INTJs - The Worst Flirts??

Ok, I gotcha with the title, INTJs aren't the WORST flirts but maybe not the best ;). In this video, I talk about how to flirt as an INTJ and how to know if an INTJ likes you. If you're looking forward to date an INTJ or if you're one looking to date types you're truly compatible with then check out TypeMatch, our free dating app based on the 16 MBTI personality types.

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[mehnushmorshed]

"If an intj doesn’t like you then they simply will not talk to you" so true

[berendko]

From an INTJ's perspective: I voluntarily spoke with you, what makes you think I don't like you???

[Aryanne_v]

INTJ IQ normally: 130
INTJ IQ when flirting: 10

I'm an INTJ and it was funny to watch this video. It is very true, that my idea of flirting is just talking to you.

[mastermindrational]

When it comes to most things, I’m proud to be INTJ. When it comes to relationships, it is just plain embarrassing to be INTJ.

[Raidon]

How to tell an INTJs like you (from personal experience, anyways):
- they tell you how they actually feel
- they give more than a damn to not hurt your feelings and try to not disturb your world views, except for when they think you might hurt yourself
- they want to be with you. A LOT.

[clintgunter]

INTJ here. I don’t flirt or see any reason to flirt. But I have been told I have flirted, and I didn’t realize it. So. it doesn’t matter how much I analyze flirting. It never makes any sense to me.

[sashhy]

We lose our ability to think properly when we are in front of our crush and basically come off as really weird i guess?

[omdam]

It's hard to tell because for us, liking you for romantic reasons or just friendship is seemingly the same from the outside.

[JoshuaCastillo]

I NEVER seek anyone out. But if someone who I like initiates a conversation with me, I’ve noticed it’s hard to keep myself from smiling. Which gives it away because I always have a serious look on my face.

[kaycerawlins]

as an INTJ, i can say that attempting to flirt can and will end in an uncomfortable disaster lol

[NBDY_SPCL]

No, it's ok, we are the worst. It's true. The stalking thing is part and parcel to our nature. We are hunters. As far as the 'neg'ing' goes, we're very guarded, because the reality is that our hearts are ridiculously fragile, so we protect them, and if we're not sure about whether you'll break those often already pathetically battered things, we'll push you away. If we're not sure you're really interested, we'll also push you away a bit to see if you're willing to do something that makes your intentions obvious. We just not very good at reading subtleties when it comes to romance. 

As far as equalization goes, we're sigmas, so we're not above or beneath, nor do we consider others above or beneath us.

Another thing I didn't see you mention is gifts. If an INTJ likes you, they will very likely give you a gift, that is very practical in nature related to an interest you hold, so much so as to seem totally unromantic to most other types, but it will be something we've put our hearts and minds into, because we want to improve your life in a real and tangible way (or so we think).

Thanks for trying to help us be a little less mysterious and unreachable to other types. We really do need all the help we can get, if if most of us don't know or admit it.

[bettyblue]

How to know if an INTJ likes you? Just ask.

I’m an INTJ and don’t flirt. This is what happens when I’m interested in someone: I notice my interest, study the target, analyze strategies to attain target, figure out if said target is worth the effort to attract, THEN if the answer is “yes”, I implement my plan. I’m 100% okay being single, so I don’t act in most cases. I’m currently in a LDR and find it works very well for me and my INFP boyfriend. I miss him but at same time I’m not plotting his demise due to sensory overload. We met via dating app so flirting wasn’t really necessary to indicate my end-goal. Please just ask. We’re not shy. We’re introverts 😜 There’s no need to guess ( it’s inefficient at best).

[badpoetry]

Another adorable thing about INTJs is how they respond to flirting. My INTJ was telling me he has a welding machine, and when I told him I thought it was sexy, he nearly knocked over the bottle of wine in the kitchen. It endeared him to me forever ❤😅

[HermesGirl]

"I'm talking to you so obviously I like you." HAHAHAHA .. So true.

an INTJ

Actually you nailed all of these. I'm impressed. Great video. Quite entertaining to hear how our flirting styles sound when said outloud. HAHAHAHA...
(I am not so sure about the negging strategy, but then again, I'm not a dick, so....)

[Spingus]

If you're an INTJ, and want to flirt with an INTP, just randomly start talking about string theory for no reason whatsoever. This will naturally lure the INTP, as they finally are capable of doing something without being called weird or a jerk. (This information is from an INTP)

[spikeyconstantine]

I agree as an INTJ if I like someone and likewise, I would ask a very private question as in about his family (which can make some people uncomfortable). I also would ask about music alot. If someone try to match their music interest with me and I am able to notice that, I know that the person likes me too. The most important thing is, if INTJ tell you about their personal or childhood stuff that means that they trust you, and they are actually ready to be in a relationship with you.

[Luki]

Well, what people call flirting ... with INTJ it boils down to:
-Testing person with "alternative reality" humor.
-Searching for caregiver qualities in that person.
...then If we will Really want Him/Her, them Ni just gonna will it into existence.

[silverfox]

INTJ: I flirt with the "death stare" and double entendres

[buzan]

Some extra information:

#2 Yes and no. I do tend to be respectfully polite, even with people I don't like, unless I have a good reason not to. Meaning I have no qualms talking to anyone in social situations. It's more that I don't want to spend energy on socializing if it's not for a specific purpose. I.e I visit others to watch a movie, and to socialize through watching the movie, because it's something I like. Or I visit for a cup of coffee to have a chat for 1-2 hours. I, however, don't like to visit others under the pretext of watching a movie or to drink a cup of coffee just to idle around on the couch. That's not what I signed up for. Meaning I don't visit others under the pretext of doing something (X), just to be doing something (Y) else. And that's why I also don't socialize just for the sake of socializing. It's too draining for me. I need that external catalyst as a reason to socialize, which may make it seem like I don't actively go out to talk to others. But if someone reaches out to me, I will talk to them politely. I will not just ignore them, as that's very rude.

#3 Yes, it's called information gathering. Though it's not for the sake of simply stalking that person to see what they are up to at all times, more to see whether or not I can get any clues to their personality or interests. That either adds to or takes from the compatibility value. If I find something I really dislike, then that's an immediate drop. Whether or not I have made any active efforts to pursue that person before is going to immediately cease as per a door slam. Though the other person would most likely not be aware of it, because I never showed them any signs of being romantically interested in them to begin with, and as per #2 I will continue to be polite with them as I always have been. Though I would never bring any of this information up with said person. I'm very good at separating information I should NOT know from information that it's perfectly fine to know. Meaning this is just my own personal database.

#5 Yes and no. I consider it to be a form of unwanted abuse to intentionally be rude to others, especially so to someone you like. Though I can make teasing jokes as per #4, which may sound rude at first glance, but the person I'm saying these things to should know by now I'm only jesting. One such example that I can think of on the top of my head (without having said it to anyone) would be to say to someone of middle eastern origin whether or not I dare to enter their car, or if it's going the explode the moment I open the door. Also; if I do like someone, I don't want to be perceived as unintelligent or something similar to that. I'm always going to be in doubt how they perceive me, and I'm going to me more focused on that than I usually am. That may make me unconsciously come across as more arrogant to others as a form of compensation for something, but it's not something I'm aware of or which I am intentionally doing.

#6 Yes, calling it a date makes the INTJ vulnerable, as they could be romantically rejected. Going out to hang out with you on the other hand, allows them to spend time with you under the pretext of friendship, without being vulnerable in return.

[lukaria]

I don't know why I'm here


I'm an ENFP AHAHSHSHHSHSHSSH