The #1 Reason Men Don’t Want To Date Single Mothers!

[bingohorseman]

Thats my Child. Until we are at the mall then its our child. Smh. You can not have it both ways

[GCata-yshw]

I dated a single mom once and was at a work function (we worked together). Her kid was annoying some of my coworkers by running through them, bumping into them and just being a general nuisance. She saw what a pain he was being and did nothing about it. I asked the kid to stop and my girlfriend pulled me aside to rip me a new a**hole for disciplining her child. Later on that day he was playing on some rocks and fell hurting himself pretty badly. She then ripped me another a**hole for not stopping him. I broke it off soon after and never dealt with single mothers again. Too much trouble

[jtom]

To be honest I’m starting not to like single mothers as girlfriends either. They have patterns in their friendships as well. They never really bring anything to friendships, use kids as a reason to not show up in friendships and every conversation feels like a therapy session. Get higher vibrations from my non mom girlfriends 🤷🏽‍♀️

[countrylay_d]

As a woman i am not angry with any man who refuse to date single mothers. Men have a right to their preference.
Its some kind of entitlement to ask a man to be ' the man of the house' but your children ( who's not his) is out of limits. He must house them, feed them, protect them but can't discipline them? Thats a senseless woman and no self respecting man will sign up for this BS.

[EvybdyhatesJuJuj]

That’s just one of the many reasons fam.

[Invertmini]

Dated a single mom for a month and i dodged a huge bullet... The baggage and trauma she projected on me daily was sickening... The first time I also got a dose of feminism and how it caused massive brain rot. Protect your peace at all times kings.

[maryradoy]

This is the hardest thing to learn as a single mother. Especially if you are a single mother who was raised by a single mother. But it's 100% truth.

[williammills]

I was married to a single mother of 2 for 12 yrs. Worst 12 yrs of my life, bait n switch. Men don't do it.

[meathead]

Guys, I went through this as a stepfather. My Ex Stepson tried to buck up at me when he was a teenager. I checked him real quick. His father call talking $#!+. I told him ok. Give me your address and I will ship him to you. "Crickets- Crickets" He was silent after that. Guys DO NOT date and definitely DO NOT marry a single mother.. Not worth it!!!

[niekodante]

I was dating a woman and she wanted me to help with her son as for getting him to listen and just mind. He was dozing off and I told him to go lay in his bed so he started crying and she ran in the living room and got sassy and wanted to k ow what I said/did to her son. I was like nah I ain’t with this shit!

[davidtoney]

Only single mother that I ever dated in my life had a really good conversation with me when things were getting serious. The conversation was about the child. I told her that a mother and child was a package deal. If I was going to be the husband and dad in this, that I was going to be the husband and the dad in this. We've been married over 29 years and we have raised two wonderful young men. They aren't perfect just like me. They do however get out of bed everyday and work to support themselves and their families. The child that I was referring to last week while we were all out to dinner celebrating his brother's 25th birthday, well he slipped away and paid for everything before the dinner was over. He said it was his way to say thank you.

[Trey-wcyz]

Brother you told nothing but the truth..I tried to date a single mom with 2 young kids! Never again..horrible experience..one day I was sitting there thinking 🤔..what the hell I’m doing..

[ezekielsparadise]

This is one reason why it didn't work with my ex. Didn't wanna discipline that damn kid. Then I found Kevin Samuels right after I ended it. Perfect timing.

[Handleitnow]

I’ve done the step father thing and I dealt with the same thing for many years. I don’t recommend it. All things including how kids felt to precedence over me and my thoughts. After years I stopped giving my opinions and taking on any types of responsibility. She had it easy when I was involved now she does all by her self. Don’t do it fellas.

[somethingbanter]

My dad actually ran into this situation with my stepmom for a long time. My stepsister was young like really young and grew up to be a real brat for a while and my dad was never allowed to set rules or punishments or anything because "that's not your daughter" but it was his daughter when he was needed to provide support or money or anything like that. I can definitely see why men would avoid single mothers with all these cautionary tales

[viosofp]

I know a few men who were with a single mom for a while and when she left they had to break the relationship with kids as well.

[keifcor]

I can't relate. There's another side to this story. I been married to my wife for over 22 years and my daughter was 4 years old when I met her mother. My wife never got in between and stopping from leading the house. My wife trust me. If a woman won't allow you to teach or correct her child she don't trust you and you should never be in a trustless relationship.

[rissarys]

My stepfather is amazing. He took us on and continues to treat us as his own. Thats b/c my mother allowed him to do so.

To the haters:
#1: A man that married a woman with children doesn't do so, b/c he has 'no other options ". Y'all have to stop with this narrative that men or women who take on a spouse with children is somehow just desperate and willing to settle for anyone or anything.
It's the hardest thing in the world to bring a blended family together and make them one. It takes a special kind of love and respect to care for children that aren't biologically yours.

#2: YES! "Allowed"... him to be a parent in every way. You can't ask someone to take on your child or children, be responsible for them financially, physically and emotionally then, turn around and demand that they don't discipline them. It doesn't work.

So yes! The biological parent MUST ALLOW the new spouse/stepparent to be a parent in every way. In my case, my father passed when I was 9yrs old so, there wasn't another parent to challenge my step dad. However, if the other parent is still living and involved then, both biological parents have to agree about what role the stepparent will play. They still have to allow that person to be a parent to their kids

3: A woman who won't allow her spouse to be a parent to her kids but, wants them to be financially responsible...isn't looking for a husband/father. She's looking for a bank account.

A man who allows the women in his life to dictate the type of father he is to his children is a Simp. There's no way in hell a real father is going to allow anyone to dictate the when, where, how and why of his parenting.

4: It's one thing to have multiple kids with multiple partners and then expect to find someone that will take them on. It's completely different to deal with a person who has divorced or is widowed and has kids. Just because the relationship that produced your kids didn't work doesn't mean you don't deserve another relationship or your kids don't deserve the love and support of another parent.

5: Almost a third of the Black community is under 30 and we have whole generations that are practically missing when you compare the numbers to other ethnicities. If you continue to shame people for taking on spouses w/kids, you are basically condemning us to remaining a broken culture. Children don't thrive without support and stability. If you continue to shame those who are willing to love and support kids they didn't make. Then you are also preventing those children from having stable 2 parent households that their biological parents clearly weren't capable of providing.

[ms.tishadawn]

And this is the reason why “Kevin Samuels” promoted marriage first then kids💐💐💐

[TeranIcer]

All single moms aren't like that. In my experience being a step dad, me & my stepson got along great. The mom never went the 'that's MY baby' route. He never said 'u ain't my daddy' either(bcuz I met his mom when he was a preteen). It CAN work but she HAS to have ur back when it comes to discipline.