My Parents Treat Me Like A Trash Can 🥺💔 Reddit Stories

[sandrasausville]

Call CPS on your parents. They don't need to have any children when they don't care about their Bio kids

[cherezabotterman]

Honestly the parents in this are just crappy in my opinion.
Any parent worth there salt would make time for all of there children.

[goreandhoodies]

Call CPS say they neglect you never spend time with you but always spend time with your adopted siblings

[thehiddensilentone]

The parents behavior makes no sense, they have their own biological child but they also chose to adopt ( which I'm happy they did btw, I'm adopted too). But for some reason, they treat their own child like he's invisible or barely exist, and they put all their focus and attention on the adopted children. I'm glad they are helping and supporting the adopted kids, but it makes no sense to forget your own child. As I mentioned before I am too adopted, and the family that adopted me and my siblings also had their own child. However, my adopted parents not once treated their own child any different from me and my siblings, we were all treated equally so why can't these people do the same.

[janewasson]

Get along the best you can. I know it's lonely and hurtful. Stop asking and begging. They'll never care. At 18, move out, get educated, or get a job, and block them. Been there. Good luck.

[AuntLoopy]

It is IMPORTANT for parents to spend one-on-one time with EACH of their children.

When I was a kid, we had a schedule, and every single one of us (only four kids, but still more than most) got one-on-one time scheduled with Mom and one-on-one time scheduled with Dad. It may be time spent working on a service project for someone else, or maybe we'd be helping Dad fix something around the house, but it was OUR time. And yeah, sometimes, it was just fun time. The important thing was that it was OUR TIME together, where we got to just talk with our parent, alone, and have their focus. Sure, there was usually some sort of job involved, as well. We learned to talk and work at the same time, and learned the value of work. We also learned that sometimes, you put the tool down, and look in the other person's eyes, and LISTEN. Guess what? It MEANS MORE if you were holding something to put down, in teh first place, than if you just sat there for 30 minutes, with nothing to do but chat. The very act of interrupting the work to pay COMPLETE attention, after proving that you can multi-task really hammered home the message that we were #1 priority in that moment. It was glorious.

The thing is, as a busy family, we only scheduled one=on-one time with each parent once per month. But that was 8 scheduled events of some sort, during the month, and it happened EVERY MONTH. Each of us could count on it.

My parents had favorites, but they never PLAYED favorites. They did everything they could to make sure we all felt that we were treated equally. Not the same, but equal value. For example, Christmas budgets were divided up with an equal dollar amount for each person. Some people got one big gift, and others got several small ones, because they added up to the same amount. We knew it was fair, because we could do the math. And Santa filled everyone's stocking with the same little goodies. Snacks in the sock (all the same) and presents from the folks (different, but added up to the same amount).

We all had our birthdays be special for us. That was just a given. It might not be ON your birthday, but you'd have a day special for YOU.

They made sure of it.

The parents in this story seem to be going out of their way to prioritize tehir adopted children, because they need love, as if their bio-child does not??? THEY ALL NEED LOVE, and they all deserve love. Equally!

You're allowed to HAVE a favorite, but not allowed to show favoritism, treating one or some better than the others. OR treating one or some worse than the others. You treat them all as close to equally as you can.

[hotbread]

"why not put me up for adoption, it's obvious I'm not wanted here"

[jayking]

Five years ago, my parents adopted two of my siblings. I'll call them Cassandra (17F) and Layla (15F). Two years ago, Luku (2M) (their biological younger brother, absolute light of my life, best boy) was born and surrendered, so he was placed with us too.

Since they were adopted as preteens, a major priority for my parents was bonding with them two-on-three. And they go to a lot of bonding things. They’re constantly bouncing between adoption therapy, family therapy (which feels weird because I’m also part of the family? I’m only included once in a while, usually to be told I need to talk less and be more mindful.), and every single bonding thing they can find. They also take them out after individual therapy, which is one of those things I 100% support and would never admit to being jealous of IRL but… god I’m jealous of it.

Sometimes circumstances demand that I’m there - and I moved my schedule slightly to make this happen more often - and at first they let me hang to the side, but then they asked that I step back so I’m not engaging with whatever it is they’re doing with my sisters because the bonding activities are supposed to be for them.

I know it’s not the same, but I had six bouts over the summer and it was a miracle that they attended two. Which did not include the last bout or the ‘Family Day’ bout. (Okay, bout has stopped sounding like a word.) At least come for the catharsis of seeing me get whacked with a sword!

Last night, I told my parents that I wanted them to do things with me, alone. That they were wildly favoring my siblings over me, and I wanted to have dinner on my birthday with only them. They didn’t take it well, and threatened to send me to therapy. We ate in silence for a few minutes.

