Master Detachment & Watch Everything Chase You.

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Are you tired of overgiving, overthinking, and feeling like you’re always the one chasing in relationships, friendships, and even your goals? The secret to effortless attraction—whether in love, success, or self-worth—is detachment.
Detachment isn’t about being cold or unavailable—it’s about becoming so secure in yourself that you no longer grasp for attention, love, or validation. And when you stop chasing, the right people and opportunities start chasing you.

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Comment below: What’s one thing you’re letting go of this week? Let’s talk.

Love you lots like jelly tots, XX Margarita 💫

[ameliaaa]

‘If someone isn’t meeting your energy stop filling in the gaps’ 🔥 🔥

[lysianeamougou]

"Stop overinvesting in people who don't show up for you" thanks for the reminder❤

[SylaVi]

1. The illusion of control is thr problem. The feeling of control does not mean you're actually in control. Being clingy (constant asking, scanning, ..) pushes people away and repels people. Let them.
"You want to... go ahead. You will face the consequences of losing me."

2. Receiving energy vs. Chasing. Whatever is meant for you will come to you. Be attuned with your feminine energy, practice the art of receiving, address your past, text your therapist etc. You are building yourself and your life and magnetizing. You are magnetic by the essence of self-creation.
How can he chase you when you're in his face?

3. Stop overinvesting in people that don't show up.
The person who cares and holds less has the power. Fancy the guys that invest you. You need to have a cool head and look for someone who's meeting the same level of energy.
Leave gaps. Don't be the one always planning, talking etc.
If you leave space the other person (even if first unavailable) can step in. Don't be so needing and waiting .. if you're vague and not clear about your expectations for them it feels like you set up traps. he person can't fulfil your needs.

4. Scarcity creates value. Be (don't play) hard to get. You don't beg for attention. You magnetize attention. Don't be a pick me girl that talks about what they can do for the other person. Don't try and sell yourself.

5. The mood of an effortlessly magnetic woman is not dictated nor effected by others. She has self-respect, mystique, keeps things to herself, she's not always available to everybody. Stop asking peoples opinions. Just do what you know. Start to connect to your energy and solar plexus.

6. The reverse effort law. The more you try the more you repel. Obession kills the attraction. Mindest shift: Stop trying to hunt for everything. You are the prize. Be the deer.

7. Silence. Don't complain. Don't explain. Just laugh things off. Let people draw their own conclusions.
You don't have to prove yourself to a man. Stop explaining yourself.

8. Don't shrink youself to keep him around. If you're always around he won't need to change. If someone leaving your life will destroy your life in any kind of way you're too attached. Be emotionally detached. Write down who you are, your identity, without anyone else.

9. The energy audit: Where are you holding on too tightly. What needs to be let go of. Are you always the one texting etc (friendships), what about pleasing people vs. mastering your skill (careerwise).
If you don't let go you stay stuck and fixated in an attachment-based suffering. Something out there could be better for you. But you need to let go.

Challenge: Do a1 week detox:
No initiating texts, no checking if they watched your stories, no asking others about how they are doing, don't ask him what he's thinking or when you will see each other again, no internally spiraling,

You better be working on yourself, doing some self-care.

If something is difficult let it go. (And without over explaining!)

Journal: Who am I when I don't need the external validation?

(Maybe i missed a point, will check and maybe correct later).

Hope this helps. :)

Thank you so much, Margarita!❤

[mandy-ovi]

No contact felt like ripping my own heart out. But staying in contact with someone who constantly confused me hurt even more. My therapist told me that the healing wouldn’t begin until I chose distance and recommended The Closure Plan by Ella Scott. Reading it helped me realize that silence isn’t cruel it’s clarity. And sometimes, loving yourself means walking away with no explanation.

[olka]

I never had a woman role model in my life before to teach me the things I need to know about being a woman and growing into the woman I’m supposed to become. You are that woman for me. Thank you for everything.

[current]

Attachment is the
Cause of all sufferings

[ligiacastro]

1) Control is an illusion. Do not complain or demand. Act.

2) Do not chase. Create yourself, create a life for yourself, and receive magnetically.

3) Do not invest in those who don’t invest in you. Invest in yourself.

4) Be scarce. Get busy.

5) Screw other people’s opinions. Build emotional autonomy.

6) Do not obsess over others. Do less.

7) Keep silent: don’t complain, don’t explain. You don’t need to prove yourself.

8) It’s ok to lose people. Don’t change for the relationship, navigate the circumstances.

9) Don’t try to please people, don’t chase results. Develop your skills.

10) If it happens it happens. Don’t force it and let the F go.

[ThisIsMyYouTubeHandleName]

FINALLLY a women giving advice who has a husband. I want what you have. I see so many people give advice when their life is not in check.

[audrinaoakes]

“We create life…they just kind of, mildly, do a few things.” 😂 I love it.

[erikalane-de]

Growing up was really tough for me. My family did not make it easier, i was abused as a child by my step father. Love was really hard to find, and then i found one after college and i thought yeah, this is it, but i blew it. It is easy to point my wrongdoings to my past, while he had his faults, but he did all he could to keep us going, i was a user and i never thought i needed him. Now, I am clean and i have lost him. I wish i can turn the hands of time.

[nicils]

I was so attached some time ago and it's just crazy how detached I've become in 3 months. I went from literally "die for you" to "heartless" no kidding. I am so stunned by how I can change my mindset and feelings so fast. Even the way I am super detached from friendships now is insane. I don't even label any of my colleagues as "best friend". And I can tell I've never felt better in my life. My level of confidence simply rocketed! Don't call everyone your friend, choose your friendships carefully, because sometimes a loss is a win

[patriciakilgo]

Reading books from mindBloomery and replacing mindless distractions with real self-work changed everything for me. Detachment isn't about caring less, it's about valuing yourself more. The moment I stopped chasing and started focusing on my own growth, everything started falling into place.

[sophycandice]

The "good girl" and "happy girl" comparison is so true!! Before St Valentine Day I asked my boyfriend with a very playful tone "so what sweet couple thing we will do for the valentine's day?" and he had no choice but to propose some activities to do together. Then he brought flowers which I did not expect and we had an amazing date. In the evening that day a friend of mine was complaining that her boyfriend did not get her anything and did not get her flowers and bla bla bla, so I asked "did he know that you wanted to do something together?" "no" "did you let him know what were your expectations?" "no" then how would he suppose to know? ;D Being "a happy girl" who knows what she wants changes the game!

[ElizabethHenry-ni]

It’s incredibly painful to imagine life without my partner. I never thought it would come to this point where I’d have to let go. I know I’m not supposed to express this here, but I feel myself slowly slipping away, and I’m unsure what to do. I’m still holding on to the beautiful memories we created together, and my heart sincerely wishes for him to find happiness, even if it's not with me.

[Stephaniebankx]

I literally let him go on valentines day… did not meet my standards! Thank you for teaching me the art of detachment. Im excited for this new phase of my journey. Bringing back all of the focus on me

[Loveawit]

It is an energy game. The minute I decided to focus all of my energy on me. He started chasing me

[Maureen]

do you ever notice how when you take a nap or are off your phone for a while, you wake up to a bunch of texts ?

[KaylaD]

“If something feels difficult, let it go.” Thank you ❤

[BeyondClaire]

Margarita, don’t ever worry about the noises when filming in your car. We love what ever environment your filming in. We are only paying attention to your message. 🥰

[jechelmie]

“How can he chase you if you’re in his face?” “There’s nothing to chase, there’s nothing to acquire, you’re not longer a price”

THAT HIT ME HARD 🙃🙃