How You Can CRUSH Self Sabotage with Dr Gay Hendricks

How You Can CRUSH Self Sabotage with Dr Gay Hendricks

In this episode we discuss how you can fall into cycles of self sabotage and constantly reset your happiness down to where you think it should be, lessons learned from coaching over 20,000 people, how to crush upper limit problems and break through the beliefs holding you back, the questions you need to discover and live in your zone of genius, and much more with Dr. Gay Hendricks.
We discuss:

- Gay’s "encounter with destiny" and how it “knocked him out” of his usual way of thinking
- Lessons from training thousands of counselors and coaches to help people transform their lives and counseling and coaching over 20,000 individuals!
- How Gay went from 300+ lbs, smoking 2-3 packs of cigarettes per day, and transformed his entire life
- The two “big ideas” from the Big Leap
- Upper Limit Problems
- Occupying your Zone of Genius
- What are "Upper Limit Problems?"
- Success is not just financial - focusing only on financial success puts your out of balance
- If you’re able to bring forth what is within you, it will pave the path to success - but if you keep your emotions in, you stifle yourself
- How a tiny bit of misalignment can create echoes and rattles throughout your life
- How we fall into cycles of self-sabotage to “reset” our happiness down to where we think it should be
- We often manufacture fears, stresses, and anxieties to stop ourselves from feeling good
- The core fears you experience underpinning that Upper Limit Problem
#1 The Fear of Outshining
#2 The Fear of Being Fundamentally Flawed
#3 The Fear of Leaving Behind or being disloyal to the people you care about
- Upper limit problems are rooted in fear - unless we come to terms with those - we cannot actualize our full potential
- The concept of having enough vs having plenty
- Do you ever feel like “things are going too well, now something bad is going to happen”
- Focusing on what can go wrong is useful if we TAKE ACTION about it, but if we can’t act on it, its just useless worrying
- How to fix broken relationships and heal communication problems in 10 minutes or less
- Self criticism is rooted in FEAR - something you’re afraid of in yourself, or something your afraid to communicate to someone else - what is it that im basically afraid of?
- The role shame plays in self criticism and how to find your original shaming
- Is Life Suffering as the Buddha said?
- The idea of happiness thermostat
- Human beings have no idea what their full potential is once they shatter their upper limits
- Using a Lear Jet to plow a potato field
- The Zone of Incompetence vs The Zone competence vs the Zone of -
Excellence vs the Zone of Genius
- Your zone of genius is a positive addiction - focused on actualizing your life’s purpose
- And much more!

[nandipenxa]

Longest intro ever. Love Gay Hendricks.

[scripturefundamentalist]

Great talk! Didn't realize how I was the main limit in my life before this talk.

Love the concept of upper limit problem tied to self sabotage by realizing what underlies those limiting beliefs that set us up for failure.

[auntienemo]

After noticing a lot of fragility and over-reactivity in the face of succeeding at facing my fears, and a lot of confusion at an important relationship ending abysmally when I thought I was finally doing well by the other person within an established dynamic (something like 17:01 happened, actually!) I'm reading The Big Leap, and even just the introduction showed me how self-sabotage and fear can really keep you from your joy. I really look forward to better understanding myself and others when it comes to success in all areas of life... and I hope to better manage what my coach calls my heroine's journey :3

[jeffreyzie]

Great interview. Thanks for interviewing this man. People need this wisdom.