The Power of No: How to Hold Healthy Boundaries

Feeling frustrated? Try the 4-step YEAH! guide to help you navigate conflict with ANYONE (even family!) No violence required. 🙏
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Do you ever feel like everyone around you is pushing your buttons? We all deal with frustrating people, from bullies and bosses to family members who get under our skin.

Through this video, I wanted to share with you a 4-step guide that I believe can help you navigate those tricky situations. Learn the power of yielding and de-escalation, discover how to express your feelings and needs clearly using the YEAH acronym (explained in the video!), and find out when to ask for help from trusted friends or even a mediator. The goal? To find peace and avoid resorting to violence. Let's face it, sometimes we all want to blow our top, but there's a better way.

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[_Tarot]

Not caring what other ppl think =actual boundaries 🌹

[StrawberryTofu]

Literally just using "I feel such and such way" instead of saying "you've done this" or "you've made me feel" has been the most useful piece of non violent communication in my personal life. Always and forever great advice from George!

[Incantationem]

As far as you're able, don't be in situations of power imbalance, because that's where people's dark and immature sides come up, even if those same people seem okay otherwise. Be yourself, speak your mind, be alert, have your own space, and don't fall for tricks. With some folks, it may be necessary to keep written conversation only, so they can't manipulate and avoid accountability.

[ergovivamus]

'Accept the Feeling, Chose the Action' (mostly do the opposite of what your mind is instructing you to do)

[yourportlandlifestyle]

slowing the breath down works really well. Breath rate impacts emotions

[nickochioneantony]

Seems simple, but these tips are most helpful to explore...

I personally have to deal with a narcissistic father who is borderline abusive.

At one time, he offered me to kill him in an argument just because I complained about a misplaced key that he used carelessly. And just recently threaten to kill me because I interfered him when he argued with my mother.

I sensed something was off with his emphathy and mental state when I was 10yo, and now I am 27yo, still living with him, by no means he has the will to even 'kill' anyone. (at least, even if that was disturbing to hear)

I never resort to violence with my family, and at the very least try to solve it with communication. But in these past years, I really can't help with my father narcissistic side, every conversation turned into scapegoating, every problem will never be solved because somehow he will relate any problem to my past to point out my flaws.

In the end (now), I guess I understand this concept of 'yield', I am not avoiding any contact with my father, but try my best to not engage with anything that has to do with him.

It feels awful, because letting go in the context of Family is very complicated, unless by completely cutting ties, which is very uncommon in my Asian culture. (unless a serious crime is involved)

[TheTenof]

THANK YOU, George. Now seemingly more than ever in or lifetime, reminders like these are paramount for sanity & society x

[friedvoll_Sein]

Yeah! 🙂 Thank you! Have been bullied too at school and it was hard to overcome it, but I grew stronger inside from this experience.

[ChasingBarrels]

Great advice George. Bags of wisdom here. Big fan of non violent communication.

[MrBboyle]

Sometimes you just need to remove them from your life

[Mgh-r]

Hi dear Georgey ❤❤❤❤❤❤ how are you ❤❤❤❤❤❤ thank so much ❤❤❤❤❤

[PeachesCourage]

I am the eldest of 6 children and have Nieces and Nephews and my Son who taught me usually at the age of 2-4 what life is*
They don't pit themselves against one another to Win something and shame on you if you don't They ask you who you are?
They pierce your very soul when you are running away from yourself into the horse race and shame of not getting there* I've said to myself "Oh dear God and cry remembering them Not because they were an ideal but because they knew how to live Not pitted to succeed against one another just playing and learning about life When you win in this life you lose you know the Tao has a deep soul Many thanks for being with us great!

[jameslucop]

This really reminds me to yield and conserve my energy. I am the willow tree, not the oak ❤

[OneaeMighty]

Had ton of bully type boy in my life never learned how to be functional efficient supportive grown ass men just sad pathetic behavior rooted in inexperience scared confused when dumb angry men only want to bring tear down people around them to feel better about themselves except that is terrible competition makes no sense in the realm of survival if the fittest to start fight stress against people, truly art of peace gentle words team loving kindness is simple joyful magical.

[TheGIGACapitalist]

Wasn't there supposed to be a link to the NVC book in the description? I can't find one

[bkbroiler]

First realize that the anger and frustration you feel is comming from inside you.