A childhood all INTJs can relate to

Unscripted video of my experience as an INTJ child. There are few edits to keep the video as raw as possible.

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[staseraleggiamo]

My first thought on the first day of primary school, getting to know my classmates, was: "Why are they so dumb and childish?!" Luckily I kept my mouth shut. That year I learned I was the strange one, from both classmates and teachers. I'm still affected by that feeling of estrangement and loneliness, I can't say my adult life is much different!

[LAStars-sratS]

I suspect all INTJs had early childhood trauma. Over 60 yrs ago I had open heart surgery. It was brutal. I didn’t want to live.

[ElodieN_INTJ_Typology_Insights]

I knew I was different the first day at kindergarten. I am happy to see more INTJ on Youtube.

[missbealovesalbert]

Truth is like poetry, and most people f'ing hate poetry...

[gama]

I'm a 16-year-old INTJ, and I'll tell you what, I've always been advanced in everything except talking.

I have aspergers as well, so my natural talents were amplified tenfold, and that included my imagination. In kindergarten, I always sat next to a brick wall during recess, and I would just think all day. I was annoyed when teachers came to talk to me, because I didn't know how to talk properly, so I would just stutter. Teachers and stuff tried to put me into programs and lego blocks instead of recess, but I just wanted to be by myself.

[Starcraftghost]

God! This made me cry. I remember feeling that way when I was a kid. No one wanted to be around me including my siblings because I wasn’t as fun as my other cousin.

[ckjc]

I can relate mostly to the part where you speak about rather observing events than be a part of them. I did this on the playground when I was 1-3, and I also catch myself doing it now at partys etc. It's just more interesting for me that way.

[blueylewis]

I relate to all of this as an INTJ. Figuring out very early that I saw the world differently to other people. Trying to model interaction in your head, but realizing too late socializing can't be modeled that way. Being able to think ahead better than most people, so when you see other kids behaving in ways that are short-sighted or selfish you think like "why are you so stupid?!? Just do this instead, God it's so obvious!" Empathizing with everyone but also not liking them because you think their behavior isn't good enough for you. Developing some weird superiority AND inferiority complex because of how you think ahead better than everyone and have high standards, but not understanding why you can't form relationships. Trying to get people to improve themselves, but you just come across as rude and blunt. Spending all your time in your own head. And then for me for a long time I had this sense that I don't belong anywhere at all because there's something wrong with me, but I don't know what it is and it's unfixable. And then that led to this idea that I'm just here to observe life, but not participate in it. Everyone else gets to live, but I have to sit here and watch and try and make sense of it. And in addition to that I was physically disabled, so not only was my mind conflicted, I wasn't physically able to do many things. Childhood was just awful. It wasn't until I was in college that I really started to work my shit out and try and figure out ways to relate to people. It took a lot of hard work and inner conflict, but it eventually did lead me to forming some good relationships with people.

[niasdniasd-fi]

I can totally relate! Basically what I did during my childhood while interacting with other kids was "playing pretend while playing pretend", cause I knew such interactions weren't useful or fun for me in any way. I remember that was the reason to feel lonely as hell despite being surrounded by other kids, I knew that phase was going to end eventually but it was extremely frustrating at the time (thankfully puzzles + videogames + books got me through it). - infj.

[GL-GildedLining]

Thanks for sharin'.
Another nugget of wisdom, which took me til my mid 20s to figure out, is that just because you can win an argument, that doesn't mean you've changed somebody's mind. Being able to overwhelm them with your air-tight thought process doesn't win their heart.
Also: Nearly all human beings have the capacity for rational thought, it's just that they use their rational minds to _rationalize_ their emotional decisions. Navigating that takes metacognizance and empathy both.

[janeg]

Thanks for sharing. I'm a mom of an INTJ son, and I'm an INFP. My son, who is older now, did not care about getting put in time-out and his teachers were really frustrated to find anything to motivate him. I was also at a loss, but it made sense to me then and now because I knew all he needed was his brain. They could not understand that. Also, my son was always playing in the backyard by himself a lot and everyone thought he was autistic. And, they still do, but I think it's just his personality.

[DarthKoller]

So, I feel like I'm a dumb more socialable INTJ than most of the INTJs I come across on youtube, but wow... I relate so well to this whole video. No, I've never put my conversations down on paper, but I definitely map out conversations in my head. I was also constantly told that I was a leader. I've been told multiple times that my tone and truth is to sharp. At first, I was skeptical about this video, but yeah, it was definitely a childhood I can relate too.

[MissLibertarian]

My INTJ brother made a wooden operable dodecahedron "Rubiks" cube the size of a basketball. Now that's a puzzle. He gave talks on the math complexity while solving it. Between he and my Dad, I was not alone in INTJ land, and I also had plenty of historical and fictional INTJ's in my life (a surprising number were executed for heresy, so I learned some lessons).

[nolazcoarts]

“The truth doesn’t matter if now one believes you.” - That sums up the struggle I’ve had as an INTJ over the past couple years. No one in my family took this global threat seriously, making me feel like a paranoid germaphobe, and I drove myself crazy trying to accept their apathy. I often felt alone, especially when growing up, but it is so refreshing to hear a fellow INTJ feel the same way and understand the struggle of seeing things as they are.

[itzcryptecz]

As an asian intj struggling to figure out who they are in college, thank you. I relate to all of this and I'll definitely be using a lot of the advice that you gave. I wish I searched for other intj mentors sooner!

[musk_]

I think all the INTJs had some or the other sort of life changing events in their childhood, that their behaviour completely changed from extroverted and outgoing to completely distancing themselves from people.
Also our Conversational skills became horrible over time.

[sonalsharma]

This is a great video for younger INTJs. It can totally make them feel seen. Keep up the great work.💪

[VisionFriend]

Thank you so much for sharing this. I’m an INTJ, and it took me a really long time to even begin to understand my “interface” problem with “normal” people. Hearing this is really great.

[Jazaltron]

Damn this is spot on, especially the phone call and the prison part, all I ever need is my brain and I'll survive

[YSBing]

I practiced any kind of conversation for at less ten times when I was a kid (I mean, I’m still doing it in a different reason). Everyone thought I was too shy and too afraid of people, and I thought that I’m just not brave enough for very long time… now I found out it’s because I function differently 😂