Imposter Syndrome Is Holding You Back In Life...

In this video, we'll explore the intricate experience of grappling with Imposter Syndrome and delve into effective strategies to combat its effects.

Imposter Syndrome, a common phenomenon, can have a profound impact on one's confidence and self-worth. We'll discuss the emotional and psychological aspects of experiencing Imposter Syndrome, shedding light on the feelings of self-doubt, inadequacy, and the fear of being exposed as a 'fraud'.

Dr. K’s Guide to Mental Health explores Anxiety, Depression, ADHD, and Meditation

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00:14 - People with Imposter Syndrome
1:27 - Understanding Imposter Syndrome
4:34 - The most common shared feature of Imposter Syndrome
6:35 - What Imposter Syndrome actually does for people
8:41 - Imposter Syndrome is not a psychiatric diagnosis
9:41 - How Imposter Syndrome gets maintained
15:05 - Developing a sense of pride

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[papillon]

Impostor syndrome doesn't always lead to working harder. It also leads to paralysis, procrastination, breakdowns and burnouts.

[ktvx.]

Your description of "gifted kid whose success was never atributed to effort by their parents" is exactly what happened to me. After years of therapy, I went from being competent but feeling like an imposter to "I literally don't know how to do this but I'll do it anyway and learn as I go". It's so satisfying.

[papillon]

There's a lot of impostor syndrome in the disability community as well. It's not just about achievement. It's also about "am I suffering enough to deserve this label that might help me?". It can be devastating.

[saraseehusen]

Definitely me, getting my engineering degree I failed a lot of tests and went to tutoring for 4 hours after classes so I could stay in the program. I cried over my homework EVERY weekend but I was terrified of failing. Once I got my degree with a 3.7 GPA, everyone just said, “Of course you did, you’ve always been smart” I’m still suffering at 27, but this video has given me a great starting point, thank you.

[GalaxyBoi]

Personally, in terms of impostor syndrome, I feel like I might have it. Not in the form of "people might realize that I didn't earn any of my success, " because I can recognize when I've worked hard to earn my position in life, but in the form of "I'm afraid to lose all of my friends and family because they've not yet realized I'm an idiot and don't provide any value to their lives." I don't know how many other people view it from this way, but I figure I would share it just in case someone out there feels the same way and wish to not be alone in this regard.

[genem]

Cognitive patterns from the video (and things to work on)

1. Devaluing their own efforts that lead to success (consider the efforts that got you here!)
2. Attributing other people's success to hard work (consider the lucky breaks they got!)
3. An emphasis on pleasing others (find intrinsic reasons to attempt tasks)
4. Very concerned with external opinions and external validation (develop a sense of pride in your own accomplishments)

[ocarstens]

It feels like as soon as I’ve accomplished a goal, I immediately assume it must not have been as difficult as I’d previously thought. If it was as difficult as I thought previously, I wouldn’t have been able to achieve it at all. 😅 So I don’t celebrate because it feels silly to celebrate something that isn’t difficult.

[charumohonbagchi]

"Accomplishments don't lead to a sense of competence" this one hit really hard man

[evelinepieternella]

I'm dealing with massive imposter syndrome, but I wouldn't particularly call it an advantage. I generally have to take breaks or entirely quit projects because the anxiety becomes too much. However, I've been reflecting and trying to look more positively at my own accomplishments and it's been helping a lot! Really nice to get an even better understanding through this video :)

[Lizard]

The hardest part of my imposter syndrome is that I work in animation. And what stick to me ever since I first learned how to animate (and I believe it works the same for most art-related jobs) is that your eyes develop for animation slowly, so people more experienced can actually see more nuances and mistakes than less experienced people. So that means that, if I think my animation is good, then maybe that ACTUALLY mean that I'm just not good enough to see the bad in it. And if I CAN see the bad in it, then it's actually EVEN WORSE because I'm sure there's even more things that should be fixed that I can't see because I'm a bad animator. So I'm never happy with my work and everyday I hope they don't decide to ditch the bad animator of the team that can't see her work is bad.

[Muscaplays]

I had somewhat of an imposter syndrome when I started my apprenticeship as a plant mechanic. I was never a „crafts“ guy before so I felt at a disadvantage towards other guys that had workshop classes at school or dads that showed them how to do stuff. I was always scared that my superiors would find out that I‘m a nerd posing as a builder and get thrown out. Well, turns out no one in my class knew how to do everything- and my anxiety to be sussed out in reality just came from the fact that I always felt I knew less than I should- which is completely normal and the exact reason WHY I was in an apprenticeship. Because I still had a ton of stuff to learn.

[ccovera]

"They begin to believe that achievement should be effortless in nature"

-This helps me to understand that I should NOT always look for achievements and success to be a Breeze. Alot of people (ME) think that motivation is a magic force that causes all of my endeavors to be easy but I have been learning that's not true.
"When your WHY is important enough, the HOW gets easier"

-This is important to note because I don't even suffer from imposter's syndrome but I can watch every Dr k video and be sure that something he says will profoundly benefit me in some way.

[V_ftn]

I have impostor syndrome and let me just say that coupled with depression it is an absolute nightmare. At that time of my life, every day at work was exhausting because maintaining this "mask" took all my energy. I remember constantly thinking about my bosses finding out about the masquerade, that I was just a clown tricking everyone into thinking I was good at my job. And gosh, it was so hard because I was trying my best not to fail and disappoint them.

[nisnocky]

14:47 i laughed then i cried, i honestly cannot believe there's people out there happy with their accomplished while someone else is disappointed in it, one more thing to work on

[thisissophiaisabelle]

Imposter syndrome can be difficult to deal with. Thanks for sharing your own insights.

[GurpreetSingh-pddt]

What I experienced from my imposter syndrome is that I never enjoy any moment. I get anxious and panic, thinking do I really deserve this. And have a fear that one day it will end I will disappoint everyone.

[imsonoided]

I have autism and mask in my day to day life. So, imposter syndrome hits hard for me. I'm worried people will find out and stop being my friend or respect me at work and school. I feel like I'm only successful because people think I'm neurotypical.

[smashingpancakes]

Remembering the things my dad told me:
-You passed a class only because your teachers pitted you or were tired of looking at you.
-Real artists/musicians/athletes are born that way and shouldn't have to learn anything. If you have to learn then you're a fake.
-the only reason you were accepted into a really difficult college program is because they didn't have other applicants to pick from.
-sure you got a B but it's not an A, sure you got an A but it's not an A+, sure you got an A+ but you can't go back in time and undo that B can you.

[neildutoit]

I often wander whether there isn't a link between impostor syndrome and bulls*t jobs. If you're like a mechanic or something and every day you fix 10 people's cars, I struggle to imagine that someone like that could possibly develop impostor syndrome. But if you're working in like management consulting, where there's no immediatel/direct benefit to someone that you can see and internalise (and there might well be no indirect benefits either), and half your job is literally just learning jargon, which jargon is used by actual fakers all the time, that seems like a prime environment for impostor syndrome. I felt like a huge impostor when I did consulting. And I feel like much less of an impostor now as a developer. Though sometimes I find myself working on projects that I know will never reach production and are just being done to use budget or please a funder or something, and then I feel like a fake again. Interesting that Dr K talks about CEOs and people at "high performing institutions". These are people who are detached from the fruits of their labour. Thoughts?

[KaitouKaiju]

That part about success not being attributed to effort really resonated with me. As hard as I work, my grandfather always claims I'm lazy even though I was a straight-A student, graduated with honors, and have a much better job than he ever did.

It always seemed like no matter how well I did, effort was never acknowledged whereas if I made even the slightest mistake I'd be heavily punished.