough for a relationship yet. She told me that herself. I hope I can continue to reach out to her every once in a while letting her know “I am here, and I am not going anywhere. If you need to talk to someone I am here. Right now, as a friend.” Building trust with a person with this takes time. I am not going to force her to respond because I know she will do it on her own time. I am just wanting to show her that I am here for support. We both want a romantic relationship and we know it will take a while for her to heal. But I want to show her what a good relationship is without all the abuse. I know I can give that to her and I hope she can learn to trust me.

[JoeyTheShmo]

Truly such a moving channel, both internally and externally.

Life has felt like I’m navigating a pitch black room, arms outstretched and bumping into every piece of furniture possible. This channel shines a very focused light on where I’ve bumped into things before, and allows me to see them in order to avoid them again.

Life sucks when you “bump into furniture, ” this channel teaches you to give yourself grace for bumping into things and for feeling the pain of it. Even when the light is shined on it

May we all learn where our furniture lies. Avoid it the best we can in each moment. And feel/accept the pain of a stubbed toe here and there, knowing we’re learning with each step

[macypercy]

One of the many toxic things we as people with cptsd do is overthinking and all this psychology makes us overthink even when we draw breath thinking "oh god did I do it right?" !!!

[paintingthesouthwest]

I'm also going through a reread of Pete Walker's book after reading it a few years ago at the advice of my therapist, and I'm so grateful in reading that and watching this video, to have some of the healing benefits already in my life. It took years to admit to myself that things that happened to me were traumatic. Now I don't shame myself so much for the self-soothing I did to survive. Thank you for being vulnerable about your own journey of healing too!

[mindypaine]

Thanks, Heidi! All of your videos are incredibly well-planned, well-informed, and beneficial to helping people be more in control of their lives, relieve stress and pain, and be their best self. Hearing you validate our feelings and explain how to move out of negative patterns in invaluable. You're one of the best out there. This thank you and $$ is for all of your videos! So glad you have gone on a journey to understand yourself better and be in a more regulated state so you can enjoy a great life that you're helping all of us work toward.

[elisabethannwexler]

As a survivor of complex childhood developmental trauma who has engaged in different kinds of healing modalities over the years, I can say that your videos are incredibly insightful in both conceptual as well as practical ways. Thank you. The struggles with C-PTSD can often feel overwhelming. Practical guidance, models of how to approach ourselves & lives & most of all feeling compassion for our humanness is greatly needed. I agree that admitting to ourselves when we are facing a difficult time or cycle is really important. Yes, it takes humility to face what we need to face. Bringing even more compassion to ourselves during these times is essential. .

[verlyn]

You are just amazing. I just wanted you to know that.
I cry watching your videos, because now I know there is a name for how I have been feeling since I was 11… CPTSD.
It’s not just my weird personality.

[Michelle.]

Don’t Leave Me Now. I will use this phrase in those tough times

[johannagrace]

I have read Pete Walker’s book “Complex Post Traumatic Stress Disorder; from surviving to thriving” seventeen times. It is a very comprehensive resource. Each time I have read it, I have gained something different. The journey to healing is long. It helps to refer regularly to Pete Walker’s ‘map’.

Thank you for this video Heidi. You are doing great work! 💕

[neant]

The “don’t leave me now” part is something that I will steal for myself, as I needed something like this precisely today, and nothing else worked, but this — did. Thank you real much for sharing ❤