What do cheaters feel other than guilt?

Replying to @risingfilipina - Cheaters often feel shame, guilt, embarrassment, humiliation and many other things that deserve to be talked about. Cheating is always the wrong choice, but if we as a society want to help people change, they have to be compassionate. #affair #infidelity #affairrecovery #affaire #infidelityinamarriage #affaireconclue #infidelityrecovery #affairs #infidelityrecovery #cheater #cheating #postinfidelitystressdisorder

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[wn]

There are so many different reasons as to why people cheat but it really on a deep level comes down to low self esteem. 9/10 times it has nothing to do with you but their never ending need for external validation.

[kunntakentay]

You’re a strong woman for having such compassion for cheaters. Although we have a different outlook I commend you 🙏

[leeslyrose]

True. My ex was abandoned by his father at a young age. Early on in the relationship, he said: I know you’re going to leave me. I was like: why? Are you doing something bad for me to leave you? Him: no
Guess what? He ended up cheating so ofcourse I had to leave him.
One thing I realized is that he keeps on projecting that trauma when his father left him so he subconsciously does things to get others to leave him, even in his familial relationships.

[AuroraPhoenixx]

Mine never felt even admit to half the stuff I found out (with proof).

[elikagf]

No ... There is no reason other than selfishness

[SGalvarez-cd]

Whatever the case, each person does it for different reasons, and no matter what the reason, it’s inflicted emotional trauma on another person. I am say it’s like reaching in and tearing another persons living heart from their chest while the victim just stared at the perpetrator in the face. First shock and disbelief, then excruciating pain and bewildering confusion. No explanations.
And later a lot of B.S. and gas lighting’s to justify, then confessions and woe is me, im a victim this is why this happened. Im sorry, can we stay together? No, I’ll only remember this the rest of my life, I can’t forgive this happening to me. Goodbye. The best I can tell you is I’ll try my best to leave you alone and not go after you for revenge. Bye 👋

[HayseedHick]

they dont care....what people say is BS...what they do matters

[mrtwister]

Have all the empathy you want for them. Maybe they will learn the appropriate way to behave in their next relationship.

[smtqt]

I think understanding the why is an admirable thing…I personally can’t do it anymore, as my cheater blames me for the cheating. I know he has some loneliness and emotional reasons, but he tells me his life Is great and he just cheated because [insert horrible criticisms of my looks and body]. I have to have compassion from afar now.

[billcarney]

Even if you take them back after being unfaithful, you still have NOT DEALT with the fact that they DID NOT talk to you about what was bothering them BEFORE they chose to be unfaithful. Until THAT is resolved, the risk might still be too great for reconciliation. I believe, however, that forgiveness is mandatory because if Jesus has forgiven us for ALL OF OUR SINS, we must also do likewise for others.

[lyssabloom]

Forgive does not mean trust- trust is everything- marry a true friend.repent n let the innocent one go and find real true loyalty love ❤

[yakityakteriw]

Oh my God speak. How does one talk more in depth with you on this subject?

[moyamrinu]

so do they not cheat because they like/are attracted to the other person? i've had a really hard time understanding why my very monogamous and serious partner talked about feeling attracted to someone (and then cheating while ignoring me, complete 360).

[AmyWilliams-rl]

New here. Have you ever been cheated on? If you have done the cheating you can speak to it. If you have never been cheated on, how can you know. How can one relate?

[michaeldragicevich]

Just dont put yourself in a position where u would cheat. Make no mistake my friends. There not upset they cheated. There upset they got caught!!! If they felt bad about Cheating they never would have put themselves in that situation

[eye-conicben]

All of them are true. Worless human beings overall.

[xxKuroKajixx]

Okay but that does make them a bad person. They become a good person when they correct their mistakes and do better. So yeah a cheater IS a bad person. That guilt is them knowing deep down it's bad and they need to change.
I say that as someone who did cheat as a teenager. Haven't done it since i turned 19.

[darlingthimblemoon]

I wish I understood why my boyfriend cheated on me.

[Wigglers]

Because people shouldn't have compassion for them. End of story

[DanielGuersan]

They are indeed horrible to the core. no excuse