I tried to tell them I won the season-long bracket yesterday, and they emphasized how much that was not a time to be bragging, or talking about myself, or generally doing anything except apologizing. They said my siblings are traumatized and in need of more support, and that I shouldn’t take it out on them. They also accused me of believing my siblings aren’t ‘real’ just because I wanted to have some time with my parents where it wasn’t constantly about my siblings.

After dinner, Layla said she thought it was a good idea, and suggested another option of going out as a family but centering it on me, basically paying more attention to me in particular. That sounds incredibly embarrassing but in a really nice way - I’d love that, especially since I want to hang out with my sisters more anyway.

Cassandra, however… really didn’t like it. She pulled me aside and said that I had always been a spoiled asshole, but that this was like a healthy man demanding stitches from a poorly stocked first aid kit because everyone else had them and he wanted to feel special. She said I should take a step back and really look at what I’ve done and who I’ve done it to.

So that’s why I’m here, because I’m split between wanting to run away so my family doesn’t have to deal with me and sinking into the comfort of self-pity.

If there’s any more details I should add, please let me know! Off the bat: I love my siblings, including Cassandra. She’s kind of mean but that’s what big sisters are like. This is my first time stating how I felt - usually I just sulk or force a smile.

[bambiquinton]

You need to call CPS on your parents, maybe they'll be set straight!

[animegumdrop]

Bruh... If they are putting so much attention into their adopted kids and just leaving their bio kids on the side so much that one of the kids have to ask about making a day for the bio kid about the bio kid.. Because what OP parents are doing fall in the like of Cinderella effect and favoritism..

[ghbgrhrh]

CPS is a couple of numbers away to get you some attention from your parents

[boelwerkr]

The parents divided the kids in "normal" and "needs help" forgetting that their biological kid needs as much attention as the adopted ones. It's an easy trap to fall into without malicious intend. The adopted children have problems and need attention. Their bio child seems okay and isn't disturbed beyond "what is expected". And that becomes the new normal. Then the kid wants more attention than "normal" and suddenly the kid is the problem. It's jealous, it's inconsiderate, it's just antisocial. And the parents don't have the emotional reserves to associate with the child.
I don't say this is right, and it needs intervention, but i don't see any evil intend, just clueless parents that got lost.

[GirlWthGlasses]

It's not that bad to be ignored by the parentals mine don't talk to me unless they want something or need to talk to me and it's been like this since I was little.

Tho our situations are different since you love your parents where I have hated mine since forever ago so I can honestly say I wouldn't notice if my parents left my life since I don't actually need them for anything. 😊

If you want a better relationship with your parents then mate you are going to need a therapist and a few family sessions and have a safe place where you can speak without being insulted or gas lit so you can stand up for yourself unless you want to end up with no family at all.

Up to you....

[JustinKinney-tk]

Dawg I'm the eldest of two and my parents never showed up to shit until I graduated airborne school. Then they showed up fucking late

[Jenna-qe]

some ppl prefer winning over someone elses kids rather than their own.

[vanessaferey]

how can a " i want a special time with my parents" turn in " stop demanding you need therapy" ?
Like this is ok to adopted children and wanted they feel loved and welcoming but not at your own child need
Accept the therapy tell the therapist how your parents behaviours affect you and tell them they also need to see a therapist !!

[BeverlyNaquin]

I’d say when you’re able get out of the house and go no contact and tell them to stay away from you . When they get elderly and want help just say sorry too busy with my real family

[valiantsfelinesmccarty]

As an adopted child they sound creepy. I don't trust that kind of parent. That sister throwing a fit manipulating your parents. They're allowing it they want it something wrong here I would really be watching Where do they spend the nights Where do those kids spend the nights how many of the kids spend time alone with them yeah This is creepy. You don't owe them anything there's something wrong here Believe me I know. On average most parents will treat the adopted children well very well but will not overboard They will treat their biological children just as good if not better That's what happened with us but the thing is they will not ignore their biochild because they know their biochild will feel ignored with all the new children coming in.

Instead you become the important adhesive glue. So something is totally wrong here. These people are way off balance and how come the therapists haven't figured this out? Something wrong in this whole family dynamic and Luke your friend knows it..

You'll be growing and gone and then they'll wonder why you don't visit Why you feel the way you do well they've made it very clear for some reason they have a very weird feeling about you which makes me wonder are you really their kid?

[_The_SCP_Foundation_]

Hey, call CPS and then just leave. It’s not worth fighting over anymore

[StevenHix-wyqp]

Charity & Good Works begin at home.