Restoring Your Marriage After an Affair (Part 2) - Josh & Katie Walters

Infidelity can rip a marriage apart — and it’s hard to imagine a betrayal more painful than finding out your spouse is involved with someone else. Josh and Katie Walters share the story of Katie’s affair with the husband of their good friend couple, and how Katie vacillated for quite a while, torn between doing the right thing (ending the affair) and still feeling love for the other man. Meanwhile, Josh was convinced by God that divorce was wrong and he needed to love Katie as Christ loves the Church, which meant pushing through the pain and hoping against hope to rescue his marriage. Josh and Katie have developed an acronym — S.T.A.Y. — for struggling couples. "S" stands for "Start with me," or taking ownership of your own sin and mistakes instead of blaming your spouse. They also address “T” — “Take quitting off of the table,” and Katie shares a story of making a vow to the Lord of “You can have my feet,” which meant she still wasn’t sure about her love/marriage with Josh, but she wouldn’t be going anywhere.

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[caitlyndecker]

This is one of the most powerful and amazing messages I’ve ever heard! Wow. I’m amazed by Josh and Katie’s honest vulnerability and openness to share so much of their story from the hopeful to the hard. Amazing!!

[LeonardEarnshaw]

A flawless marriage or relationship doesn't exist. There's no universal recipe for success in these matters. What suits Adam may not suit Peter. Nonetheless, I discovered that every problem has a solution. Five years ago, my wife and I faced the possibility of divorce due to marital challenges, but we reconciled

[Mrs.Nichols-dqeg]

This truly blessed me. I listened to each piece twice. Thank you for sharing, I have been encouraged by your testimony.
Blessings

[rsmoromisato]

I admired couples who stayed together after an infidelity because of forgiveness and restoration but it feels to me that she has joy for sharing that she was unfaithful to her husband

[carson]

I'm struggling with the feeling that she doesn't seem remorseful. It feels like she cheated, and her husband had to convince her to stay. I feel like if I were in his position the resentment would eat me alive.

[NeverTooSleepy]

I can’t get behind on the cheated spouse blaming himself for this? Absolutely nothing justifies cheating.

[meganjohnson]

No one should ever do End it. Men need to stop cheating on their wives, wives need to stop cheating on their husband no no no!!!

[sheryllmoscoso]

Thanks for sharing your story. Very inspiring.

[audioadhd]

Shame has been removed from the church and the reason he stayed is so he could appear stellar to not lose a ministry position

[janeemyers]

I'd like to know what lead up to her looking for or falling into emotional support outside of her marriage.
Because, I know for myself. Whenever I try having any kind of conversation with my husband of 37 yr. He always acts like I'm bothering him.
So, just wondering what their communication was like before that happened.

[melissahaneline]

Help me- this was an emotional affair over a few months, right? Never was an actual physical betrayal?
Not that such a thing is without consequence, but it's certainly a lesser issue than what many are forced to face. She dodged the question in the first session and it matters.
I'm left to wonder how those who deal with worse circumstances and unrepentant spouses were affected by this discussion and her suggestion that grace is needed for the offending spouse.

[NeverTooSleepy]

The victim blaming in this video was so triggering to me, that I have been in a dark place since I watched it yesterday, and now it shows up on my feed again 🤢

[dawnbishop]

She is “gloating” that she was able to get her husband to take responsibility. Cheating is a choice….period.

[Doris-yv]

why waste your life with someone who knew of the consequences the affair is more important then the spouse

[nelarizaj]

I love this ministry but honestly this is not what people are going through. "Emotional betrayal"- what do you mean? For 5 months you had "feelings" for this other guy but never met, hugged, kissed and no sex? Is this what you're trying to say?


I presume that people who are going through horrible cheating wouldn't be able to forgive and reconcile and please @focusonthefamily let's not see reconciliation as the only way that honours God!
Why not have a podcast on how to start life with God and kids all over again after betrayal? This is probably very relevant for many.

[viviandegraff]

Never any way back from that kind of betrayal and its biblical to divorce.

[NeverTooSleepy]

As a cheated spouse I can say that the The STAY mnemonic is very triggering to hear 😓

[bree]

Im very much struggle with her attitude. She is not truthful. If he cheated she would destroy him.

[davidsmnje]

Katieee confess your other affair!!! Stop playing this bs to sell books!

[woodybop]

This man has been manipulated into thinking it was his fault. What a sick sham. Now she’s just trying to own it and embrace it to sell books. Disgusting.