How Narcissist, Borderline Overperceive YOU (and Reality) (Conference Presentation)

Video presentation in the 35th International Conference on Psychiatry and Mental Health, Osaka, October 2023.

Overperception bias:

Sexual (men)
Intimacy (histrionic)
Threats (paranoid ideation)
Slights (hypervigilance and referential ideation)
Narcissistic supply (grandiosity: when bias meets distortion)
Abandonment-Engulfment (borderline personality organization)

LITERATURE

[Savage]

Love your videos. My next intimate partner will be chosen wisely🙂

[sandragalloway]

Love your sense of humour... makes these lectures so much fun. Yet another great video

[auntkaren]

How you perceive yourself greatly influences how you perceive others.

[JJones-nrpl]

MY "mother" was a Covert malignant psychotic narc. In her mind, she and her cult "family" were perfect and had no mental illness at all. After being repeatedly beaten up as a child by her and now as a young adult, things just just got worse. My father got killed when I was 20 years old. Mom and her "family" then really started to increase the abuse, invalidation and harassment. Any attempts by me to earn money were secretly sabotaged by her or one of her evil family.This way, I was stuck living there and used to do work like some sort of slave. Mom played the poor pitiful role well and got some neighbors as well as others she knew as narcissistic supply. Various repair or other work was done for her and being the cheap narc never wanted to pay for it. Any money or any "help" she gave me was done grudgingly; never in a loving way. I was seen by her as a loser; she had the same contempt for my father. One of her brothers got a LOT of money from his dad and became very well off financially. She was impressed by his success and was in denial about receiving a beggar's portion of money from her father. SHE had to have furs (she purchased TWO mink garments; one jacket and ANOTHER full length coat!) These furs spent most of their time hanging in a closet in their storage bags). She also coveted/desired a luxury automobile (a reliable vehicle wasn't good enough for her). She bought a large Cadillac automobile that was expensive to maintain and operate. Money was also spent buying jewelry and taking trips. When her home needed repairs, she hesitated and procrastinated. The roof on her home had repeated leaks. Only when a hurricane blew the roof completely off did it get repaired. Most of this was paid by an insurance settlement. Otherwise, the roof would not have been repaired.
This sneaky, evil, manipulative, lying, thieving and narcissistic bitch went to her grave never being held accountable for all the crimes she perpetrated in her home to me and my father. At her funeral, her wealthy brother was of no consolation to me. He was angry and upset that I was in control and complained about my choice of casket remarking "I don't want my sister buried in a wooden box." The casket was more than adequate and proper. His reaction was typical of his mean, condescending and contemptuous attitude he always had of my family. Moms entire family was never of any help to my family; we were always the poor losers and were the but of everyone's jokes.
GET AWAY AND STAY AWAY FROM NARCS. STAY NO CONTACT AND NEVER GO BACK AT

[annetgreen]

Prof Sam Vaknin, Your informational videos are so brilliant and amazingly insightful; all packaged in a box of factual wisdom and wrapped in unique humor.
Much appreciated! Your information has given me much- needed understanding.
I can listen to your videos over and over and learn more every time. Many thanks from NZ :)

[KikoSolaris]

Never heard of over perception before, but now hearing it, it explains a lot. Thank you for sharing!

[michaelanedvedova]

I'am bordeline in long recovery, its a hell ish life really, my ex partner is narcissist....thank you for videos it helps a lot

[michaelnoding]

Prof Sam Vaknin, Thank you so much for sharing your riches. Exodus 3:7 The LORD said, “I have in fact seen the affliction (suffering, desolation) of My people who are in Egypt and have heard their cry because of their taskmasters (oppressors); for I know their pain and suffering. Blessing to you! Proverbs 10:22

[jeannfav]

Your intro made me laugh! Good way to start the day (with coffee of course)!😊

[soniaprovard]

As always, Dr. V, you explained that difference between Cog. Bias & Cog. Distortion (the narc) so well that I had one of those “eureka A-ha!” moments.
Have a lovely day😎

[ooohyeah]

I would like you to go more into decision making

[JelenaVesic-gb]

Coukd you please coment recent tragedy in Belgrade. We can only suppose that parents are with narc issues but nobody destroys character as a cold mother.

[toomanymodz]

Every time I watch these videos, I want to grab me a glass of cabernet sauvignon

[sakshikaura]

Do such people also believe that other "normal" people overperceive things just like they do?

[lovelysosweet]

I think men do this more that’s why they murder!