The Main Challenge of the INFJ Personality

In this video, I explore what I believe to be the main challenge that many INFJ's face. Here's a few other videos you can check out if you like this one:

[Madhukirtan]

"If you are an INFJ and everybody is happy with you, you're probably doing the wrong thing..." Wow!! You are such a beautiful person, Clay!

[OmarDelawar]

I learned fairly early in life that being hated was the right way to be. Save a life (yours) by always staying true to yourself.

[thejiddy]

Infjs cringe when people praises them. They may smile and said thanks, but in their head "am I really that worth of a praise?"

My personal rule that I made years ago is this:

"The less I know, the better".

Yes, it does sound ignorant but it's for my own protection. I'm protecting myself from all those negativities around me that may be having some negative impacts on myself. But this only applies to knowing about things that people do and not about knowledge in general.

[soyo]

"People are not going to get you if you are being yourself." 😂🤣 The story of my life. 😭 So I've learned to not be myself. Then I have to go find myself again.

[sirmeurtrier]

I never thought I was crazy I just thought people were stupid because they couldn’t understand my viewpoint

[hopeinhumanity.]

For myself I’ve had to learn that some people can’t be “saved” and don’t have the capacity to change. It’s getting past the cognitive dissonance and into acceptance of what is. ❤️

[BirkeClara]

The extroverted feeling is really the worst for me too. I used to be really bad at it when I was younger. I would put myself aside to please others and then I experienced that people will be unhappy with me when I stop the extroverted feeling. Especially with guys, I've had to be careful with this after I grew up. INFJ women really can attract the most horrible men if we are not careful about 'making them feel better', I'm careful about boundaries and dating these days. It's important to have healthy boundaries when dating, because you can sacrifice yourself in an attempt to get a relationship. Especially with the cultural upbringing that you have as a woman, it's even more dangerous to fall into the 'pleaser' role.
I am lucky enough to have a mother who is a very strong woman and have a lot of knowledge about psychology and she has always helped me cope throughout my life and tell me that I'm not crazy. It's really important to have that experience in your life as an INFJ.
Also about having everyone like you, I am going through that (again....) because I am currently in a situation where I am scared of other people's reactions. So thank you for this video! And just do you! Wow what a long comment...

[ojxolape]

Someone once told me social media is like listening to everyone’s thoughts while walking down a rowdy street and woah...

[briandickson]

I think it's healthy for INFJs to write out and openly define our boundaries. Meditations (Marcus Arelius) & The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck (Mark Manson) are both solid reads for INFJs. It's important to be self-defined and truly focus on what is benefiting YOU. Embrace being selfish because we are naturally more selfless. The negatives actualize the truth and show us how to grow...pushing for the positive can create problems. Be true to you and learn how to respond.

[danisa]

‘A candle loses nothing by lighting another candle’ Your insight is appreciated more than you could ever know Clay. Thank you

[ria]

this felt like the warm hug I needed while growing up

[barbarawarren]

Chilled yet super intense - me too, so true!

[freneticsanastatics]

"People are not going to get you if you are being yourself." - nailed it

[tiwiogu]

This feels like I'm watching myself, it's so cool.

[neferkroll]

it is funny because sometimes people (who are starting to know us) takes us for very calming, chill people. Then when they criticize something (or us) without thinking before speaking, and we have to show our "intense" mode, they think we have been fake, or not reasonable... and they tend to think we are not trustworthy, because we "appear so different from what we were". it just drives me insane... how people can be so superficial... in the past I really used to struggle with this, I couldn't make any friends - and then I decided to hide my "intense" mode. but that was just not healthy... nowadays i try to balance it a little more, but I guess it will always be a challenge...
thank you for this video, once again :)

[justme-ldxz]

I'm proud to say I've got my extraverted feeling down, in a good way. I can still be compassionate, kind, making others at ease but I've definitely mastered the art of marching to the beat of my own drum and not taking shit from no one. Took about 3 narcissistic relationships with "friends" and a burn-out to get this down, but hey I did it 😂

[Kickback]

This past year, I learned that I'm not crazy, but an INFJ... (still kind of crazy) Videos like this may seem like they are just for you, but I feel like you are speaking straight out of my own head. It helps a lot for newbies of the topic. Always make content for yourself first, and the people that need to see it will show up. Thanks for what you do!

[mandyvincent]

"Either I am crazy, or everyone else is crazy" was what prompted me to see a therapist at the age of 12 just to find out. Therapist told me that I am of an elevated maturity and intellect, so it would appear that most people were strange or crazy. This started my journey in life were I understood that I was NOT the NORM. I became very selective of who I allowed into my 'inner circle'.
I prefer the value of someone's character. I have two actual friends, but several surface level people in my day to day life.
Thank you for your video.

[ctdali]

Very interesting analysis. I usually end up living my values, but often alone. The challenge is to accept what is and let things go, not change others.

[JC-qjyy]

I can feel (Know) a person is a narcissist immediately. I can be around them more comfortably now, because i know their next move. If I have trouble with them, i can separate my feelings from theirs just by telling myself what are my feelings and what are theirs. This is very grounding.