How long should you wait for a guy to ask you out? Or should you ask him?

No! Do not ask him out. Call me old fashioned, but if he wants to ask you out, he will, not matter how shy he is. Give him a set amount of time, whatever you decide that is, then distance yourself. Be nice and polite, but then it's time to move on. Talk to other people. Let him know subtly that you are not going to wait around for him!

[filbunk]

I will never ask a guy out again, unless I see him as a friend. I've done so, nothing happened — only months of sleepless nights and tears.

[GiannaOrdaz]

I asked a guy out about 15 years ago and now we are happily married. I dont see anything wrong with it. He said he would have but he was too shy. GUYS CAN BE SHY!!! if you like them enough you will. If they like you they will say yes.

[Duckman]

Wow, terrible advice. It's ok for a girl to avoid putting her feelings out there but not a guy? If SHE likes him so much, why the hell doesn't she ask him out?

[ventionwh]

Don't listen to this 1950's advice. This strategy would work well if "Leave it to Beaver" were playing for the first time but not now.
If it's a work situation however, you must be ready for a rejection even if he likes you. These days a man can't risk all the career problems that come with dating a coworker because if there is any conflict in the future he'll lose his job. I will never NEVER date a coworker, NEVER!

[lysol]

Most guys does not have the balls to ask out the girl he likes most . Most guy only goes for the girl he kinda likes, the girl who seems to be friendly and kinda of easy, so he can handle the rejection. That's the truth.
and ladies, guys are easy, if you see a guy likes you and you like him back, woo him and you will most likely be successful. Do something nice to him, be sweet, not be old-fashioned.

[lawshorizon]

As a guy, if I like a girl I’ll try to engage her or flirt with her to look for signals that she likes me to. If I don’t get them then I wont ask her out. Maybe half the problem is mixed signals? On the other hand, if I’m busy, or haven’t considered her as a possible date, I probably wont pick up the signals because I wont be watchful – but I’d go out with her, if she asked me, “if “ I liked her enough. So it’s not a bad strategy for women if they can handle any possible rejection.

[lawshorizon]

Speaking as a guy, I think you girls have to be clever sometimes. Try something like making him dinner or giving him a present out of the blue and the guy will likely reciprocate.

[joshuafrye]

*He will ask you out at some point no matter how shy he is*

Not necessarily true, I myself suffer from crippling anxiety and shyness when it comes to women and I can only imagine how many missed opportunities I have had with girls I liked because I was too shy. I can only imagine how different my life would be if one of them had spoken up. I usually agree with all your advice but I have to disagree this time.

[hippo]

Don't listen to Marie guys. Be on the record and candid. And no, it's not coming off as desperate; It's called being honest. Playing it off to imply your not gonna wait might come off to him that he is one among a million other guys for you to pick and choose from. This turns the concept of getting into a relationship as some sort of competition between him and the rest of the guys that want to get the girl. This is dehumanizing, as it may come off to many of us as cold and detached.

[strongyang]

well, just be natural ladies. You could ask us out too you know, and there is nothing wrong with that!

[KatariaGujjar]

As a guy, I totally disagree with this. Men will always prefer women who will share the hard work over women who expects men to do everything. This is a fact of life women have not yet grasped and the reason why potential relationships do not materialize.

[rebekahvlad]

I agree with you 100 percent, if you’re a beautiful woman that’s confident, and a good person and attentive to his needs . He shouldn’t be taking longer than a month. Especially if you guys see each other often. I wouldn’t wanna invest getting so attached for too long either if he really doesn’t have the intent to ask me out. A real man knows if a girl is the one. Let’s not pretend here. Ladies save your time. A month should be long enough .

[Randetroit]

If it is a work place situation opportunities could be limited due to people always around, that could be very frustrating!!!

[AkrKierre]

How long should I wait if I've only been seeing him once a week at a school organization? I was thinking about just moving on and dating this guy who asked me out when we first met. I prefer straightforwardness, but I still feel like the once a week guy is more of my type and he seems to like me. It's really confusing because he also seems shy. I'm more in the middle, so I whenever I try to have a conversation with him, he just looks down and smiles.

[oldyeller]

I gave it a decent time frame and he didn’t ask me out. One day I decided that’s enough, I began to mentally push him out of my mind. That was a Sunday and the following Wednesday he asked me out 🙄🙄🙄 via a text message.
I texted him back and politely told him I had something to do that day.
I regret it and I’m proud of myself. I’m all mixed up and he’s back in my headspace again. Ugh! Dating SUCKS

[mibt]

@QuoGirl People nowadays are slowly eroding gender stereotypes away. Yes, most guys still do the asking out part of the dating process, but in my opinion there is nothing wrong if a girl wants to expedite the whole thing by making the first move. Bottom line is: it's alright to have differing views on these matters, as long as we don't resort to belittling comments :D There are guys who are not as bold who would love to get asked out, but I don't think that makes them less.. male/manly.

[brundle]

i disagree with u madeline...i dont think she should wait for him to ask her out...she should go ahead an ask him out...there is nothing wrong with that...guys sometimes including myself are too shy to ask a girl out....wondering what she may think of him etc..so there is absolutely nothing wrong if she asked him out...

[xoallieox]

I would never ask a guy out in my opinion, but not because I'm a girl... just because I'm shy and it would be hard for me to do so.

[lanawarning]

So the guy I like likes me back, but he hasn't asked me out yet. My friends asked him if he was going to ask me out, and they said he didn't know since it's a bad time with finals. How long should I wait for him to ask me out before I should give up on him?

[callmeparker]

i asked my boyfriend out, now we've been dating over a year. In class we actually had a workshop about gender equality, and there was a discussion about this topic, and most of the guys agreed that they would like girls to ask THEM out, instead of always being the one to have to initiate something.