How To Know When To Breakup

[Adrian]

Finally! Someone who holds bad people accountable regardless of whether they are diagnosed with an illness. Diagnoses are not excuses for bad behavior and it’s great to finally see someone point that out.

[Reechi]

People use diagnoses as excuses but they’re not. They are just explanations to why behavior occurs. It does not excuse said behavior.

[jonesaleroy]

Exactly. Only surround yourself with people that lift you up!

[GamerSyke]

I agree. Leave if they’re not doing anything to try and better themselves.

[andrewlanford]

It gets even messier when you end up having kids with an abusive narcissist.

[Ligma_Haynus]

I was the person who said they would stop, I'm glad the person I was with left when she did. It made us both be able to grow and change ourselves for the better. She even stuck around to make sure I became a better person.

[doublevisionmedialiaisons]

100% agree, although it can also take years to recover from said abuse - it’s healthier to be out of it than in the abusive relationship.

[Elioptypskiendertheyreposther]

Sometimes leaving toxic relationships aren't that easy. It depends on how powerful the abuser is. They can take you to court because they may have lots of connections.

Edit: did not mean to start a comment war...

[kristinabacon]

This really hit a chord with you. Tell us how you really feel. ❤

[mccabestevenson]

this is great advice. I tried to ignore it but I have trauma from my narcissistic ex. (she gaslit me and then after she dumped me, she spread rumors about me and cyber stalked me.)

[GabrielleSelf]

Once a trauma bond is formed it is very difficult to leave.
I was stuck in a trauma bond with a narcissist for 9 years.
Leaving isn't easy, but you'll feel so much better once you leave.

[MajorHenryL.]

This is 100% true. I have BPD and cannot break the cycle despite therapy and positive thinking.

Get out when the person breaks a promise twice within a 2 month period (if its something minor) and twice within a year (if its something major).

[the_meccaneer]

Yup. I promise there are better people out there.

[real_live_gem_stones]

Exactly It broke my heart and I still think of my brother a lot but I had to cut him off

[adumbweeb]

The person who was abusive towards me didn't even want to admit that she was and when I called her out on it she called me abusive

[JTo]

When someone shows you who they are believe them - Maya Angelou

[kaybee]

😢you don't have to promise anything....I am out regardless

[juliesayers]

I enjoy reaction videos. Let people say it's soooo 2020, I still like them

[cyberyousef]

So are you implying that these people are destined to stay cruel, and can never change, and should be hated and stayed away from because of something that they can’t control

[levelart]

My brother has just finally divorced his wife of 8 years, who has lied to him, cheated on him, hit him, yelled at him and their children, and manipulated and adjusted all of them consistently for years.