12 'Nice Guy' Mistakes Making You Look LOW VALUE

I hope to see you on the inside!

Unfortunately, some of you guys are making mistakes that are common to 'nice guys.' It's a problem because nice guys are perceived as having low value. They will not get the high-quality spicy senoritas, will get everyone's sloppy seconds, and will not make as much money or have as many friends. In other words, they will not live the life they could if perceived as having higher value. I will review some nice guy mistakes that hold men back.

No boundaries. This is very important and one of the most attractive traits that a man can possess. If you're always available and open, you're constantly allowing people to take advantage of you, which indicates to other people that you have low value. Set personal boundaries for people and situations.

Fake nice behavior. This behavior is typical for nice guys. They make nice gestures or kind things with ulterior motives. Just be a good dude.

Conflict avoidance. If you're always saying 'yes' or never standing up for yourself or the people around you, that signifies that you are a p^ssy. Nobody's attracted to a weak man.

Being needy. Whether or not it's with people, girls, or whatever, there's nothing sexy about a guy who is always needy, pathetic, and not coming across as confident. Kissing people's asses is not respectable.

Submissive body language. Communicate better by standing confidently, having good posture, looking people in the eye, smiling, and shaking hands. A weak shake makes you look low value. It's all about confidence and how you carry yourself.

Sloppy appearance. Don't look doughy because others will think you suck, look weak, and have low value. High-value men care for their bodies and have body fat under 15%. They do what they need to do to take care of their temple.

Messy dressed. Dressing is one of the quickest and easiest things you can do to elevate your perception. Dress with style and intention. Dress like a grown-up. Invest in a tailored, high-quality suit to make you look confident and successful. You can also dress the suit down by wearing the slacks with a polo shirt, which is not your daddy's polo. Mine's from Collars and Co. The fit, fabric, and construction instantly upgrade your shirt game.

Overcomplementing. Giving compliments is essential, demonstrates comfort in your skin, and makes others feel good about themselves. But there's a fine line between giving compliments and overdoing it. A compliment must be authentic, so giving multiple complex compliments in one conversation makes you look low-value.

Being passive. If you're never taking action, not making decisions (always saying you don't care), you're acting like a nice guy. You need to have an opinion and be concise and decisive with your actions to look high value automatically.

Having low standards. If you settle because you think you can't get better or you're worried that you'll fail, then you don't try, and you're reducing your standards. Whether dating, getting a job, or pursuing your dreams, you must have high standards, translating into being viewed as a higher value. High-value men have high standards for carrying themselves and interacting with others.

The Martyr Syndrome. Nice guys act like victims to gain attention. They try to get a helping hand or have people do things for them. Do not act like a victim. You are strong, capable, and competent. Take ownership of your actions.

Not accepting responsibility. Low-value men deflect responsibility for their mistakes and say it's not their fault. They're always looking for an out and blaming other people. This automatically makes you look low value. High-value men accept responsibility for their mistakes and apologize when something is wrong. But they don't overly apologize. Do not apologize for things that aren't your fault because that will make you look weak and feel less confident.

[herocoolface]

Used to watch you a ton back in 2017 and randomly got this recommended to me years later. Love that you’re still helping men out. Respect

[Ben]

"Do not accept ownership for things that are not your fault" Thank you for this truth.

[GABA-Gool]

Good list but I hope the "avoiding conflict" part isn't taken the wrong way. There's too many guys out there who feel the need to "stand their ground" over petty arguments/distputes and end up in worse situations that they could've avoided because they let their ego cloud their judgement.

[theharshtruth]

I've never asked a girl for a hug. Ever.
It just sounds like a thirsty move.

[RaisingJackal]

Thank you for the video. Really needed the boost. It's been a rough month mentally. I'm going to practice these tips.

[jamesstoppel]

I really needed this video. Thanks Alpha!

[daneoman]

Great video I really REALLY needed this 25 years ago

[joxpose]

The conflict & boundaries go hand in hand for me. I'm working on being assertive without being a dick or just coming off weak/pushover. I try reminding myself that I dont need approval from others to be productive and steadfast on the path I'm taking.

[mauricefleming-hxcb]

Thanks so much. Your content is very helpful

[hajinezhad]

There needs to be a delineation of the "appearance of high value" vs "inherent high value", i.e., extrinsic vs intrinsic. Being in shape, dressing well, grooming, etc. are things any low-value man can easily do as well. It may fool the outside world of low value people, but high-value people will see thru that. Speaking eloquently and intelligently, being in charge of your life, accepting responsibility, controlling your emotions, , etc. are not so easy and take time to develop. The qualities that truly make a man high-value (the intrinsic ones) only resonate with other high-value people.

[alshareefahmed]

Content that is needed especially for men nowadays

[geno]

Confidence is everything! Every man needs ! I felt confident asking my wife out 35 years ago! Where I worked! Great vedio!

[AzureDragon-syhf]

Thank you alpha. Had a partial labrum a couple years back and I’m progressing on bench press again after taking a bunch of years off. On top of that, I’m hitting everything to failure. It feels great to get back into it.

[chriscampos]

Your content is moving up in stock, keep it up👍

[independentpuppy]

As they say "Nice guys always come last" Women don't like nice guys. Well, except to treat them like a door mat. Never simp for any women.

[YuryYav]

Love your videos as always. Polos look great. The only thing I’ve noticed that if there’s a belt path on the pants, there needs to be a belt. Even if its just for appearance. Thought I’ll mention this. I know SFA about style and could be wrong; however, that’s just my opinion:)

[ChefMuppet]

Yo Alpha, you have to go live again sometime. That was great. 👍

[livelovelaugh]

Honestly it's for videos like this that I still follow Alpha. Telling a generation of men who often have not had proper men in their lives to guide them to the strait and narrow. This guy does his utmost in that cause. Repsect.

[Slothups]

As someone who wears their heart on their sleeve usually and is naturally authentic to a fault (autism), and still getting rid of people pleasing behaviors, I really appreciate how you talked about the topics in this video. It's clear you're have compassion and empathy especially when you talked about over complimenting, passivity, having lower standards and martyr syndrome.

I hope you take this well, you kind of remind me of Chester Bennignton a bit in the best ways, he was real and authentic, wasn't afraid to say what he though t and spoke his mind, all while having a huge heart and fighting in his own ways for what he believed in and giving people hope.❤‍🔥

It's important to remember that masculinity can look different and not every man shows his masculine nature exactly the same, but there are fundamentals of what makes a man truly a man that cannot be forgotten, I like to think of Uncle Iroh as a great fictional example

Thanks for this video and I'll check out more of your stuff, very well done!

[wileyallen]

Your actual value is measured in your own attitude and self respect. You can have all the money, toys and power in the world and still be a low value knob. You don't have to be a doormat, nor should you be, but handling things with intelligence increases your value. Knowing a bit about a lot is more valuable than knowing everything about only one thing. Look the part and BE the part.
Alpha always gives the best advice...listen to what he is saying.