Are you an introvert or extrovert?

[carolinegracegary]

Kaiti manages to do both solid psychological advice and great style at the same time

[samanthaclare]

I always thought I was an introvert but really I think I’m an extrovert with social anxiety

[eliontheinternet]

Eh, I don’t think there’s anything wrong with surface-level conversation for surface-level relationships. I don’t think I’m “lying” or “faking” when I’m less upfront in casual chats, I just think I’m being polite and reading the room. Social skills are actual skills. I’m not going to ask a stranger to navigate my emotions.

[sofieislate]

“photo shopping my personality” that is one of the best way i’ve heard it described! thatnk you for this ❤️

[RiRaszka]

Being intro/extravert and being shy/bubbly are two different things. You can be a shy extravert or a bubbly introvert, just be yourself :)

[camielsa]

I convinced myself the same thing! My reasoning was that i wasn’t as outgoing as some of the extroverts in my class, and people didn’t really gravitate towards me as much, but I’ve come to learn that I just have to find the right people :)

[Lee-ymqm]

You remind me of an older sister i’ve always dreamed to have one, you’re so supportive, funny, and you teach us how to be ourselves. Keep going Kaiti !!! We love you and we’re so proud of youu <33

[z_bennet]

exactly! i was always insecure about my real self and would fake a cool extrovert persona but no im awkard asf and i dont hide it when i meet with new people anymore even when the awkwardness can be… awkward :D it takes time for me to open up and i will respect my boundries idc!

update from 11.17.2022: even tho i made this comment i still struggle to be myself sometimes. and coming back to this video made me realize how much it helped me. thank you Kaiti.

[thesavingsorceress]

I am the most introverted hermit possible except for one weird thing. I absolutely LOVE throwing massive themed parties. I thrive in my solitude for months on end, but once a year I emerge from my underground cave ready to throw down. I don’t know how to explain it, but I’m glad I’ve accepted this part of myself. ✨

[Nelle]

Well something that can help you figure out is that being an introvert doesn’t exactly mean being shy more so loosing energy when talking to people for a while and being extrovert means you get energy from taking to people

[midzylife]

I'm an introvert who has a fear that if I don't entertain or amuse my friends enough they'll leave me, so I talk as much as possible and stick to them for hours and make as many jokes as possible while dying inside.

[peachbooks]

omg this is ME 😭 idk why i feel the need to fake being peppy and act bubbly it's so tiring!!! the real me is actually just really quiet but ik most people would think im being rude

[nbdyrealy]

i’ve always known i was an introvert, i always regain energy and feel better from being alone. the thing is though, i just manage to talk to people better than what you’d expect. sometimes i can come off as an extrovert because i’m talking to lots of people, but really, THEY came up to me and are keeping the conversation going. i just have decent talking skills.

[aeshisly]

We are the same, I’m an introvert but good at faking as being an extrovert. I do laugh loudly sometimes, talk with people next to me, trying to hit up a conversation with my classmates if no one wants to talk in a grouping, but I just want to finish everything up fast and go home and watch movies and dramas on my own. INFP here :)

[bangchan]

that was a smart loop
also i can somewhat relate to that, im glad im not the only one

[MsEri]

I agree, being authentic is soooo freeing and less tiring!

[judyibrahim]

You can also be an amibivert, which is both at the same time.

[kioshekat]

I needed this. I've realized I've opened up a lot more lately and have made better friends but when I was nervous about meeting new people I sometimes forget to stop masking my true self

[regitacelia]

oh my god. this is a game-changer! i’ve always faked my personality when i’m meeting new people or when im at social events, i never rlly thought that faking my “real” personality is a bad thing, now im rethinking my whole way of meeting new people. thank you very very much!!!❤

[ddeokjinnie]

Honestly what ur therapist said was really an eye opening moment for me. I always had trouble talking to ppl bc I was worried if I opened up randomly then they would think I'm weird