How to Win Any Argument. Jocko Willink

From Jocko Underground 40.

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[joesullivan]

A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger. ~Proverbs 15:1

[AIShizzle]

Jocko is one of the few "influencers" who actually gives good, solid advice

[watdeneuk]

If your whole point of arguing is to win, you already lost. The point is to listen and to see if you can learn anything new and always be open to the idea that you can be wrong.

[dunderwood]

1000% spot on assessment. I own my issues. Self reflection = Self growth for me

[arnienai]

I have read (Studied really) Jocko's book on Extreme Ownership and this guy is a genius and giant, who really has the ability to connect with his audience.

[dwrabauke]

This is why I love Jocko Podcast.
You dont only "give advice" but you explain it with examples and why you do it.
Especially how to deal with confrontational people or "difficult" people in the job environment. Those episodes in particular helped me out a LOT at work.

In the past few years I was able to change things in my life and work on myself and interact with other people in a better way.
I wouldn't say "oh you changed my life" but you helped me find ways and the confidence to do it myself and I am truly grateful that you put out so much great content.

[cortezandthekillers]

I knew this was going to be an excellent snippet when it’s shot in color because normally when he talks, it’s in grayscale. Leadership gold!

[EagleEye]

As a physician I can say that this is similar to our protocol when we discuss or negotiate next steps for patient's various conditions

[Dementia.Pugilistica]

If you have an open mind, there are no winners and losers, just students and teachers.

[mojave]

I've been using these for life lessons with my high school students. These talks help both them and me. Thank you for making them.

[TXP]

This is great advice for a variety of situations. The indirect approach works well with sincere people, who truly believe in the things they profess. Sincere people are generally more interested in finding the truth than winning arguments.

However, this approach will not work with insincere people, or bad actors. For example, consider politicians. Most politicians are insincere. Most politicians will do anything to retain or increase their power, regardless of whether their words or actions are consistent with their campaign. Their priority is to gain power, not pursue truth, because they believe the only truth IS power.

Trying to build a relationship with insincere people is like trying to win an argument with an intoxicated person - it’s impossible, and a waste of time. No matter how right you are, and how much evidence you present, you will never win them over. The only relationship you can build with insincere people is a toxic relationship. Once you know who they are, don’t engage, just avoid them.

[StrukeTheDuke]

I always need this Friday videos from Jocko. Starts the day and workout right

[Red_AIert]

It’s wild listening to a man with so much useful knowledge and simultaneously knowing how much damage he could do with that knife in his hand if it were necessary. Thanks for the video gents. 🇺🇸✌🏽

[Steven-rpzo]

Reframing is a great approach! And it's also important to realize when you are engaging with an individual who is not working with you in "good faith". Sometimes recognizing a toxic relationship and distancing yourself is the best way to insure that you do not get poisoned as well. Do not ignore red flags, they exist for a reason!

[Bluto_von_Glooben_Flooben]

Jocko needs to keep writing books that encompass more psychological jiu jitsu like this.

[postapocalypticwarlord]

I won't step off my path to look for devils. But I certainly won't let any to pass me by. Was looking for fights until my mid 20's, but now, I don't argue, I'm making a point. In this day of age, most of the people are stuck in emotionalism. I value gathering knowledge way more than sharing it. As you said, the best way to win argument is to not engage in one. Good points though, I wasn't even aware I do so many of those little nuances until you laid them out. Seems I'm more meticulous than I've gave myself credit for. Even in argument, I'm rather allowing opponent to throw at me what they have. Internet isn't street, no body language, no eye contact. People will choose to insult you, because it comes with no consequences. That was tough one for me to adapt. But if you let them talk, their insults will tell you everything about them. So I've learned to listen.

[ScottOrd]

+1 for the mention of 'common ground', having common language is a bonus too ;)

[dhlml]

This is gold. And it ties well with the importance of discipline. When someone throws an excuse upon excuse on you about why sth can't be done, and you know for a fact that the excuses are all false... it takes extra discipline to stay calm and find a common ground.

[KillaCommieFerMommie]

The strong rule over the weak, but the SMART rule over the strong.

[mileage_master]

My wife says I like to argue, I told her "no I