Am I hyper-empathic or hypervigilant?

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[youngblood]

Being hyper vigilant is a side effect from being in a narcissistic relationship that had nothing but consequences.

[erinward]

A child's love is unconditional, something a narcissistic parent neither appreciates nor deserves. As a hyper-empathic child, you're hyper-attuned to the needs of someone who refuses to be attuned to yours. In time, you begin to see the lies and contradictions and suffer a broken heart. But that narcissistic parent won't be bothered by your broken heart as they don't seem to have one. That is when you step away, and even then, it hurts.

[jdjenny]

Empathy is a gift- save it for those who will treasure it- Dr. Ramini ❤🙏🏼❤️

[p.w.]

I think I'm mostly hypervigilant. I look on it as my superpower in survival growing up with a narcissist. It's also my kriptonite around others. I'm constantly reading negative things from the facial expressions and body language of others that makes me step back from them. Looking for signs of anger and rejection is ingrained with me.

[jori]

I’m in a hypervigilant stage big time. It affects evvverything in my life and is extremely difficult to manage. I find that being with animals, and even just watching birds helps ground and reframe healthy empathy in me—caring for animals is safe.

This morning’s teaching is so helpful, DoctorRamani 🙏🏼💞

[Deepintent]

Empathy, once used softly to reveal truth, becomes tempered and sharp from cutting through all the bs.

[KalamityKims]

I clicked on this video so fast after reading the title!

[debmanrique]

I think hypervigilent people can be self absorbed and lack empathy. But this video has helped me to realize that my being "hypersensitive" since childhood is probably more being hypervigilant- the need to read people as soon as possible in order to protect myself.

[BirdShutterbug]

I definitely feel like I'm both. I've gotten to a point in my healing where my emotional radar doesn't ping as constantly and as loudly as it used to, though. And I'm grateful for that because it was so exhausting.

[erinward]

Thank you Dr. Ramani, for guiding me through and out of decades of pain, confusion, exploitation, heartache, and disappointment with my dignity still intact. To think of my empathy as a gift and not a weakness makes me feel so encouraged. Things are getting brighter.

[NarcSurvivor]

Hyper vigilance is constantly assessing threats around you, as a result of trauma. Hyper empathy is when you just want to show love and compassion and help other people. There is a big difference between the two. Narcissists tend to be hyper vigilant.

[SmittinKitten]

I am overly empathetic and hypervigilant and it is all starting to make more sense now. I grew up with a sadistic step mother, a father that catered to her every need, and a mother that had trouble regulating emotions. I am currently in a state of constant over awareness of others. I have now started slowing down and being in nature really helps.

[augusthavince]

A break for the nervous system sounds amazing!

[Aanframe]

Self doubt, excusing oneself several times for nothing, feeling not enough or "different" in the bad sense of the word are some of the multiple challenges one needs to deal. It's indeed a life project, above all, if one was born in a narcissistic family system.

[jjvid]

Yes, I sit here just as you describe - too empathic; as a survivor of narcissistic abuse: (a lifetime of anger turned inward from invalidation and being a human punching bag)+(a permanent state of hypervigilance)+(basic human needs unmet) = multiple sclerosis and a host of other health issues.

[marieborchardt]

This is me.
Thank you Dr. Ramini for letting me know I'm not alone and helping me feel accepted. ❤

[sourojeet]

Just wanna say, Dr. Ramani, you're doing God's work! Sending you my best wishes and love from Canada 🥰

[StephanieHinsdale]

I had not thought about my excessive concern for others as being some hypervigilance. So, trying to calm my nervous system is even more important than I had thought before watching this post.

[nolang]

Keep your circle small. Quality over quantity 😊

[dollyalexandratorres]

BEEN THERE, DONE THAT AND AT 65, GETTING MORE REVELATION AND HEALING.