How to Build Resilience: Quarters of Encouragement

The secret to success, especially for those of us with ADHD, seems to be resilience. It doesn't matter how many times we fail, as long as we get back up. There are lots of ways to build resilience, but encouragement is one of the easiest and most powerful. Whether you or your ADHDer are struggling with grade school, friends, relationships, college or career, here are some ways to use "quarters" of encouragement to build the resilience necessary to keep bouncing back.

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"The Show Must Be Go”, "Anguish"
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[Sara-vnkz]

Note to self: give my students more quarters. Pay extra attention to the students who blend into the background sometimes. Thanks, Jen!

[alicat]

This video made me cry... I almost quit my job today because I felt like such a failure... i went outside and cried for 20 minutes. You are helping me not be alone. Nobody ever seems to want to help me and they get mad when I ask questions. But if I don't ask, they yell at me for not asking questions.

[anniej]

2:54 One time this school year, my English class was reading "The Help" and I was behind because I forgot to read it. The class was on chapter 3 or 4, and I was still on chapter 1. My teacher told me that I needed to get caught up have the 2nd chapter read by Wednesday. This was Monday. When she walked away, I said to myself that not only was I going to get caught up, but I was going to have the whole book read by Friday. This book is 522 pages long. I was on page 18.






I finished the book on Friday at 1:00 a.m.

[alienunicorniosardina]

Have you noticed that ADHD affected people are usually AWSOME at creating original and powerful metaphors? #ProudToHaveADHD

[heraldtim]

"No matter who you are, you are important." I cried a little at receiving this quarter. Thank you.

[mads]

honestly one of the things that keep me going is you. I found your channel a few months ago and it's so helpful. thank you for this

[jasonsteele]

"Even if that critic...is you." I can't lie - I cried. That critic is almost always me. Thanks as always for these videos!

[lillianhittig]

I was talking with one of my professors (who has her PhD and specializes in ADHD) and one thing she mentioned I thought that could be an interesting episode is ADHD and weight. Those with ADHD tend to have issues with loosing weight and tend to gain weight because of poor impulse control.

[brianchurchill]

my favorite teacher once told me that i couldn't do something. after that moment i didn't stop trying to prove him wrong until i succeed. it turned out that he led me to one of my favorite hyper focus areas. when i told him that i proved him wrong he said 'no you didn't. I knew that you could do that from the beginning. That;s how we win in life, by overcoming others doubt and discourage." he really helped me through some hard days. Thank you for everything you did for me Mr. Scism. I am truly grateful to have you in my life.

[matthewbaxter]

Instructions unclear: Forgot life isn't video game, Ate a quarter.
Next time I'll put it in a jar!.. Just not the same quarter

[theballadofkobirae]

im from zimbabwe and its really tough because of corpral punishment i hate school and i thought of suicide before thank you God bless you

[ashelinall]

Jessica, I’ve just been introduced to your channel! A nurse on LinkedIn posted about her struggles with ADHD and posted your Tedx talk. As I watched I thought this is my life!!! Could this be true?!?! I have felt so alone and that the problem was me not seeing what everyone else sees. I kept wishing I could spend a day outside of my body to see what I was doing wrong. I’ve been diagnosed for 8 years and on stimulants. I have spent so much time, money, and energy on self help with little progress. I’m at one of my really low points and it has felt like I can’t do anything right no matter how hard I try. I’m crying as I write this because you finally added the missing piece. The ability to do the extra work and relate it in a way that I understand is so awesome and a gift from God. Thank you! Thank you! Thank you!

[sydneygorelick]

I legit started crying at "even if you think you'll never change the world, you probably already have." 3:33 Thank you so much for that, that was definitely a magic quarter <3

[princessaz]

You gave me the courage to make an appointment to get meds. I thought I had to figure out how to manage life without meds. I still have anxiety going but at least I'm going. I feel like there's someone else in this world that understands me.

[marianielsen]

I'm so happy I found this!!! Your videos are such a sense of relief!!! It's so nice to see ADHD addressed with optimism and encouragement. I feel like too often ADHD related things always leave me feeling even more hopeless than before, but this channel is different. It's the first of its kind that I've found. Thank you for these these videos!

[juliavunkannon]

"Even if you think you'll never change the world, you probably already have". Thank you very much for this quote

[RainbowPandaProducti]

I think a lot of why I’m afraid to do things is because I was never told that corrections are just guidance, not necessarily an attack on me and so as a kid to avoid getting corrected I would just not do something or do it at the bare minimum. This obviously gave me massive anxiety, chronic perfectionism and an aptitude for procrastination. I’m just now learning as an adult to take things in stride and not be afraid of failure. I didn’t get many quarters as a kid, instead my mom always told me what was wrong with what I was doing rather than what I was doing well- I got most of my quarters from school but when school got hard I got less quarters and fell into a hole I’m still climbing out of at age 20. It’s hard but I’m doing it.

[isabelled.]

A "quarter" for you- this as well as your other videos has been exactly what I needed to hear recently. I've been struggling a lot lately in my responsibilities as an au pair/nanny. You've made me feel so much better and know that I'm not alone. I love this community so much!

[sarahackermann]

One of my favorite teachers ever once told me that he loved the fact that my vocabulary made him have to consult a dictionary every day, so I made sure he kept learning, too.

I really appreciated that because I was the weird kid with a strange obsession with etymology at the time. Someone sincerely appreciating a part of me that made most people scoff and belittle me was important in a way I can't word. I made mistakes often in his class... But I never questioned whether I belonged there.

[joeydesilets]

This video is already four years old, but I just found this and needed to hear this today. Thank you for all the hard work you've put into this.