TIPS FOR MARRIAGE Part 1

Translation

Assalam o alaikum

Today I’ll tell you about my personal experience about how to choose your daughter in law and I’ll let you know about 5 things which everyone should look for when choosing someone to be their daughter in law.
As per my experience when I was looking for my daughter in laws I wasn’t that much experienced and it’s normal because marriage is a big decision and it has a big impact over whole life so everyone should be careful about it. As I told you I wasn’t that much experienced but alhamdulillah my decisions were successful and everything is fine so I want to share the experience with you guys so that you might get some help and it becomes easy for you to decide.
According to our elders, one should always look that how’s the relation of a girls with her mother’s family (nanhyal) and father’s family (dadhyal). Obviously in majority of cases the girl have good relation with mother’s family. It’s mostly father’s family with which in most cases the girl doesn’t have good relation. So one should look for this and the purpose of it is to look the environment in which the girl is brought up. If she has been brought up in nanhyaal or dadhyaal and the environment there’s toxic then there is greater chance that she might have toxic habbits because she will show the things which she has learned during her brought up.
The next thing is to do some inquiry from her closed one which is in closed relation with her and her family because he or she will be the right person who can give you the right advice about her.

And don’t decide the proposal just based on beauty because bro only beautiful without good habbits and ikhlaaq mean there’s nothing good. If a girl is beautiful but she has very bad ikhlaaq then of what benefits her beauty is to you. Same is the case with money. Don’t look for girl belonging to rich family it’s not a bad thing if someone look for it but don’t compromise on the first two points.

Next important thing girl you want to be your daughter in law shouldn’t be number one in financial status but your son should be. Because According to Quran “ men are the caretakers of women “ and it’s the men who should financially support their women. And there’s a practical logic too because it leads to so many issues in the family in future if girl brought up isn’t ideal.
Apart from that, if there is any issue, that should be addressed from the very Beginning for example my mother was a stroke patient so we discussed these things from the very start that daughter in law should take care of her etc.

If we keep these points in mind during the time we’re looking for a daughter in law we’ll never regret after marriage and it will be easy to have a good and happy life ahead. I hope you’ve got help from today’s video

Thanks

[NaheedNoor]

Translation in English of video is in description.

[creativationscreativations]

Jitni merzi chan been krye jeb tek ap aik dosry k sath jur ne jatyap prkh ne sekty chaye apni family ho ya gharoo me bus achi qismet mamgye allah se

[Zouja_asad]

Jb tk ek insan apke ghr akar apke sath rehne na lag jae apko uska kuch bhi nai pta chalta zara bhi bht fake log hain humare ird gird wo to apna nakab bd mai utarte hain ap jitne bhi hoshiyar bnjae ye bs naseeb ki baten hoti hain kon apko mil jae isiliye apne naseeb k liye Apne bachon k or apne pyaron k naseeb k liye dua krna chaheye

[saadiaimran]

My grandma used to say that in older days people used to judge the marriage proposals by inquiring their attitudes to their servants & neighbors.

[NabilaNighat-bssv]

اللہ سے بیٹی اور اور بیٹے دونوں کے نصیب کی دعا مانگے۔ اللہ پاک ہماری بیٹی کے لئے بھی بہترین لوگوں کا انتخاب فرمائے آمین ثم آمین

[voiceofQuran]

اللّٰہ پاک سب کی بیٹیوں اور بیٹوں کے نصیب اچھے کرے آمین ثم آمین یارب العالمین ❤❤

[AliaShafiq-xr]

اللہ سب کی بیٹیوں کے نصیب اچھے کرے سمیت میری بیٹی کے آمین

[Ahmed-gfz]

Every body running behind beauty degree and high status... achhay log milna bohat mushkil ho gya hy.. Allah sub k bachon k naseeb achhay kary.Allah hamari beti k liye B Naik logon ly Kar jaye

[kulsoomakhtar]

دین دار لوگ ھونے چاھئے باقی اللہ تعالٰی سب رشتے سنبھالنے کا خود ھی طریقہ اجاتا ھے

[QuranWithNaheedNoor]

شعور کا پہلا درجہ:
خاموش رہنے کی عادت اپنانا۔۔۔

شعور کا دوسرا درجہ:
بدتمیزی پر جواب نہ دینا۔۔۔

شعور کا تیسرا درجہ:
بداخلاقی کا جواب اخلاق سے دینا ہوتا ہے۔۔۔

جو لوگ آپ کو تکلیف دیتے ہیں،
سمجھیے کہ ان کی مثال تنگ جوتے کی مانند ہے جو آپ کے سائز کے نہیں ہیں۔

