THE MAIN REASON AN INFJ IS STILL SINGLE

INFJ Life Coach Lesson: If you're an INFJ, have been single for a while or just can't seem to find yourself in the right relationship then this episode is going help shed some light on what could be causing your dating drought. It turns out there's actually one main reason why so many INFJs are still without partners.

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[chilcade]

As an INFJ-A woman I have never had a problem setting boundaries. But I find most men wont accept that I have morals and goals. I don’t want a master I want a soulmate, to share life with. I would rather be alone then settle for less. Modern dating is painful, so many toxic and dishonest men out there.

[precious]

"Looking for someone to escape your life" - that summarized it all for me.

[theunrestrictedbookclub]

Finding someone consistent, reliable, polite etc is even harder than finding someone that gives you excitement

[TrayHere]

This INFJ is 59 and never married and I’m still looking. I don’t look very hard. I do love my single life and quiet home. I have friendships which are few but just fine for me. I don’t want any narcs, codependents, or losers. I’ll stay single till I manifest that that person who brings me that joy stability and growth. 😊
Thanks I’m a new subby.

[abebber]

Escape all of life in general. Life feels like a bad dream most days. I wish I could just die and be free from all of this

[melindagraceaoanan]

When we can say, "I don't really need you, but I want you, " then we got it. Thanks, Wenzes! ❤️

[Betscu.]

This made me think that we INFJs are great escapists. 😀 And that needs to be stopped: Now!

[healingwisdom]

I stayed single for 5 yrs to "work on myself" and during that time I was going through one of the toughest times of my life too. When I finally got into a relationship, it was for infatuation of physical appearance and putting my ideals onto that person hoping they actually meant what they said. Ended up being ANOTHER abusive relationship 😔. I'm desperste to be loved, by the right person. Being alone and lonely is a death sentence for this INFJ. So hard not to look at people's potential, bc I want someone to look at me the same way, but be realistic about it too

[mr.goodwrench]

Do I feel like it's harder for INFJs to find long-lasting and fulfilling relationships than most other types? Yes. We are rare and often misunderstood. I believe it's because we INFJ's have high standards, we are thinkers and we "walk the talk". The reason why I have been single for so long is because I have been avoiding toxicity and drama. Even though I realize I'm not perfect, I am always in a state of constantly improving myself. And being single has worked for me tremendously. I'm definitely not needy. When I do meet that one fine lady, I hope she is an INFJ as well. Her and I would take good care of one another because we would understand one another.

[karenaubrey]

63 and single: Stay positive and attitude with gratitude!

[violetalar]

After 30 years of being a hopeless romantic with a clumsy/almost non-existent love life, I gave up. I accepted I was most probably never gonna find a partner and I started to focus on myself and on making other parts of my life something I can be happy about even if I'm alone. From then on I suddenly started having better romantic relationship. Not perfect, but way healthier and solid. So, yes, I totally agree with this vid😊

[mypov]

"still single"? I choose to be single! What is wrong with that? Focus on enjoying the moment just being who you really are and you will be surprised by the relationships that enter your life! Embrace being an INFJ, its a good thing!

[Wenzes]

Do you feel like it's harder for INFJs to find long-lasting and fulfilling relationships than most other types?

[richardpidgeon]

After about the 3 minute mark of this video I thought 'Holy moly, this is so accurate!' ...and it just continued. I think this was such a truthful and important video Wenzes. Thank you!

[johnmichaelrichards]

My last relationship lasted for 22 years. The lady I was with, was never one of my infatuations - we were introduced to each other and it worked. We worked well together. It was eventually eroded by my infatuation with another (who was never to be). Chasing what I thought I desired, rather than being with the one who gave me all I needed. I've been alone now for six years. I messed up and will likely die alone, with my infatuations. I was even infatuated with Wenzeslawa for a while. I got through that now. That is progress, of sorts...

[nmercenary]

Wenzes, That seems to be my pattern; the infatuation phase you mentioned and then me realizing it. Then me becoming those characteristics i potentially saw in that partner. Then just moving on because i no longer related to them and i learned to embody those characteristics i was wanting from that partner. Honestly if i could clone myself and upload a copy of my consciousness to said clone; i like to think i’d have my ideal partner...is that narcissistic? It’s the one major thing i have trouble solving in my life. I want a partner, however, how can i make it work if i just keep becoming the person i’m looking for? And it’s not just with a romantic partner. It’s the same with family. I find myself becoming the family member i always wanted. The brother i always wanted. The father and mother i always wanted...it’s strange. I learn to embody those characteristics i want and then i realize i don’t need people to be those things for me because i have me...yet i still crave that human companionship. How would i begin to resolve that; keeping from reducing people to being human pets?

[DariaPonomarenkoArt]

You released this video just in time. Everything you said is the absolute truth. and I'm really tired of making my life so good that I just forget about the possibility of entering into a relationship with someone. Im crying, thank you so much.

[jenniferanderson]

This was bang on!! I have the perfect life all planned out for me and my man if he would only get on board!! :) After many years of friendship I am completely aware he is not who I want him to be. I like him anyway. But I am working very hard on creating the life I want for myself now at 62. I am still cool and want to find an "add on" not an "escape plan". I'll just keep being me and creating my life. It's a win either way! (sitting here with messy bun recovering from COVID after finally leaving the house, but I'm gonna rock this when I'm better!!!) Thanks Wenzes, you are bringing the light.

[hoochpooch]

I've had many failed relationships due to what you describe. I had one good loving relationship for almost two years in my early 20's n I wonder if that was it. I'll be 51 soon and at this point, I'm pretty good at being alone and single. Your videos are pretty informative n I relate to them alot. Thank you!

[johannazulkifli]

Gurrrlll...feeling that...so much...mostly wanting mental stimulation...a non-boring relationship...