How to get any MAN you WANT: The UNBREAKABLE RULE

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In this episode, I discuss the third -- and final -- consideration for getting any man you want. If a woman has proven herself both functionally useful and sexually exciting, and she still hasn't been able to retain a desired relationship, in most cases it is because she has violated the unbreakable rule, namely: she has been difficult and disrespectful. Under no circumstances, can a woman allow herself to disrespect the man she wants. No exceptions.

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Presented by Orion Taraban, Psy.D. PsycHacks provides viewers with a brief, thought-provoking video several days a week on a variety of psychological topics, inspired by his clinical practice. The intention is for the core idea contained within each video to inspire viewers to see something about themselves or their world in a slightly different light. The ultimate mission of the channel is to reduce the amount of unnecessary suffering in the world.

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[psychacks]

In this episode, I discuss the third -- and final -- consideration for getting any man you want. If a woman has proven herself both functionally useful and sexually exciting, and she still hasn't been able to retain a desired relationship, in most cases it is because she has violated the unbreakable rule, namely: she has been difficult and disrespectful. Under no circumstances, can a woman allow herself to disrespect the man she wants. No exceptions.

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Presented by Orion Taraban, Psy.D. PsycHacks provides viewers with a brief, thought-provoking video several days a week on a variety of psychological topics, inspired by his clinical practice. The intention is for the core idea contained within each video to inspire viewers to see something about themselves or their world in a slightly different light. The ultimate mission of the channel is to reduce the amount of unnecessary suffering in the world.

#psychology #relationship #women

[joaquin]

As a man, I watch these videos because society tells men how to behave towards women, but never the other way around, so I don't even know what valuable traits I should seek for in a woman and how she should treat me. These are extremely valuable for men as well.

[hellcat]

Married twenty years, By watching this episode I have a greater appreciation for my wife. She has never broken the unbreakable rule. I do not know if someone taught her or how she learned this rule. I have made mistakes and owned up to them and she has never used them to disrespect me. She speaks highly of me to her friends. Due to this, I love her and take care of her.

[Guildofarcanelore]

It’s true. As a man I can get disrespected anywhere, I don’t need to buy dinner to get crapped on.

[cowboyofscience]

I will go even further and say: If a man ALLOWS his woman to disrespect him for long enough, she will leave him. She will view him as something less than a man.

[TheRandomPeoplz]

I broke up with my first girlfriend earlier this year. I didn't know what it was exactly but I knew I couldn't go any further being in a relationship with her. Your video helped summarize what it was, she started being disrespectful.

I remember I tried to explain how I felt and how her actions had affected me from a past date we had and she started to verbally attack me about how I felt, being very disrespectful and contemptuous in the process. I didn't know what it was but I didn't like how she was treating and handling the whole situation and it felt like she was starting to show her true colors at that moment. It wasn't the first time she's shown some form of contempt but the first time she was straightforward with it. We had a long conversation the day after and I broke up with her at the end of it.

She was my first girlfriend so I was heading into the relationship blind, not knowing what to expect or how to set boundaries. I'm glad I did break things off as I realized she was adding a lot of stress and now I'm in a spot where I'm at peace again.

[kellygreenii]

Yep. NEVER say anything behind someone’s back that you are not willing to say to their face. Life gets really simple and really peaceful…

[kuithegreat]

You have quickly become my favourite channel. As a woman who was raised to be a career woman and not a loving and respectful wife, I really appreciate your channel. It helps me avoid any future pitfalls which I’ve seen many women in my family fall into. 🙏🙏🙏

[shawnabyrd]

As a therapist, I’ve been telling my clients this for years!! So well said. Lots of women don’t want to hear it.

[obits]

Regarding the yelling and screaming and lack of accountability, Bill Burr has a great take on this in his “There’s no reason to hit a woman” set. To paraphrase, even hockey has penalties for instigating. Women fight by yelling, crying, and insulting men and then are surprised by a man being angry as a result. To the woman I might love, I will fight the world for you, but I won’t fight you for you.

[karenoyama]

Don’t disrespect anyone. Every person deserves respect unless proven otherwise.

[marriagecausesdivorce]

When the disrespect starts, its time to leave. Disrespect shows 2 things: 1. she is not emotionally stable and is going to do negative behaviours, e.g. moan, complain and harass you. 2. the reason she hasn't left is because she hasn't found a better financial replacement yet (but the clock is ticking). Your only power is to walk away.

[cptheandonly]

Brilliant as always Orion! One possible addendum: Ladies, if you do, on the rare occasion, disrespect your man, or think that you may have, APOLOGIZE! You’ve covered this in another video but I think it bears repeating here. Men appreciate people who take accountability for their actions. So you can actually end up raising his opinion of you if proactively apologize and take accountability. Just don’t ever repeat the offending behavior.

[engineerofthemachine]

I’ve never been able to find a woman in the US that won’t rip this rule to shreds every chance she gets. My current girlfriend grew up in another country and moved here a few years ago and it’s the best relationship I’ve ever had by leaps and bounds.

[aminamalik]

PsycHacks, I really appreciate you speaking truthfully, as a therapist about this controversial subject. I grew up with a traditional Pakistani mother who spoke to us and informed us of all the things you say.

However, my Canadian upbringing taught me to speak my mind, that I am an empowered modern woman unlike the women of old. And unfortunately, this has lead me to assert my power in the form of disrespect especially when I felt inferior or subordinate, powerless in some way. Now adays, women are told to value power, dominance, self-indulgence and self-regard above all else.

However I think we can all agree that we should treat people how we would like to be treated ourselves.

How many of enjoy being criticized or talked down to at every turn? Feeling like every single thing we do is never enough?

It makes a lot more sense now why all my relationships ended the way they did, there is a lot of truth still post feminism of the adage, 'you can attract a lot more bees with honey than vinegar' But of course, we are now being taught to be our 'authentic selves'.

I just wish I listened to mom much earlier, she was right. God bless her and give her a long life.

[Khan-rzqi]

It all comes down to one thing, Accountability. It’s that simple.💯

[desireeellisford]

Ladies/women if you can check the boxes and still don't have the man you want simply put: HE'S NOT INTERESTED IN YOU!!! Move on. Love the content 💚

[Hari]

On point. I have told my wife early when we were dating that love is overrated (overshadowing respect) because you can respect without much love and the relationship can be more or less healthy, but you can never ever have true love without respect, and a relationship cannot be healthy either.

[taramascara]

Oh my GOD 😮 I just realized that the reason my man snapped was because of the words I said. It was my fault! I said hurtful things to him and he flipped out. I realize now I provoked him. Thank you! I love ❤your videos so much you’re my favorite!

[jcnlaw]

Great video! Through my lens as an experienced divorce lawyer, here is the biggest problem men face regarding disrespect from a woman: once a man gets married, the exit cost (divorce) can be very substantial. I have seen some of the nastiest, most disrespectful women treat their husbands in horrific ways, knowing he will take it and she will get away with extreme levels of disrespect because his cost to divorce her will be very high. The solution in many western countries: a) do not get married and do not cohabitate in a married like state, b) have a properly drafted prenup in place and live in a prenup friendly jurisdiction. You can still have terrific intimate relationships without worrying about someone turning into a disrespectful beast who has state divorce laws on their side.