خوش رہیں اور خوشیاں بانٹیں، کیونکہ زندگی بہت خوبصورت ہے۔

[BeautyCanvas]

ap bilkul thk kh rhi hein baat sari respect ki hy. asal mein larky waly respect ki definition sirf "rasmon" ko samajhty hein ky agr boht sara jaheez dy dia or boht sari rasmein pori kr di, susral walon ko or un ky rishty daron ko gifts dy diye, saas or nandoon ko gold dy dia, un ki nazar mein yehi respect hy. asal respect to aek dosry ka kisi bahir waly ky samny bharam rakhna hy ku ky opr nechy kuch na kuch dono trf sy hi hota hy lekin jis ny issue bnana hy us ny 10 masaly or lga kr issue bna lena hy or jis ny bharam rakhna hy us ny bhari pehfil mein bhi koi nuks nahi nikalna hy. The thing is aj bhi "saas" apna generational trauma apni bahu mein transfer krti hy, jdsy us ny suffer kia hota hy vo apni bahu ky sath bhi wesy hi krti hy. or vo ishi deniel mein rhti mein mein boht achi hon meri bahu hi is qabil nahi ky is ki koi tareef ki jaey. respect leny sy pehly respect dena zarori hota hy. har kisi ki respect ki definition different hoti hy. kuch ko sirf ahsas chahiye hota or kuch ko sirf cheezein. aesa nahi hy ky vo log afford nahi kr skty hoty is liy cheezein mnagty hein bs aesy hi agly ko tng krny ky liy or apni bat mnwany ky liy ye sb krty hein. larky ky sath sath us ki sisters or ammi ko bhi dekhna zarori hota hy ky vo sb kesy hein. ku ky boht dfa larka boht acha hota hy lekin us ky ghr waly us ka ghr basny hi nahi dety ku ky vo ghr ka first child hota hy or ushi ny ghr chlana hota hy.

[aliyahasan-pblo]

Please look at the following points.
1. First look in your own family.
2. Do not look for beauty.
3. Do not look for wealth.
4. Look for good family
5.look for god fearing people.
6. Do not look for status.
7. Look for educated family.
8. Again do not look for wealth or status or beauty.

[minashahnawaz]

Please sister pray for my son very difficult situation right now. I agree your point.

[samiagillani]

Jitne bhi points aap ne bataye sab generally ache hain lekin sari baat qismat pe khatam ho jati ha Allah se dua kerni chahiye k Allah Ta'ala shadi ko kamyab kare baqi sab dil behlane ki batein hain

[Ahmed-gfz]

Asalmalikum...G sister I have a decent girl but every body no need to humanity all proposals reject bcz we are middle class and my daughter someone financial reasons not continue her study but everyone wants beauty degree fair completion... people play with the name of rishta
Many people hurt us but Allah is well planner..pray for my dougter she is very humble.patience girl

[URMOM-cb]

Hazrat Khadija RA bhi bohat kamiyab business woman thi, Hazoor Pak SAW ki unho ne madad ki.

[Sib_]

Nice yep
اچھے اخلاق پیار نرم دل اور احساس کرنے والی بہو کو خوبصورت اور اپنے آپ میں گم بہو پر ترجیح دینا چاہئے
نیک ساتھی کا ترازو کر خوبی پر حاوی ہے
خوبصورتی ڈھل جاتی یے، مال ختم ہو جاتا ہے، پتلی موٹی ہو جاتی ہیں، عادتیں، خوش اخلاقی، رحم دل اور نیکیاں دائمی ہیں اور ہمیشہ خوشی اور ساری عمر دیر پا ساتھ دیتی ہیں ۔ یہی دیکھنا چاہئے
اگر خوبصورتی اور خوب سیرت دونوں مل جائیں تو یہ سونے پر سہاگہ ہے۔ یہ حقیقی نعمت اور جنت ہے اس جہاں اور آخرت میں بھی

[hirratariq]

Apko dekh kr bht apnaiyat mehsoos hoti hai bht maa type wali feeling ati hai ❤❤❤ Allah Pak apko apne bachon k sar pe taa dair salamat rakhen aameen

[zingerburger]

غیر لوگوں میں رشتہ کرنا ہو تو ان کی ڈیپلی انفارمیشن نہیں لی جا سکتی بہت ساری چیزیں چھپائی جاتی ہیں جن کا معلوم کرنا بہت مشکل ہوتا ہے😮🤔

[The-Holy-Quran-TV]

یا اللہ ہم سب کو مکہ مکرمہ کی زیارت نصیب فرما۔ ❤❤❤