Having a Miscarriage

With everything we've shared with you guys so far: our infertility, Jessi's endometriosis, our IVF... it felt appropriate to also share our miscarriage experience. It's another thing that so many people go through, yet there's a huge lack of information and support out there. It's always expected that these are things you must suffer through in silence, but we disagree. So we wanted to share our experience with you and let you know, if you're going through something similar, you are never, ever alone.

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[lumanoraepa]

I have had three miscarriages. all at the tenth week, all with curettage. it was devastating. I felt responsible for everything: yet I was in bed all the time, but my body rejected this little being in my uterus. my relationship has undergone many shocks, if it hadn't been for my partner who is very stubborn and madly in love with me, today perhaps I would be single and depressed. we decided not to try anymore. in August 2023 my partner says to me why don't you take a test before leaving for holidays? so out of nowhere. "It's fine" I tell him, to leave calmly but I never expected something positive. I didn't react well. I was afraid of losing him again, of suffering physically like the previous times. we didn't tell anyone because I didn't want people to look at me with pity after my fourth miscarriage. Today I'm 32 weeks. it's a real miracle, we still don't know why three pregnancies were lost and this one wasn't. but miracles sometimes happen. I hope that your heart can receive everything it desires. I pray for you and for your two little ones who await you ❤️ a hug from Italy

[Michelley]

I cannot agree with you enough about telling people you are pregnant right away. The first time, I didn't tell anyone, and had to go through a miscarriage silently. The second time I did the same, but had severe hyperemesis... alone. For the third pregnancy I told all my closest friends and family right away, and it was so much better to have support.

[margaridalopes]

I agree that announcing the pregnancy before 3 months is better than not telling…
Nothing to be ashamed.

[judithmuench]

I love that you don't talk over each other! You listen and let the other finish speaking. Respect!

[nancydiffee]

I understand, I had 2 miscarriage. I was devastated. The physical pain was awful as well. I delivered at home. I was 4 months. The doctors office experience is awful as well. Separate rooms are necessary. The staff is insensitive too. But 3 years later I got pregnant again. They prepared me to lose the baby but I made it. Don't lose hope.

[cindizdrinc]

From one silent miscarriage couple to another still hoping for their first successful pregnancy, my husband and I are praying for you, in Jesus’ name

[tvalue]

I'm praying for you! I lost my uterus at age 23 due to tumors. No chance of giving birth. In my late 30s, I decided to adopt a daughter. She just graduated with her Master's degree. Even if the IVF doesn't work, don't give up!

[anta]

My parents (Italian dad and British mum) during their first 10 years of marriage had several miscarriages before I was born. They had almost given up hope that they'd ever have children. I have a close friend who went through the same thing before giving birth to two strong healthy children. Wishing you all the best on your journey towards parenthood. I know you'll make wonderful parents. ♥

[AnnaAtl]

I love you saying that "this baby deserves to be celebrated no matter what happens ".❤

[fantacmajure]

2 things:
1. Alessio, your English is top tier!!!
2. You are AMAZING to tell people to drop their questions, and say maybe you can do a live with the expert. SO many people don't have the money, time, or opportunity to consult such an expert. God will bless you both for being open, helpful, and generous!

[rosebojorquez]

With my 2nd pregnancy I thought I was going to miscarry, cramping and spotting. I went to the Dr right away. He suggested I have a DNC but I wanted a 2nd opinion for whatever reason. I saw another Dr that same day. She examined me, she told me to go home stay in bed, no lifting no housework NOTHING. The symptoms subsided 7mos later I delivered a healthy baby boy. I was lucky and blessed. You will also be blessed with a child. 🙏🙏

[bbest]

We are praying for you guys! We know that pain all too well. Have been trying for 3 years, also had a miscarriage. In my case, I had to deliver opening remarks for an art show at the Governor’s residence in front of hundreds of people while I was actively miscarrying and had been told by the doctor that morning that it was not a viable pregnancy after my progesterone dropped. I too, had told most people because it didn’t feel right to hide it or to have to be alone in that grief and I’m so glad we had that support. We are with you and wishing you strength in the journey ahead.

[Hehheheh]

Awe. Love you guys. I have had miscarriages as well. Broke my heart for you guys! I am praying that you guys will soon have a beautiful tiny human. Maybe I'll pray you have twins. You will be wonderful parents! Sending you both love and positive energy.

[LynnStraw]

I love that you’re using your channel to get the word out about miscarriages and infertility. I have four children but it was a very difficult road to have them. I lost six pregnancies and had four children over a 10 year period of time. My body finally said you’re done having babies and I had a hysterectomy a couple of years ago. My doctor said that having miscarriages was a type of infertility that is not talked about enough. Thank you for sharing your story.

[johanmolin]

Thank you, Jessi and Alessio! Being an old obstetrician in Sweden, I of course know about the medical background to miscarriages, but I think your video was very important for the sake of the general public. Insightful and very mature views you are promoting.
Yes, in Sweden, we say that around one pregnancy in five, when you knew you had been pregnant ends in a miscvarriage. And also yes, the by far most common cause are chromosomal abberrations (we think) - and thus a random thing that can happen to anyone. And the risk is always the same (unless you first do preimplantation diagnostics, which still is not a common thing).

In the same manner, the REAL frequency of conceptions not leading to a pregnancy presumably is around 50 % actually.

Interestingly enough, it's always more problematic getting pregnant the first time, as opposed to later on. Also, we have noted that people giving up, getting a dog or signing up for adoption have a tendency of getting spontaneously pregnant. Stress hormones surely plays a big role here.
My son and his wife had difficulties at the start, resorting to IVF and by now have two three year old twin boys (from one reimplanted egg).
However this January 5th they got their third son after a spontaneous pregnancy. And this is quite a common phenomenon.
So, all the best of luck to you both! You seem to be in extremely good hands!

[alexkidd]

I’m so sorry you went through that. I had two back to back miscarriages (one at 13 weeks December of 2019 and one at 8.5 weeks (twins) March of 2020). It was the worst time of my life but I now have my rainbow baby girl who will be three in June. I pray you all get your rainbow baby as well. Many blessing you all love you guys.

[akemotheonly]

I am sitting here sobbing, one of my best friends has been trying IVF and just had a positive pregnancy test and found out yesterday she's miscarrying again because of her levels and I live across the country and I just want to hug you both so much. I don't know if anyone has told you how important these stories are, to bond women, to make us women stop blaming our bodies, to talk about the unspoken stupidity of having these "unwritten rules" or methods. I have followed you guys since your silly olive garden outing and I hope you know I am praying and rooting for you. I am SO SORRY you had this experience, especially with medical you have the right to have a painless experience- and as someone who's worked in healthcare having a separate space/area makes so much sense. There's so many easy ways to accommodate this even in small offices.

[bonnyhall]

Praying for the both of you! i have had 2 miscarriages both at 5 months. After the first a very wise older lady told me not to put a question, where God put a period. This helped me tremendously in not playing the blame game. I have two wonderful daughters, today and I wish you all the best!

[denasutera]

My Sicilian Grandma was always upset if we announce before 3 months. Thank you for sharing! God Bless you for your vulnerability in sharing your lives

[MalloryD]

You two have everyone rooting for you! Absolute strangers are pouring love and hopeful wishes and good karma your way! I imagine your future child watching these videos one day and feeling incredibly loved and wanted and so special ❤️