Should You Date A Single Mom?

Corey, Chunky and Jocelyne discuss a viewer question that asks if you should date a single mom.

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[Supremmo]

I knew plenty of single moms since my teen years. At this point in my 40s, naw.

[wanderingbob]

As a single father, and provided I know (vet) the person then 100% yes,
I would rather she has the experience of parenthood.

For men without kids, I would be far more wary and wouldn’t blame other men for choosing women without kids.

It’s not really a contentious topic in my experience.

[Vjuego]

I tried, but she cheated on me. She was living with another guy (she never told me), but she was making plans with me to live together and saying 'I love you' every day. Eleven months of building something, all gone to waste. Her daughter was so sweet to me. I really thought she was honest with me, but in the end, she lied to me and her husband at the same time. Now I can't forget her.

[philzan]

Short answer: no.
Long answer:
You have to deal with their kids, with no authority, deal with her ex and so forth. Why have all that hassle when you could date someone with no baggage?
Avoid. A widow, I could understand. A divorcee? No way.

[thomasbrennan]

If the single mother is still parenting her children, then generally speaking, the answer is no. Don't date single mothers. Primarily because of lifestyle clashes, but also because single mothers are mainly looking for security for their kids and can be absolutely ruthless about it. You are there to give, she is there to take and give to her children.

If you're dating in your 40"s and beyond, your dating pool will be mostly single mothers. If their kids are grown and they are no longer parenting, it's not as much of an issue.

[winstonsmith]

I ask the single mothers "Where ia the father?"

And all I get are excuses.

[alijawda]

I just had a single mom cancel on me. It sucks. She said she cancelled because daughter but I don't know. I'm just going to move on.

[Nihlstorp]

In most cases, no. You'll have a hell of a time trying to take care of the kids, and on top of that, you'll have to pay for them. You must be really desperate to even consider the idea.

[andytdm]

Been going out w a single mom of 3, she's a really amazing woman, was a traditional wife, but financially she's having a really rough time, ex husband left her with basically nothing. She doesn't ask me for money but anytime she wants to go out she's been paying her mom $100 to watch her kids, when she lives with her. Dating her is going to cost more than other women who have more time and no kids but aside from that she's a total catch...

[kevinperlow]

Very suprised with coreys answer on this. Ive been burned by them and will prefer to date with other women preferably not divorced. Its just a preference so im open to the possibility of something dependent upon their character. Just because you were abused doesn't give you the right to abuse others.

If i were to entertain the possibility with anyone long term, thats gonna have to be a truly special woman. Great vid.

[southduck]

Then she leaves you and you never get to see kid again?

[Kivano-]

Been there done that and moral of the story is, never date single mothers, unless the father is dead or the child is a girl and under 4y old. And mind you, I did this after reading your book over 15 times, which doesn't teach you how to establish boundaries with the scumbag father. Kids that grow in such an emnotionally chaotic enviroment, be it separation or a full on divorce, rarely emotionally develop well and often develop personality disorders, especially boys. There was a reason for the breakup, and even if the woman is high quality, it only means that the dad is a scumbag that will do anything to undermine your authority, even using his own child. Men, get your shit together and find a woman without baggage, because in the long run, you are the one that will get hurt. You will literally take care and invest financially and emotionally in someone else's offspring and they will in turn do anything to sabotage your relationship, so how is that a win for a high status man?

On the other hand, a big Kudos to men, who sacrifice their own peace and ambitions to raise someone else's kid. The world has enough damaged people. It's just not my cup of tea.

[chriscarr]

NO WAY!! Because, it's not your responsibility to take care of someone else's child.

[Mike_Cosentino]

If she has daddy issues, family issues, financial problems (always asking you, the White Knight, to cover her monthly bill/s) then she’s not worth it. If she has little to no family issues, if she is truthful and transparent, so go for it. But this 28 year old should wait til his thirties to explore this more imho.

[jbthedon]

29 year old single dad but something about dating single mothers throws me off.. my daughter is disciplined, smart, an athlete, a good kid. I have no child support, no courts, no drama.
I can’t picture myself taking another man’s son to the barbershop or having to go through disciplining the child. Only if she’s a solid 8/9 and has a daughter, I would consider it. I’m 6’3, fit, law enforcement, degree, live alone, and live in Los Angeles. Perhaps the caliber of women I’ve had has an influence on my preference. ALSO, I want another kid.. dating a woman with a kid or kids means our house has to have 2-3 more rooms which means more money needs to be made

I want Corey’s input .. am I wrong?

[trevorlawrence]

You will never be a priority in their lives...so no.

[adamsaldana]

Im dating a single mom with one 3 year old. They are the most precious girls in my life and I wouldn't change them for the world. She knows what her actual priorities are, and that's a green flag

[rmjmoviereviews]

I agree with Corey. It depends on the circumstances and character of the mother. If it was simply a case where she was married and they grew apart then she's more than likely a good woman. If she's disloyal and a liar then she's for the streets.

[ionutzcar]

why would you want to raise someone else's kid instead of yours?

[TheSushiandme]

i am talking to a single mom who didn't tell me she was a single mom with a 14 yr old kid... WTF... She didn't tell me the truth... I only know bc i FB her profile