WHEN THE INFJ GIVES ‚MAIN CHARACTER ENERGY‘

INFJ Life Coach Lesson: Explore the INFJ dark side beyond just causing pain. Discover the danger of surrendering control of your own narrative and the impact it can have on your mental and emotional well-being. Don't let others dictate your story or feed into their fantasies, as this can lead to a loss of identity and purpose. Trust your intuition to guide you towards your true desires and aspirations, ensuring that you remain true to yourself and your journey. Embrace self-awareness and self-empowerment as tools to navigate the complexities of your inner world.

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[Wenzes]

What is your experience with absorbing so much of others' energy, that you completely lose track of your own narrative?

[corporaterobotslave]

This sounds like it's for infjs who still search for external validation. I left that realm years ago. Generate your own validation.

[PenelopePitstop]

~ I am 62, infj, sigma and have been following Wenzes for about 3 - 4 years. Yet, I still almost tipped over a limerance cliff, shaded my intensity and gave more energy toward a younger guy who pursued me. I had to gently end the 3 month fling, I can’t believe the amount of time & energy “trying” to share insight into me, and ask too intense questions in order to understand why he couldn’t seem to hold any level of conversation. Idk, it’s late, I’m binging on Wenzes tonight. I just appreciate the life affirming insight❣️

[Eirene]

This gives answers therapy has never provided!

[lindateuling]

The statement that most stood out to me was:  "Find people you can help by being yourself."

This is excellent counsel on helping others -  but not at our own expense.  I wish I had realized this a long time ago - but the important thing is, I have learned it and this video is a super way to remind myself to keep doing it.

[jessmason]

Being honest with yourself and others help navigate through the distractions.

[KatePamplin-sp]

I went into hermit mode after 3 years of narcissistic spiritual abuse. Really dove into the Bible and my MBTI/enneagram, and I just want to praise the Lord for His loving kindness and mercy on me in revealing that I am not an accident and I have accepted my higher purpose that most are not willing to accept for themselves. I am INFJ 1w2 which is what Jesus has been analyzed as. It is so comforting to know this for me. And if you ever go study Jesus and all that He said and did, you will be incredibly blessed by it.

[GreenWizardPTR]

I come back to what you have said in a previous video, and that will stay with me forever:
"Lead by example."
I realized when I saw you talking about it, that I've been doing that unconsciously for some time now.
And that's what changed everything for me. People who were "sidekicking" me all the time, started to gravitate around me. Everything else starting to fall in line.
I feel it really is the key to the healthy INFJ life. Speaking as a man. I can't say about women.

[BloomingMeadowsCo.]

This is so spot on.. Your videos have chanced my life. Im very thankful for you ❤

[marinamayer]

It's annoying to me, I atract guys who see me as a blank page and make up a whole new personality for me, has also happened with female friends.

[KathyJacksonSanDiegoRealEstate]

Good video.. We really do need and want to give.. It's in our nature. When others don't want what we have to give it can be crushing.

[aquariusstar]

"Not giving the narrative to others to influence how we see ourselves"...im working on that rn with a mentor who means well by trying to validate me repeatedly but already has slipped up and tried to diminsh me. I could see the game so clearly. It is a bit of an energetic mess, but Im glad I hv clarity on it. I can pause things and get re-centered and remember i am in charge of my life and my self-image.

[ianrockwell]

Thank you for the clarity. I very much relate to this.

[luckyxxxxk]

I got into an argument with this dude who pushed me into being mean to him (I dnt like being mean bc I knw my tongue is lethal) and he accused me of thinking I’m a protagonist in anime show. 😂 not my fault you think I’m the main character I’m just living my life being me 😂 and I’m not let you talk to me any type of way. Mind you I’ve known him for 3 weeks.

[DearYoungerSelf]

15:28 "High-Stakes Relationship" - Wenzes I hope you coin this - because this term speaks to how we find ourselves pouring our gifts, energies, advice, expertise into the ones who we are most energetically close to - and I have strained - ruined relationships this way because I had not casted my net far and wide (versus narrow and deep). Another term I heard here first "Psychological distance" - I know you have used this in other videos to explain this unique experience for us also. We are on the New Frontier of INFJ growth and I am here for it!

[thedopeone]

I enjoyed this video alot it's crazy how people can't our true selves and if we walk around what people want us to be we're gonna be depressed Wenzes said with us INFJs we see through people on we truly are and majority of the time that's why people don't talk to us that often we see what's up through the facade that they're putting up

[derekmorcom]

I’m a year out of an 8 year relationship where our entire dynamic was feeding into each other’s fantasies, and I didn’t realize it at all while in it. I loved it all more than anything, even though I was depressed and anxious and had mounting health problems. Now I’m out and the fantasy has been shattered for a while now, and I still just miss it all so much, even knowing how unhealthy it was. Life feels so muted and dull now, and as hard as I’ve tried I’m struggling to figure out how to create those emotions again for myself, but not through another person

[BeStillandKnow]

I gain so much from this video alone:

I am complete. They are complete.

I don't fulfill their fantasy (what I can see is missing in their life). They don't fulfill my fantasy.

Because feeding into their fantasy doesn't help equip them to fulfill it in reality… even though I’m coming from a place of wanting to make them feel good about themselves.

[jeem]

Thank you Wenzes, I'm bettering myself and with your help it has positive and realistic results.

[simplesimon]

i am so thankful to u.... ur videos heal parts of me i didn't even know were so much wounded