What Imposter Syndrome Feels Like

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[heronekkotheanimer]

Imposter syndrome sucks a lot. You could be a leading expert in some field, holding a top position on a company and still feel inferior to your peers or that you are just lucky.

[GDem]

Imposter syndrome leads for me to procrastination because I'm so stressed I manipulate myself to not do stuff. And when I achieve stuff it is never good enough. There must always be done more. I could have done so much more. I never succeed like I think I'm capable off and it really bothers me that I have the feeling I screw myself over again and again but in reality I just don't take breaks and acknowledge how much I leaned into my work and how much effort I have put into it. It is an uphill battle. Everyday.

[somethingsomething]

More and more, the “normal” person seems more like the ideal human we strive to be rather than the normal that struggles through multiple mental issues. It’s seems more common to struggle than to be in the flow state.

[properantagonist]

I have crippling impostor syndrome likely because my parents never vocally appreciated me and my efforts. Even if I was at the top of my class in school, it was never "well done", it was always "continue working, you can always do better". There was no room to breathe, only pressure. It broke me.

[JacobRoc]

I would also add that this can lead to self-sabotage/giving up in order to not face those feelings of inferiority !

[sadboisibit]

I had imposter syndrome for the first 5 years of my software career. I dropped out of college when a company came to me through my prof with a job offer. I never felt good enough so I continuously increased my output year after year. More work, more responsibilities, more side projects. On days when I needed to decompress, I would sit alone and day drink. It all stopped when I had 3 weddings in a row each separated by 2 or 3 days. For the first time in 5 years, I never took time off (never took a vacation, never needed sick days). It's been a few years since and I've never really felt like I've "restarted". I still love my job and when I need to I can get back into that "grind" mindset but for the most part, I've relaxed. I've made new friends. I've found new hobbies. I now use all of my vacation time every year. I finally feel confident in my abilities. However, it's not all sunshine and roses. A new challenge has approached: ego.

[Kotifilosofi]

I feel like the impostor syndrome is the reason why some people become experts to begin with. I've always had people telling me how good I'm at arts, how great it's I got into uni, how well I'm doing at a challenging field. However, since I always feel like an imposter, I can never take any praises seriously. I feel like I really haven't done anything impressive or that anyone could've achieved the same if they just put their mind on it, I always see all the things I still need to improve on rather than which I'm already good at, and I always feel like people praise me just to be nice or since it's socially expected. As a kid praises even irritated me since I didn't think I was really that good at anything but still people would praise me like I was making literal miracles.

Imposter syndrome has it's down sides, indeed you never feel like you've done enough and had the right to relax. However, it's also the force that pushes you to get even better at everything, and the motivation never gets down. Well, if you manage to not burn out, that is.

[eyanwortham]

This is exactly why I burnout every few years because I sometimes feel like I don’t get the feel good emotion from achieving anything I just feel like that’s another thing done but there’s always so much more and I’m a waste of talent if I give up but I don’t feel like I belong in a successful life but I sometimes think it’s because of self esteem issues and I try not to self diagnosing but thank you so much for this video definitely got me thinking 😅

[aurorarockets]

As an actor who is constantly applying, auditioning, taping, yet rately securing work, it's easy to feel like an imposter when I finally get a job because I have such low confidence in my ability after so many rejections. I justify getting a job with "maybe nobody else applied" or "perhaps their first choice pulled out". I never believe that maybe, just maybe, I did a good job. I hate it.

[Saaunn]

tbh in my case I tend to work very hard, succeed, then get so afraid of the failure I know is coming and how it will affect the pride I feel that I immediately sabotage myself lmao. Accomplishing things is relief for me but italso makes me more fragile

[LysaBell]

I am now basically the boss of a design agency after being hired just 2 month ago for just a normal position. Everyone is convinced I'm very good and know what I'm doing and I'm terrified of them finding out I don't know certain things. Everytime I get a new task I'm completely freaked out. It's exhausting. Everytime I accomplish something I am grateful how lucky I am and I'm just waiting for the s*it to hit the fan and something falling back onto me. I've been dealing with this feeling my whole life and I'm exhausted to pretend I'm calm and relaxed and in control when internally I'm screaming in fear.

[Stoicambition]

This is a mental battle, anything I accomplish I just feel more insignificant.

[vivianho]

I didn't go to my graduation for my BS bc I felt I didn't deserve to, and then a couple years later my brother's graduation got cancelled bc of COVID so my mom didn't get to see either of her kids graduate from college 😭

[crisrodriguez]

I'd not be surprised if there was a high correlation with ADHD, it's like you're so used to struggle with easy things (when others don't) that achieving something difficult feels like "huh? Must be luck".

[evaningstar]

Generally speaking, I don’t have imposter syndrome. But boy do I know this feeling.

[patrick]

I feel like this mindset goes hand in hand with adhd. I've accomplished a lot and I'm about to graduate college after 6 years (5 of which I went undiagnosed) and yet I still feel so inadequate and like I haven't earned it. I constantly overpromise by a huge margin to both myself and others and fail to live up to those promises which leaves me feeling like a failure despite knowing I still got 80% of the way to a goal that was twice what was asked.

[noderzleadgen]

imposter syndrome is such a blessing however, as you achieve so much more than without it. You multiply your perceived efforts and get things done, but you musn't let it from causing true harm or lack of growth in areas of your life.

[donnadie]

I'm feeling that right now, I can't believe I've achieved so much in a short time and I feel that I'm going to lose all, and I don't think it is an "imposter syndrome", I do really feel weird like I don't fit here

[charcoal]

For me it's more like, when I get praised for doing something well, I feel like a disappointment if I don't keep doing it and getting better at it. Even if it's something that doesn't interest me that much.

Then I feel like a fraud and like my life is run by others, until I get fed up and stop doing things altogether and inevitably everyone is disappointed in me, until I start doing a little again and the dreaded praise comes and the cycle repeats. I'm not sure if it's imposter syndrome, but it seems related somehow.

[frostlemoncake]

Now I wonder if komm susser tod is somewhat about that "It all returns to nothing
It all comes tumbling down
Tumbling down, tumbling down
It all returns to nothing
I just keep letting me down
Letting me down, letting me down"~